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Old 05-14-2019, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Honolulu
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I think the OP needs to provide more information on the laws in his country. Most people are assuming he's in America and free to leave. Might not be the case on other countries. In the US I'd agree with a lot of other posters and just tell the OP to leave but since that might not be legal I can't really give advice.
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Old 05-15-2019, 02:35 AM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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Hi,

Maybe you got it from the title: my current employer sucks. I managed for some time with him and now he trusts me a lot, but I still don't feel safe because he fires people arbitrarily - no one feels safe here.
So I got this very good job offer and I accepted it. Sent my resignation, my boss said he won't let me go after the notice period and that it is too short. My new employer is in a rush and cannot expand that.

The new employer contacted him and he said the same. Now the good news is the new employer knows that my role is important, they said so, but they still want a reference letter from my current boss.

I want to offer the old employer working with him for 15 days after work hours until he lets me go, not sure if he accepts though. In that case, what should I do?
- Just do what's right, and if the new employer doesnt appreciate the case then f**k both of them and I look elsewhere?
- I give up and I go back to my last employer waiting for my termination letter?

Do I have a choice here?

Why are you being so weak about this ? Your employer doesn't have you chained down there, does he ?

Simply say, my last day is _____, good bye, end of story. Stop being a wimp about it.
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Old 05-15-2019, 07:02 AM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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I can leave the employer with 30 day notice period, it's just that I will not be able to get him as reference for my new employer. Anyway I sent him an email after this post and confirmed my last day. I'll wait and see the result. No matter what it's obviously the right choice.
If the new employer already hired you, what difference does it make?
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Old 05-15-2019, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Chandler, AZ
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So I got this very good job offer and I accepted it. Sent my resignation, my boss said he won't let me go after the notice period and that it is too short. My new employer is in a rush and cannot expand that.
So just stop showing up to the old employer. Problem solved.
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Old 05-17-2019, 11:51 AM
 
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Just to clarify, right to work means being able to work without being forced to join a union. At-Will employment is the right for employer or employee to terminate employment.
Sorry I meant "At-Will"
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Old 05-17-2019, 12:17 PM
 
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Should we call the police to report a hostage situation?
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Old Today, 03:58 PM
 
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Appreciate all the responses. Here's a quick update.

I did an unofficial handover to my team (secretly on weekend), and provided the employer with reports that made him feel happy and safe, and then left without any other notice to the new job. I informed the old employer later by a message that I started my new work. That was my last contact with him personally.

His response was sending someone to the new employer telling them about what I did (...) - that's all (I live in a country where what I did might pose a risk to my personal safety, especially with that kind of employer). A few weeks later things cooled down and eventually the old employer's HR contacted me for an official handover, I got officially released and received my dues with a good letter of employment. So things went fine.

Thanks!
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Old Today, 04:32 PM
 
Location: North State (California)
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Appreciate all the responses. Here's a quick update.

I did an unofficial handover to my team (secretly on weekend), and provided the employer with reports that made him feel happy and safe, and then left without any other notice to the new job. I informed the old employer later by a message that I started my new work. That was my last contact with him personally.

His response was sending someone to the new employer telling them about what I did (...) - that's all (I live in a country where what I did might pose a risk to my personal safety, especially with that kind of employer). A few weeks later things cooled down and eventually the old employer's HR contacted me for an official handover, I got officially released and received my dues with a good letter of employment. So things went fine.

Thanks!
Thank you for the update & I am glad it all worked out OK.
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