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Old 06-21-2019, 12:55 PM
 
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Oh gee, I've encountered plenty of that at every office job I've had. Do gossip-free offices even exist?

Just focus on doing an excellent job and try to ignore the junior high level behavior.
It's really hard to ignore. It makes me feel like **** every day.
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Old 06-21-2019, 12:57 PM
 
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Trash company?


The rest was all small potatoes, welcome to working for a living stuff. Gossip? Didn't get the plumb training trip? The other kids won't eat lunch with me? No job will be perfect. The bolded is a pretty darn good start for a first job ever out of college, and after only 6 months. I have condiments in my fridge older than that.
The gossip and feeling like an outsider take a toll on me. I literally sit in my cube and eat lunch, and I always feel like people talk about me because they talk about each other. I don't really fit in.
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Old 06-21-2019, 12:58 PM
 
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Except that it wouldn't surprise me if OP has the same complaints in a new job. I think the OP has some unrealistic expectations about work.

OP stick it out at least for a while, I would not have a gap on my resume at this point.

I also think you may have missed an opportunity with the mass email. Since you're still new, it might have been a good idea to do something extra which may not be technically in your job description. You never want to recommend a course of action that makes more work for your boss, that is not a way to get promoted. It's also way too soon to be worrying about being promoted.

As others have said, companies go through phases and benefits change. If you think things will be different at another company you are mistaken.

Finally, there will always be office gossip and politics. Be cordial and polite to everyone and stay out of it.
I can stay out of it but it take a toll on me being an outsider, and also probably being talked about because they talk about each other.

You know how many conversations I hear that start out normal, and they start talking very quietly?
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Old 06-21-2019, 09:39 PM
 
Location: Winterpeg
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The gossip and feeling like an outsider take a toll on me. I literally sit in my cube and eat lunch, and I always feel like people talk about me because they talk about each other. I don't really fit in.
The unsympathetic, logical answer to this is "So?" You're there to work, so do your work. The good parts of your job that you listed are what a lot of people can only dream about. Money, autonomy, some learning opportunities (even if not enough for your expectations) - those are golden in a job.

I do understand your frustrations. To a point. But your issues are strictly social. If you expect every job to come with built in besties like you're in junior high, you will be often disappointed in the adult work world. Is it nice to have someone to have lunch with? Sure, I guess. But not having that doesn't mean you have to sit at your desk listening in on other people's conversations. (Headphones are your friends, btw). Go for a walk, go buy your own lunch, run errands, lots of options instead of sitting there moping.

Plus, if the other people around you are mean girl gossips, do you really want to be part of their clique?
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Old 06-23-2019, 02:49 AM
 
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Also discouraged. 3 years looking. Almost 40.


So yeah I got that going for me age discrimination I suspect.
40 is old?
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Old 06-23-2019, 11:33 AM
 
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You need to ignore the gossiping and do your job. Be grateful you even have a job.
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Old 06-24-2019, 08:28 AM
 
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Yeah...I have to agree with much of the advice given here.

Work is called "work" and not "play" for a reason.

Work hard, do what you're asked, or do MORE than you're asked, and do it well, by any measure. If you do these things, you will succeed. If you don't get a raise or a promotion, you will
have at least learned to work diligently and you can be proud of yourself, even if no one else is.

(Hint: If you find yourself out of work before the 40 hours is up - then go ask your boss for another account. Or three. Ask to sweep the floors. Whatever it takes. Do everything you can to help your boss succeed - whatever success means to him. Do not sit on your hands, this is a surefire way
to NOT get promoted, NOT make connections, and NOT get invited to lunch.)

Whatever is said in the interview or offer process is to be broadly interpreted, because the folks doing the interviews aren't always the folks signing the checks. They're leery of making their boss/company sound unappealing to anyone, ever, so a "Great Job" is promised and a "Normal Job" is given. This is unfortunate, but quite common.
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Old 06-24-2019, 08:35 PM
 
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Hold on.

You're just not part of the clique at work?

You have no friends outside of work?

Hold on to this job. If you quit, you won't have enough experience to get an entry level job. Then you're flipping hamburgers and longing to be at this job you are complaining about.
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Old 06-24-2019, 11:05 PM
 
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40 is old?
It's a lot easier to complain than to look in the mirror. Three years looking for a job in this climate, where unemployment is virtually nonexistent? You'd have to be basically trying NOT to find a job over that long of a time frame.
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Old 06-25-2019, 10:16 AM
 
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I can stay out of it but it take a toll on me being an outsider, and also probably being talked about because they talk about each other.

You know how many conversations I hear that start out normal, and they start talking very quietly?
They may not even be talking about your. They could be talking about a health problem or something else they want to keep private, or maybe they're talking about someone else in the office.

You're reading things into their conversation that may not be there. I can tell you that things like that happen in every office so changing jobs probably won't help.


Have you always had trouble fitting in?
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