How Would you respond? Would you even bother? (employees, job, career)

[WhatSayYou]

Hi, I have been at my job for a bit over a year with around 50 or so employees, no turnover. See the same people every day and interact pleasantries with most including this person yesterday. What I want to ask you is this, do you work with people who refuse to ever use your name? I mean ever?They call you "Hey" or whatever and expect you to respond? I don't know, I think it's kinda ignorant, just my own opinion because I talk to people with respect and in rare circumstance I don't know or remember someones name, I will say "excuse me" and then ask the question.
latest example,

I had a senior mgmt.guy going "hey yo" until I finally said 'you should know that's not my name". I have spoken to this person a hundred times always calling them by their name and they still wont make any effort whatsoever to even use somebody's name when they need to? it's not like I don't interact with these people on frequent basis. . It's weird. So do you just ignore such people until they learn some common manners? I do now. I know some people are "bad" with remembering names, but when you always see the same people for so long, is there any real excuse? my new year resolution is to just ignore until they learn some manners what say you??

[kaykay]

I would continue to be polite and not concern myself with THEIR manners. That's their problem, don't make it yours IMO.

[JS1]

I'm terrible at remembering names. I'm glad that the offices or desks where I work have people's names marked (and they sit in the same place every day, obviously). I nonchalantly read the names as I walk past people's desks, and after a few passes, I know their names.

[kodaka]

Ignoring is immature and unprofessional.

Your insistence about your name suggests you need people to prove something to you. Perhaps to prove you are valued enough by them that they haven't forgotten your name; or perhaps you just like the sound of your own name and need them to flatter you.

Do you question your friends or family if they say something to you and don't preface every statement with your name first? I doubt it.

If you are in a group environment, yes, the person speaking should say your name so everyone knows to whom they are speaking. But in one-on-one interactions, it should be obvious. It would not be healthy for your career to pick a bone with senior management over the frequency of the use of your name.

If you want to make a NY resolution, make one to not sweat the small stuff.

[DubbleT]

I'm terrible with names too. My conversations with my co-workers tend to be a generic "hey, how are you?" kind of thing. I rarely ever use anyones name, even if I do remember it. I think it's become a habit, out of self preservation. My thinking is that if I don't use names very often, then it's not as obvious when I forget a name. Sounds good in theory at any rate.
It's a very embarrassing problem, especially when you know you've asked someone their name several times before.

My vote is to state your name politely every time they address you. Just a nice simple "It's Mary, Mr. Smithers" response, over and over again. If it's a memory problem he'll eventually learn your name after it's repeated often enough. If it's just because he's a jerk maybe he'll get tired of you correcting him, he'll give in and start using your name.

[Bobble Toe]

Put on one of those HELLO MY NAME IS nametags and point to it.

[WhatSayYou]

thanks for your comments!

yes it's a crowded group environment and no I don't like to hear my name or need be flattered, but do respond and respect people if they at least say excuse me first. If we didn't have to work together and need each others help so often, yup, would be a non issue. Plus on the other hand, I can't count the times I hear someone in my section say say HI!! and I react HI back and here they aren't even saying it to me, so that can be presumptuous on my part so that's also why its my resolution to make sure its me they 're talking to
In my work environment a bunch of people will be looking at them, and they're pointing at just the one. Just kinda ignorant imo when they can ask personal questions but go rude when it comes to knowing a name? <---these are the ones I'm posting about. The casual "hey how you doing today? people I see each day, I wouldn't expect them to remember. Just the ones I work with. thanks for your comments!!

[WhatSayYou]

Originally Posted by kodaka

Do you question your friends or family if they say something to you and don't preface every statement with your name first? I doubt it.

But they always do. especially in a gathering or group. How else would they get any one specific person's attention unless the people are either alone or already looking at each other?
Let somebody I've known for a year keep bellowing "hey yo" till the cows come home, I say, because they know that's not the name my momma gave me.

[DreamingSpires]

Originally Posted by kaykay

I would continue to be polite and not concern myself with THEIR manners. That's their problem, don't make it yours IMO.

This is excellent advice.

I had the same thing happen to me many years ago. I happened to take a training course in Communication Skills from the American Management Association where I asked the trainer the same question. She told me that it was an ethical issue that had nothing to do with me, and was purely a reflection on the individual, and that it was correct to ignore it.

"Unethical" and unprofessional individuals actually exist sometimes in Senior Management.

[kodaka]

But they always do. especially in a gathering or group. How else would they get any one specific person's attention unless the people are either alone or already looking at each other?

So read the next sentence in my post, after the one you quoted.