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Old 04-13-2019, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Originally Posted by MissmamaAnnie View Post
I was caught off gourd so I said excuse me, don't call me fat. And later on, I told her that next time I will go to HR. that's when she started backtracking and said that I look good. The extra pounds suits me. And I saw her yesterday for the first time since that incident and she was like, You look good today
She doesnít sound so smart. Canít get it through her thick skull to just keep her trap shut.
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Old 04-13-2019, 11:14 AM
 
Location: San Francisco
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She doesn’t sound so smart. Can’t get it through her thick skull to just keep her trap shut.
That’s an angry and aggressive way of trying to make a point in a thread pertaining to unnecessary rude comments!
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Old 04-13-2019, 01:06 PM
 
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One of my co workers said I'm getting fat and she was like look at your behind..referring to my butt since I'm pear shaped and bottom heavy. I'm 5'3 and about 136 lbs. Used to be lighter but gained few pounds

Ofcourse I was offended by it. when she asked me for something I said no, you called me fat. Then she was like oh you look good. The extra pounds suits you. You're not fat.I will let it go for now but she makes those remarks again I will report her

Would they overlook this ? Comments like this are hurtful and my clothes already tells me I'm gaining weight and don't need her to point it out. Should I report her?
State your boundries right then and there with a calm, controlled tone of voice with that person and then dismiss them as if they are a child.
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Old 04-13-2019, 03:00 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I was caught off gourd so I said excuse me, don't call me fat. And later on, I told her that next time I will go to HR. that's when she started backtracking and said that I look good. The extra pounds suits me. And I saw her yesterday for the first time since that incident and she was like, You look good today
I see, thanks for answering. I never knew of anyone personally to be that bold in the workplace. What kind of work do you do? Office, etc.?
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Old 04-13-2019, 05:46 PM
 
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I see, thanks for answering. I never knew of anyone personally to be that bold in the workplace. What kind of work do you do? Office, etc.?
I work in Nursing home and it's quite rampart in my workplace where some people think it's socially acceptable. I've heard it countless times of co workers commenting on other co workers weight. And it's always black women that does this. Not trying to bring up the race card but that's what I noticed. And some even say it's acceptable in their culture
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Old 04-13-2019, 07:40 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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^ I see. Well, no matter what they say about it being "culturally/socially acceptable" to call others fat, please don't assume that ALL black women are fine w/ it. As many of us know, it's extremely, extremely hard to say the words, "all, only, one" about ANYTHING.
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Old 04-14-2019, 08:12 AM
 
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OP: when someone insults you, just reply with, "Do you feel better now?"
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Old 04-14-2019, 09:44 AM
 
Location: East of the Sun, West of the Moon
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I'm assuming you're a guy. In that case, I will stop wasting my energy trying to explain things to you.
Did you just shame him for being a man?
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Old 04-14-2019, 09:58 AM
 
Location: Chandler, AZ
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I was caught off gourd so I said excuse me, don't call me fat. And later on, I told her that next time I will go to HR. that's when she started backtracking and said that I look good. The extra pounds suits me. And I saw her yesterday for the first time since that incident and she was like, You look good today
Why are you spending so much time and energy worrying about what someone else says or thinks? Precisely what relevance does their opinion have in your life? If I were you, I'd be looking into why I was giving someone else so much space in my head. That's likely to be a far more productive path than trying to get them to change, and then worrying that they're only faking change, or are "changing" sarcastically.
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Old 04-14-2019, 11:18 AM
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Location: Texas
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Workplace harassment.
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