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Old 07-05-2019, 02:46 PM
 
Location: In a vehicle.
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Writing this out sounds petty. Me and this other woman sit directly opposite, facing away from each other. She literally copies or tries to compete with EVERYTHING i do. If i get up, wear a certain thing, wear my hair a certain way, suck my teeth, she will do the same thing, but she tries to one up me. Meaning she’ll try to beat me to it the next time. Everyone usually just eats lunch at their desk, I’ve started leaving the office so that she’s not checking to see what im eating (she does that too, or checking my pc screen, etc.) she let me get away with it a few times without imitating me, now she leaves for 30 mins earlier than i do. (Again, sounds petty, why should i care, it’s just weird) It’s more annoying than anything but I have caught her, a few times with her cell phone camera pointed my way. I cant prove she’s taken pictures, but i did hear the snapshot sound once as she walked to her desk. She’s just extremely annoying. I would love to move desks, but there’s no where to move. Just deal with it?
Are you paying too much attention to her or your job?

I admit, it's rather odd, but shrug and go about your day....
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Old 07-05-2019, 02:46 PM
 
Location: North Idaho
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You must not have enough work to keep you busy. I would never notice if a coworker went out and bought the same clothing (oh wait, I've worn a uniform at work), or combed her hair the same way, or chewed her food the same way, or yawned when I yawn.


I most certainly wouldn't care if a coworker left for lunch before I did. Seems that would give you a chance to eat at your desk in peace.


Unless she has started following you home from work and is sitting in her car in front of your house all night, I suggest you find something else to occupy your mind and just ignore her.
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Old 07-05-2019, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Altadena, CA
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OP is full of crap. This isn't happening. S/he is a troll.
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Old 07-05-2019, 03:28 PM
 
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I get one uppers all the time. It usually means you are doing something right....enough to warrant attention of a one upper who wants to out do you. It's annoying as all heck. Guys do it all the time or same is the BRAGGER. Brag Brag BRAG and Brag about anything you did but they DID IT BETTER.

I've seen grown men do this. I would be totally embarrassed for myself if it was me and someone called me on it.

Reminds me why I avoid many people.
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Old 07-05-2019, 04:13 PM
 
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what is your desired outcome?
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Old 07-06-2019, 12:48 PM
 
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You must not have enough work to keep you busy. I would never notice if a coworker went out and bought the same clothing (oh wait, I've worn a uniform at work), or combed her hair the same way, or chewed her food the same way, or yawned when I yawn.


I most certainly wouldn't care if a coworker left for lunch before I did. Seems that would give you a chance to eat at your desk in peace.


Unless she has started following you home from work and is sitting in her car in front of your house all night, I suggest you find something else to occupy your mind and just ignore her.
I suggest you comment elsewhere. Your attitude is uncalled for.
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Old 07-06-2019, 12:57 PM
 
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Are you paying too much attention to her or your job?

I admit, it's rather odd, but shrug and go about your day....
I can walk and chew at the same time. It goes too far when someone is taking pics without consent. It’s about respect and space and feeling comfortable at work.
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Old 07-06-2019, 01:20 PM
 
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Writing this out sounds petty. Me and this other woman sit directly opposite, facing away from each other. She literally copies or tries to compete with EVERYTHING i do. If i get up, wear a certain thing, wear my hair a certain way, suck my teeth, she will do the same thing, but she tries to one up me. Meaning she’ll try to beat me to it the next time. Everyone usually just eats lunch at their desk, I’ve started leaving the office so that she’s not checking to see what im eating (she does that too, or checking my pc screen, etc.) she let me get away with it a few times without imitating me, now she leaves for 30 mins earlier than i do. (Again, sounds petty, why should i care, it’s just weird) It’s more annoying than anything but I have caught her, a few times with her cell phone camera pointed my way. I cant prove she’s taken pictures, but i did hear the snapshot sound once as she walked to her desk. She’s just extremely annoying. I would love to move desks, but there’s no where to move. Just deal with it?

Try this approach:


Hey, are you trying to irritate me? You seem to copy or mock everything I do at my desk. And are you taking photos of me without my permission? We can have a sit down discussion with our supervisor, and if need be, HR. Think that would be a good idea?
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Old 07-06-2019, 01:34 PM
 
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Next time she's on her work (risky) or cell phone, crash her conversation, using a phone yourself.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YA1J-raGinQ
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Old Yesterday, 10:25 AM
 
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OP is full of crap. This isn't happening. S/he is a troll.
It happens all the time. It has happened to me and it is annoying AF. The person who is doing the imitating obviously has a problem and too much time on her hands to be observing and copying everything the op does. She probably keeps a notebook of the op's outfits, times she comes and goes and everything. LOL
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