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Old 04-09-2019, 06:50 PM
 
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I am not clear on whether you indicated on the posting of offer that you haven't given notice and it was confidential. If the former co-worker intentionally divulged this knowning you didn't give notice and would put you in a precarious situation, I would let him know I didn't appreciate it.

However, is it possible that it was assumed it was a done deal and perhaps the co-worker said something in passing to your boss like "I heard x is leaving." Sometimes even former co-workers stay in touch so perhaps it wasn't something intentional.

Your former manager has an self-interest in knowing you are leaving as soon as possible so he can make plans for a replacement and do whatever else in preparation for your leaving. So, no I don't fault the manager.
Who knows what the intentions of this former co-worker was. Maybe it was to intentionally screw over Dissenter, or maybe the former co-worker told the boss meaning to tell the boss that he sucks and there's another person leaving. At any rate, it was obviously a stupid thing to do, and sure I think Dissenter has a legitimate gripe.

Yes, I know that what we post online is never safe, but still.

I'm also assuming that this was more of a verbal offer and just waiting for the official letter to formally let the manager know?
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Old 04-09-2019, 07:06 PM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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Who knows what the intentions of this former co-worker was. Maybe it was to intentionally screw over Dissenter, or maybe the former co-worker told the boss meaning to tell the boss that he sucks and there's another person leaving. At any rate, it was obviously a stupid thing to do, and sure I think Dissenter has a legitimate gripe.

Yes, I know that what we post online is never safe, but still.

I'm also assuming that this was more of a verbal offer and just waiting for the official letter to formally let the manager know?
I had signed a paper offer letter but it was contigent on a background check and I also was waiting for another offer, which didnít work out. So that is why I didnít want to let management know until I dropped my two weeks.

After this, Iím NEVER befriending coworkers (former or current) on social media. Far as they are concerned, the Diss has no social media.
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Old 04-09-2019, 07:06 PM
 
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that former coworker is a leg humper.... no need to do that
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Old 04-09-2019, 08:03 PM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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I had signed a paper offer letter but it was contigent on a background check and I also was waiting for another offer, which didnít work out. So that is why I didnít want to let management know until I dropped my two weeks.

After this, Iím NEVER befriending coworkers (former or current) on social media. Far as they are concerned, the Diss has no social media.
That is a good rule of thumb! I had a crazy coworker that started posting things on my Facebook wall about our company. I deleted it and asked her what she was doing?! She was naive about how Facebook worked and didnít realize she was doing it. Needless to say that was my wake up call to never befriend coworkers.
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Old 04-09-2019, 08:53 PM
 
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Why did you post this on social media?

You are supposed to do a STEALTH JOB SEARCH. This means that you keep quiet. Don' talk about offers, don't talk about any job search stuff with people at work nor blab about it in public.

There is ZERO benefit to blabbing.

Loose lips sink ships - and job offers.

https://business.linkedin.com/talent...d-take-the-job
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Old 04-09-2019, 10:57 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Why did you post this on social media?

You are supposed to do a STEALTH JOB SEARCH. This means that you keep quiet. Don' talk about offers, don't talk about any job search stuff with people at work nor blab about it in public.

There is ZERO benefit to blabbing.

Loose lips sink ships - and job offers.

https://business.linkedin.com/talent...d-take-the-job
It's HUMAN. When I'm excited about something, I've blabbed something on Facebook I shouldn't have. I've vented personal drama on there when I shouldn't have.

Technically, you're right, but exercise a bit of mercy.
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Old 04-10-2019, 06:01 AM
 
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Honestly, you don't have grounds to be upset at your co-worker or management.

Putting something in writing under your real name is making it public knowledge. Take this as a lesson. Never post anything to social media that you wouldn't be comfortable with everyone knowing.

^^^^This. You screwed up, not your co worker.
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Old 04-10-2019, 06:03 AM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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Why would the friend share it knowing full well how much crap I’m in at work?
Maybe he thought you'd informed management? That it wasn't a secret still.

But I don't know him or his intentions. Maybe he is a jerk.
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Old 04-10-2019, 07:10 AM
 
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I have to agree with Lekrii. Treat social media as if it were a billboard in the middle of Times Square. But what's done is done and the only thing left to say to you is -- CONGRATULATIONS on your new position! In a few months you can post about how wonderful your new company and coworkers are!!
I would not post on the media about how wonderful or horrible my company and co-workers are. I've observed and seen that at the beginning someone thought his/her company and co-workers were wonderful; and later, suddenly everything turned 180 degrees.

I saw a few employees on Facebook were being friends with their manager, and talked about the manager liked their protector, their savour. Later, I saw their relationships at work were not so good. Didn't know what was going on. Same with co-workers with each other. One day they were such buddies to each other; the next day, they were rivals.

I don't post anything specific (pictures and names) about my workplace on Facebook, instagram… whatsoever.

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Old 04-10-2019, 07:24 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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This person probably assumed it was public knowledge since you posted it for the earth's 7.5 billion people to see.
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