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Old 05-30-2019, 10:18 AM
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Originally Posted by DDmenen View Post
guys Im already living with a ROOMMATE (I should have mentioned that part)..... oh yeah and probably if it wasn't for my sweet, sweet roommate id be starving cause I cant afford groceries
Sorry you found yourself in such predicament. I am no stranger to that type of misery.

You mention the amount you pay for rent is considered average. Is it out of the question to get a roommate at a place where rent is a $200 - $300 below average? It sounds like you're income is below average.

And as others as suggested, get a second job. A minimum wage job of 40 hours PER MONTH should give you the extra you need to feed yourself even if you stay at your average rent place.

You'll probably be able to put together a better long term plan once you are in a situation where your basic needs are taken care of.

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Old 05-30-2019, 10:28 AM
Location: In a vehicle.
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Originally Posted by DDmenen View Post
I'm so stressed...

My life right now feels like its at a crossroads between 2 types of depression:

1. choosing to quit my job and deal with the depression of staying at home and having zero Or
2. my current depression of pretty much having a job that covers nothing else but my rent and travel expresses for going to work.

I'm really going through the most and everyday before pay day I lay in my bed and shed a tear, is it really worth it to continue with this job when I cant even afford to buy myself an ice cream on pay day let alone afford groceries and other expenses??? and no im not living above my means what I pay for rent is pretty average its just my salary is really low my friend advised me to bring this up with my boss and ask for a raise but I feel like I have no leg to stand on seeing as though im still in my probation period.

I'm not asking for sympathy I'm just hoping if someone out there has ever been in my shoes and if so how can I go about supplementing my income or getting through this.... love and positive energy are also welcome cause im really sad over all of this
One should always know what their lowest earnings amount tolerance is and their high amount is and aim for the middle.
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Old 05-30-2019, 10:33 AM
Location: Altadena, CA
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Since you have a roommate, get a second job for evenings and or weekends.

Meanwhile, also start looking for another job that can pay you a living wage to be able to afford rent, and for other personal expenses.
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Old 05-30-2019, 11:20 AM
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I'm very sorry to hear this. It sounds exhausting. The easiest way to get food is find a food bank or an organisation that helps with food. If you can't find one in your area though things are going to be harder.

As others have suggested, you need to find a way to increase your income. Your free time needs to be used to either find a part time job, a better paying full time job, or some kind of hustle. You really need to be aggressive with this and use your time carefully, like a serious full 2 hours searching and applying for jobs.

If you have access to the internet, you can do surveys; Swagbucks, Mypoints, Inbox Dollars, etc. lots of sites out there. You may be earning $1-2 dollar an hour but it's money. Some people make a surprising amount of money streaming on youtube if you're into that kind of thing.

Then decrease your outcome by reducing spending on things like food. Things like eggs, rice, beans, vegetables, lentils etc. need to be staples. Go shopping around the evening, it's when stores are marking down fresh products. You can find some insane deals and eat like a king if you explore enough.

If you can find a job at a restaurant, whether its working as a waiter/waitress (recommended: it's good pay), or just washing dishes, go for it - they'll often feed you. They throw out so much food it's insane just because it's slightly old.

A final option is to take out a payday loan. Yes, not recommended, however a resource if all else fails and you can't even afford a cheap bag of instant noodles for a day.

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Old 05-30-2019, 11:39 AM
Location: Western Washington
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Originally Posted by dumb View Post
I'm very sorry to hear this. It sounds exhausting. The easiest way to get food is find a food bank or an organisation that helps with food. If you can't find one in your area though things are going to be harder.
Excellent point. Food banks exist for this reason, and most will help anybody ithout question or judgment.
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Old 05-30-2019, 01:40 PM
Location: Brooklyn,NY
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Op, I have been where you are. Once starting in my 20's, and even at a point when older. It's a tough way to live nd you should seek to solve it as quickly possible, as it wears one down over time.

Getting a second job is a huge help if a single, higher paying one is not readily available. There are part time jobs that are not super stressful except for the physical part of working extra. If you are young and have no kids its manageable. If you can do this and even save a tiny bit of $$ each month you are off to a great start. The harder part is finding said job that works with your full time job schedule. I work a second job periodically for some extra $$ and im older. (40's) I should not be doing it though and once older its a lot harder esp when on your feet a lot.

Flexible options include restaraunts, food service (catering for ex) retail or a "gig" type job like Taskrabbit, Uber etc. Food related places usually offer a meal so you save on buying food. This is all a great start. Next step is learning a trade, going to college or learning IT or another skill to increse earnings.

Where you live also matters. If its in a high COL area you may want to consider one of 2 things: Moving back home (sounds like it may be an option based on your post) getting a new job and saving to move to a lower COL area, or finding an opportunity in a different area, using some saved $ to move. It can be hard to leave home like this but if it makes for a better life its worth it. If you are in the states there are really nice parts that have a lower COL and offer something for everyone. Think longer term here, as its easy to get stuck and years tick by faster then one realizes.

You are fortunate to have a good roommate. Numerous horror stories abound about these living situation. You don't have one. Count this blessing. I had a horror show myself with this, with a guy staying with me setting my apt in fire years ago. A safe living situation is a blessing believe me. You just about have the baaics covered despite the struggle.

I feel you are going to map out a plan and make progress. You will do this, and learn your strengths from it. You can then show others.People overcome all sorts of situations every day. Best of luck and happiness to you.
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Old 05-30-2019, 02:27 PM
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Gotta save money, not eat out and bring lunch to work. Also look for a part time job after work or weekends.
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Old 05-30-2019, 05:33 PM
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Leave South Africa.
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Old 05-30-2019, 05:56 PM
Location: Wartrace,TN
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Yet you clock in every morning.

If the current job doesn't pay you enough to live on you should find a better job.

You are also living beyond your means. If your budget doesn't include food I would say you need to think about it a bit. Maybe you can't afford a nice apartment in a safe area at your income level.
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Old 05-30-2019, 05:59 PM
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Get a 2nd job with doordash, grubhub, or Uber eats.
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