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Old 04-08-2019, 06:59 AM
 
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Some people just don't want to hear what they don't want to hear. Most people just want to hear sweet comments no matter what. No offence.

From my own experience: Eat less. Exercise more. Problem solved for me.
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Old 04-08-2019, 07:18 AM
 
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Ughh...weather I lose or gain weight. it's none of anyone's business. Weather I decided to do something about it, is up to me and my business. unless you're my doctor, or some extremely close to me then I don't need you pint it out and embarrass me. worry about your own weight. Not to meantion, the said co worker is isn't slim herself. It's always overweight people that feel like they have the right to comment on others weight. like why don't get your ass into the gym and work on your weight before worrying about others
This is the answer to your own question, dear.

Sometimes, you have to teach people how to treat you. A delivery, similar to this, at the time of the offense would have served you well.

You're the one holding the power in this personal matter, not your boss.
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Old 04-08-2019, 07:22 AM
 
Location: San Diego
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Simple response


I can lose weight, you can't lose stupid.
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Old 04-08-2019, 07:44 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Ignore it and move on. Choose to not be offended.
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Old 04-08-2019, 07:45 AM
 
Location: Long Island
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Wonder if all the people on the forum who act like the OP should be thanking the coworker for pointing out her weight gain routinely go around telling people they're fat. Must make for an interesting life.

If people would THINK before they speak (is your comment:
True
Helpful
Inspiring
Necessary
Kind)

wouldn't we all be happier?
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Old 04-08-2019, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Dude...., I'm right here
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Some people can't handle the truth.
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Old 04-08-2019, 08:14 AM
 
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Report her to whom and for what?
For singing " Oh my gosh, look at her behind"
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Old 04-08-2019, 08:24 AM
 
Location: San Francisco
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It's a bit early to report something like this. As another poster mentioned, the OP needs to tell her coworker what she told us:

"Comments like this are hurtful and my clothes already tells me I'm gaining weight and don't need her to point it out."

If that doesn't work, then it may be time to escalate. But try to work it out first.
And how would you recommend ‘escalating’ a situation involving a rude comment from one co-worker to another? (And report what, exactly?)

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Old 04-08-2019, 08:55 AM
 
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One of my co workers said I'm getting fat and she was like look at your behind..referring to my butt since I'm pear shaped and bottom heavy. I'm 5'3 and about 136 lbs. Used to be lighter but gained few pounds

Ofcourse I was offended by it. when she asked me for something I said no, you called me fat. Then she was like oh you look good. The extra pounds suits you. You're not fat.I will let it go for now but she makes those remarks again I will report her

Would they overlook this ? Comments like this are hurtful and my clothes already tells me I'm gaining weight and don't need her to point it out. Should I report her?
Your co-worker's an idiot. Mature and intelligent people know better than to insult their colleagues.

I would avoid interacting with her; be polite but cold and don't engage in idle conversation.

But, you might let her know politely but firmly that you prefer not to hear comments about your physique. I would make a note of the time and date of the first interaction, and keep a running record of future such occurrences. Be prepared to share with your supervisor, if she causes you trouble.
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Old 04-08-2019, 09:25 AM
 
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I wonder what the comments would be on this thread if the co-worker criticized her race/ethnicity. Why does fat shaming get a free pass?
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