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Old 04-11-2019, 06:02 AM
 
Location: St Louis MO area
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I wonder if we had the same friend. We had this guy meet us for lunch, and he was always 45 minutes late. He would walk in like it was nothing. So we asked him next time what time he would like to meet. After the second time, we ordered and finished just as he was arriving 45 minutes late again. After that, we didn't invite him to lunch any longer.

I read an article someplace about this. It has something to do with people feeling like they want to control things. I guess being late is a part of trying to take control. But people like don't realize how damaging doing this type of behavior is to themselves too. When work came around we could have easily referred to this guy, we decided not to do it, because we didn't want issues with his chronic lateness to ruin our referral network.
It absolutely is a control tactic! I understand that some people have medical issues or small children and this throws off their schedule. And all of us have transportation issues once in a great while. But when someone is late to every single event, every single time, it clearly is a personal problem. I thing my dad would have divorced my mom over this issue if they weren't both tired and broke.
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Old 04-11-2019, 06:38 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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I had one friend that we always told a fake time to get them there at the real time. In other words, if they were always an hour late, we would tell them to be there at a time one hour earlier than the real time when everyone else would arrive. Eventually they caught on to us. Another friend, after forcing me to wait for her time and time again, I just started doing whatever without her and not waiting. If we said meet for lunch at 12:00, I would go ahead and order at 12:15 if she wasn't there, and she would arrive late and I'd be halfway through my meal. Eventually we had the "let's keep this real" talk where I told her that her constant lateness made me feel that she thought my time was worthless, and that I should operate on her loosy goosy schedule, and that she must be thinking if I was made to wait then so what, too bad for me. She was "shocked" she said that I took it that way. I told her EVERYONE takes it that way. EVERYONE feels put out and disrespected by her lateness. I guess that sunk in, because she's not chronically late anymore.

Now though, with everyone having a cell, it's harder for the late ones because we can call them repeatedly saying "WHERE R U???"
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Old 04-11-2019, 02:55 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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Seeing topics like this made reminded me why I retired at 35... I can not put up with someone telling me what to do with my time
What is the purpose of this statement? Bragging and boorishness?

If you retired at 35 you did so because you were financially able to, not because "can not put up..."

Also, this isn't "my time" this is mutually agreed to work schedule between employee and employer. Good on you if you don't have to but necessary for most.
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Old 04-12-2019, 07:42 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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What is the purpose of this statement? Bragging and boorishness?

If you retired at 35 you did so because you were financially able to, not because "can not put up..."

Also, this isn't "my time" this is mutually agreed to work schedule between employee and employer. Good on you if you don't have to but necessary for most.
Humblebrag at it's finest. Retiring at 35 isn't always a good thing either. Most people who tell me they retire at 35 live in their parents basements and got fired from their last job so they are retired now.
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Old 04-13-2019, 02:46 PM
 
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some people need that 10m beauty sleep
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Old 04-13-2019, 08:47 PM
 
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5 miles away.

15 minute commute.

And she is WHINING?

Such a ridiculous entitlement mentality.
My commute is 1hr & 45mins & im always on time. Itís not that difficult
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Old 04-14-2019, 09:27 AM
 
Location: Chandler, AZ
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She doesnít have to be there until 9 am and itís about 5 miles away. She is frequently 5 or 10 minutes late. Her boss asked her if she had a problem being on time. She said she is usually there by 9 or a little after but they want her at her desk by 9 and she said that is ridiculous.
Tell her to set her schedule like she's supposed to be there by 8:45

But I doubt it'll do any good. Anyone who thinks being on time is "ridiculous" isn't going to last long anywhere.
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Old 04-14-2019, 09:38 AM
 
Location: Chandler, AZ
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Vince Lombardi: "Team meeting tomorrow at 9 o'clock."


At 5 minutes before 9, he'd lock the door.
I remember going through testing for SDPD. At lunch, they told everyone to be back at 1PM. Most of us were there fifteen minutes before that. Those who came in over the next ten minutes got a glare. The folks who were running at the last minute were intercepted in the parking lot and told to go home.
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