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Its not a relationship, its a job....
And they pay you for a skill that you contribute for their bottom line...
So its not like they are giving you anything....
Dont get hung up on guilt.
Be professional
Give notice
Move on.
2 cent advise
Dont stay with a job because of guilt, then you become bitter and unproductive....no good for anybody.
Tomorrow will make two weeks at a new job where they really took a chance hiring me (they had concerns about my "Unstable" work history) and have been really nice to me. Two days ago I got a much better offer from a company I'd interviewed with previously. I'm leaning toward quitting but I feel so guilty. Any advice?
You should feel terrible. You have an unstable work history and the streak lives on. It's the employers fault for taking the chance though not yours and it's not your job to make them happy....unless you actually plan on staying there and doing the work.
As a side note, I bet you do a lot of shopping in the checkout line don't you?
There will always be a greener looking job. You can quit but it will just make you more unemployable. No employer wants to waste time interviewing, hiring and training a candidate.
What are you going to do when the job market gets bad or when you face age discrimination? It's like suntanning. You may be sorry in years to come.
Tomorrow will make two weeks at a new job where they really took a chance hiring me (they had concerns about my "Unstable" work history) and have been really nice to me. Two days ago I got a much better offer from a company I'd interviewed with previously. I'm leaning toward quitting but I feel so guilty. Any advice?
Better offer as in more money, better benefits, better fit etc? I would be hesitant if it was only money.
If it was the type of work I would be doing that was better then I would not hesitate to quit (as long as it is not a major pay cut). Or if the medical was great and I was going to start a family.
Of course I have quit jobs where I loved the work just had a horrible salary. And I have quit and gone elsewhere for the same money because I hated the work
Tomorrow will make two weeks at a new job where they really took a chance hiring me (they had concerns about my "Unstable" work history) and have been really nice to me. Two days ago I got a much better offer from a company I'd interviewed with previously. I'm leaning toward quitting but I feel so guilty. Any advice?
Always look out for #1 but don't burn any bridges.
Would they hesitate to fire you if they found a better candidate? These things happen in business every day. I'm a little concerned about your "unstable work history". is this just more of the same? Are you sure you aren't just one of those "the grass is always greener.." guys who will always be looking to the next thing, regardless?
No need to feel bad at all, do what's best for you and your life. If they had to what's best for their company and it involved getting rid of you they would do it whether they felt bad or not, that's just how it goes. Just give them notice and thank them of course for the opportunity.
My situation is this--I used to have a high-powered corporate career, but the industry I was in experienced a lot of mergers, company closings, and layoffs. So I kept relocating to take a new job, only to have the company close or merge and lay me off. After the last layoff, I relocated to a new city to be close to a man I was in a long-distance relationship with and try to find a job in a new field there. I found it hard to break in, so I did a lot of temp work. My savings was dwindling and I was also laid off from my last two low-level office jobs because of staff cuts. During the long period of job-hunting that followed I became desperate and started to look for work in my previous field and also locally. The job I just started is local, and low-level office work. The job I am considering quitting for is in my old field, pays twice as much, and offers full benefits my current job does not. I would have to relocate for the new position, and the relationship I mentioned is over.
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My situation is this--I used to have a high-powered corporate career, but the industry I was in experienced a lot of mergers, company closings, and layoffs. So I kept relocating to take a new job, only to have the company close or merge and lay me off. After the last layoff, I relocated to a new city to be close to a man I was in a long-distance relationship with and try to find a job in a new field there..
If you did all this relocating with the same company, show it on your resume consistently with that ONE company. For example,
ABC Company 2001-2007
Manager
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Originally Posted by JillyBoo76
I found it hard to break in, so I did a lot of temp work. My savings was dwindling and I was also laid off from my last two low-level office jobs because of staff cuts. During the long period of job-hunting that followed I became desperate and started to look for work in my previous field and also locally. The job I just started is local, and low-level office work. ..
Again, if you did all your different temp jobs with ONE temp company just mention that ONE temp agency on your resume. For example,
XYZ Temporary Agency 2007-2008
Administrative
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Originally Posted by JillyBoo76
The job I am considering quitting for is in my old field, pays twice as much, and offers full benefits my current job does not. I would have to relocate for the new position, and the relationship I mentioned is over.
Unfortunately, people come and go. You are not the first to leave them. I say try to give a 2 week notice in a written letter. You can use the above suggestions for future reference to make your work history look more stable. It sounds like the new opportunity is the way to go especially now when jobs are hard to come by. Congratulations on your new job!
You should feel terrible. You have an unstable work history and the streak lives on. It's the employers fault for taking the chance though not yours and it's not your job to make them happy....unless you actually plan on staying there and doing the work.
As a side note, I bet you do a lot of shopping in the checkout line don't you?
Wow...harsh words. Have you never made a mistake when making a choice between two options? Or maybe you've just never been in this situation yourself. It is easy to judge others when you don't have first hand experience.
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