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Old 07-02-2019, 05:36 PM
 
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Because she reprimanded me for not completing a task correctly when I first started then said she couldn't understand why I could do other tasks but not this one. I told her that the training was better on the other task. She kept jumping around and not going in sequence with the other. I was really honest that the training was spotty. She didn't like that feedback and has tried to be intimidating ever since.

Being a teacher myself, just watching her butcher foundational concepts for a task was very frustrating. She is very hard to understand. She doesn't connect with what she is teaching. She just wants to rush through and has even told me to use "common sense" because she has made me so nervous I couldn't think! I just feel so defeated right now.
You're going to have to go one way or the other.

If you keep blaming your boss for your problems, then you won't take ownership of your work quality because every time there is a deficiency, you're just going to blame it on your unfair boss.

So, I would either quit or stop blaming your boss and step it up, or ask to be transferred to another supervisor.

I once had a job many moons ago, where I thought my boss was terrible and working against me, and so they moved me to another person, whom then left the company, and so to another. So 3 different bosses.
And I was still fired. So, yea, that one was on me.
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Old 07-02-2019, 06:40 PM
 
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Our son once proclaimed that the reason he was not doing well in a class was because the teacher didn't like him. First question: Did you do something to cause the teacher not to like you? And our bottom line: Not everyone will like you, for a variety of fair and unfair reasons. What you are to learn is how to get along and succeed in situations where you are not liked. It will happen a lot in life.
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Old 07-03-2019, 05:14 AM
 
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Our son once proclaimed that the reason he was not doing well in a class was because the teacher didn't like him. First question: Did you do something to cause the teacher not to like you? And our bottom line: Not everyone will like you, for a variety of fair and unfair reasons. What you are to learn is how to get along and succeed in situations where you are not liked. It will happen a lot in life.
Yes, and one thing that separates children from adults is that adults have the maturity and knowledge to figure out how to learn things on their own without having someone hand hold them through it. We have a lot of training in my current office that is spotty or awful, and we either have to figure out how to do things ourselves or ask someone else who might be more knowledgeable. We don’t have a management structure where the manager necessarily even knows how to do the job we are doing, so figuring out who to ask or where to look is important. The people who know how to do that tend to be the people who excel. The people who blame others for poor training and make excuses tend to be the people who do not last.
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Old 07-03-2019, 05:17 AM
 
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I see a lot of folks continuing to just rehash the senseless "buck up" advice instead of just acknowledging that this is incompetent buffoon manager that the OP needs to try to get away from as soon as possible.
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Old 07-03-2019, 07:37 AM
 
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You have to take some initiative to sort of train yourself as well. Try and figure you out where you're making the mistakes and correct them. With that said, definitely keep an eye on open positions
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Old 07-03-2019, 08:51 AM
 
Location: Vermont
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I just got my performance review after 60 days and it wasn't great. I didn't even know I was having one until day. It made me look like I wasn't learning fast enough and doing everything exceptionally well. While my boss is knowledgeable, she is is not a good teacher. She skips around in her teaching and she is has a robotic type tone, very disconnected.

I feel like I'm gonna get the boot, because I have only 30 days to score well on what I have learned and score well on what I will be future trained on.

I need some advice on where to go from here. The job has some perks, but I am at loss. I just don't know what direction to go in and my confidence level is dropping. I know, given enough time I can learn it and do it well, but I probably won't be as fast as they want me to be.

Advice please
If there were specific areas where you were deemed deficient, they should be spelled out. If so, then I would ask the manager to help you improve those areas. If you have any good ideas about that, share them with her. I agree with others here - sometimes, you just get bad trainers. You have to pick up the slack yourself and/or assertively ask for help (at least that would indicate to them that you are interested in improving.) I also agree that a few times in life, it wasn't 'them,' it was me.
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Old 07-03-2019, 10:00 AM
 
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I see a lot of folks continuing to just rehash the senseless "buck up" advice instead of just acknowledging that this is incompetent buffoon manager that the OP needs to try to get away from as soon as possible.
Because this is a sink or swim world. Not everything will be handed to you on a platter. It's either figure it out or suffer the consequences of not figuring it out.
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Old 07-03-2019, 10:24 AM
 
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Our son once proclaimed that the reason he was not doing well in a class was because the teacher didn't like him. First question: Did you do something to cause the teacher not to like you? And our bottom line: Not everyone will like you, for a variety of fair and unfair reasons. What you are to learn is how to get along and succeed in situations where you are not liked. It will happen a lot in life.
I think there's degrees to which teachers and managers can influence your success.

A biased teacher can turn an A student into B student easily, but typically not a C or D student.

In the same way, managers can prevent excellent employees from getting promoted, but if you're getting demerits and on the verge of being canned, some of it is likely on you.

That said, somebody like that could move companies and be a perfectly good employee. Seen that a lot of times.
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Old 07-03-2019, 10:34 AM
 
Location: Kansas City North
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Is there anyone else who does the same job as you, or at least knows your job? Ask them to clarify whatever parts you’re having trouble with. Say something like “I get confused when I’m doing (task). Maybe if someone besides “boss” explains it, I could understand the big picture better.” Don’t tell co-worker Boss is a crappy instructor. Phrase it so it sounds like you’re only wanting 5 minutes of their time. You don’t want co-worker going to boss saying “Saltwater wants ME to train her/him because they can’t figure out what you’re saying.”

If boss says anything about it, put it all on yourself and your learning style, not on boss’ teaching style. This is a time to tread very carefully around the boss.
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Old 07-03-2019, 11:33 PM
 
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Is there anyone else who does the same job as you, or at least knows your job? Ask them to clarify whatever parts you’re having trouble with. Say something like “I get confused when I’m doing (task). Maybe if someone besides “boss” explains it, I could understand the big picture better.” Don’t tell co-worker Boss is a crappy instructor. Phrase it so it sounds like you’re only wanting 5 minutes of their time. You don’t want co-worker going to boss saying “Saltwater wants ME to train her/him because they can’t figure out what you’re saying.”

If boss says anything about it, put it all on yourself and your learning style, not on boss’ teaching style. This is a time to tread very carefully around the boss.
I really like this advice. Thanks!
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