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Old 05-30-2019, 08:46 AM
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I've "blown up" on a co-worker before, when he (a fellow Manager) said "Just do it!" to me in a tone that I didn't like. I've never liked the guy, so it was a lot of emotions that I had held in which erupted. Did I regret it? Yes and no. It was bound to come out so I felt a sense of relief, but I also felt a bit of shame for not being able to control my emotions at work.

Back to OP: It sounds like OP had a good relationship with the co-worker before the incident. If so, then OP should heed the previous advice and just try to resolve it one on one. Bringing management into it may complicate matters, as the coworker will have to explain his/her side of it and people tend to go into a defensive shell. The entire situation may spiral into something more than a moment of frustration. If the co-worker digs in further during discussion, and the issue(s) can't be resolve, then let the Manager know. Resolving interpersonal issues is part of being a manager.
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Old 05-30-2019, 09:18 AM
Location: Houston
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Originally Posted by SemiRetiredAt60 View Post
Her co worker let her know she is not doing her job, being lazy. That's what the OP says. This is the problem that needs addressed. This is the issue her co-worker has with her which needs to be rectified. This the first question to the op is, are you lazy?

Generally people will not tell someone they are lazy if it isn't true. That's an indicator as a employee, to correct yourself thus correcting the problem. Being lazy isn't just annoying, it is a form of theft when you accept money in exchange for a job you just aren't doing up to basic standards. If I am lazy, I should thank my lucky stars she told me privately and didn't go to the boss. And in exchange, show that same respect by inquiring further of what I am doing which appears lazy. Am I not as productive, am I taking longer lunches, what am I doing? Or

If I am lazy, I just say "Thank you" for letting me know in private and maybe even apologize to them. Re-assure them I will do more work than necessary from then on out. I will be more professional from here on out.

Lazy people donít change.
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