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Old 05-13-2019, 09:37 AM
Location: Wisconsin
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Originally Posted by Vision67 View Post
I "demoted" myself when I came out of retirement the first time at 61.

My previous job had been a second level engineering management role. I did not want to do that again. I did not want to spend all my time doing stuff I had grown to hate such as meetings, expense reports, presentations, confronting poor performance and saying "no" to multiple requests to spend money. They asked me twice to return to that role and I refused.

Instead, I just wanted to do engineering. I'm a pig in mud. I'm responsible for just my own results. I couldn't be happier.

"To thine own self be true"
This. I was laid off at 54 years old. I was in a high level, high stress position. Since I worked at home I had to travel all the time, put together presentations, and answer email and phone calls constantly. I couldn't find a job for 15 months and took the position I have now out of pure desperation. I hated it at first, but after 2 years it's nice not having a company lap top and cell phone, and basically having no responsibility except for my daily duties. I leave at 4:30 every day and my day actually ends. It's less money but I'm good with that. The next time I get on a plane it's going to be for vacation.
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Old 05-14-2019, 02:51 PM
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OP, being demoted is like being fired. It's embarrassing to go lower. In fact, my child's school just announced that his principal was being demoted to a teacher. I've had conversations with the principal over the years and he's a great guy, so my first thought was, "Poor guy. That's so humiliating. He might as well retire (he's in his 50s)." It's tough going from a higher position to a lower position. How do you show your face at work?

So you can either quit the job before you are demoted or accept the lesser job and see how long you can stomach it emotionally. Good luck.
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Old 05-15-2019, 05:18 PM
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Originally Posted by tigergirl87 View Post
I have been with my company for several years and worked in various departments through my promotions. All my evals are good. My recent promotion has been horrible. Early on I noticed some organizational issues and that it was a toxic environment. I think I asked too many questions and caught too many mistakes of higher ups. During the few months there early on my boss complimented and bragged about me. Then we started having meetings about me needing to build relationships and how we were a "family." People felt like I gave them the cold shoulder.

Fast forward a day or so before my probation was to be up for this new position I got called in the office and it was extended. The nit picking started. I have anxiety and depression that has always been pretty managed and then when I got in this dept. it went out of control. My therapists completed out an ADA accomodation form which I recently found out that they said they could not fulfill due to it being a "burden" to the employer. So essentially they have offered assignment opportunities and asked that I apply for some specific jobs. Each of these jobs are essentially demotions. I have always been well respected and very much liked by previous supervisors and peers and am ashamed that I have to now have to take a demotion. Since probation was extended they can also let me go now for any reason.

Has anyone ever recovered emotionally from a demotion, if so did you eventually quit your job or deal with the humiliation?
I hope you understand you really cooked your own goose here with the ADA thing. Just because it's available by law, does not make it a good thing to use in the real business world.

First off, even though the are not supposed to, this will forever taint you in the companies eyes. They won't speak it. They won't show it. You will just languish forever in whatever position you take now in that company.

I've seen similar things happen with coworkers and family medical leaves. Your corporate "family" wishes you and your family all the best, with their best corporate family smiles and hugs. However there you sit in the future. Passed over for promotion. Until you wise up and leave. Or get downsized out altogether.

Brush up the resume. Hope the ADA label stays put with your old employer. Find a new job at a new place. You are up against more than just a demotion at your current employer now. It's just unspoken.
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Old 05-17-2019, 11:55 AM
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Originally Posted by tigergirl87 View Post
I guess in other words I am over thinking this. Pay decrease is a tough pill to swallow.
It's better than being fired. Are they paying you more than state unemployment would provide? If so then just be happy about that and start looking for work elsewhere.
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