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Old 02-15-2013, 02:16 PM
 
Location: London, UK
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What European country are you from?
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Old 02-15-2013, 02:19 PM
 
Location: North West Northern Ireland.
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Here it is nothing weird, specially into families, but men who are friends, or even on TV programs men kiss each others many times.
Women always always do.
Is it not really awkward? Personally i'd feel like i'd committed a sin.
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Old 02-15-2013, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Europe
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What European country are you from?
Spain.
I think in UK is not usual but what about between women? I ask because people say it's weird but I have been kissed in 2 cheeks by women there

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Is it not really awkward? Personally i'd feel like i'd committed a sin.
Not really, it is much more usual between women, in fact women shaking hands it's only usual in very formal situations.
Men use the hands shake more often than women but it's not strange to see it with men. I remember in the football match Spain-Portugal in Euro2012, just before the penalties players were kissing Iker Casillas to wish him good luck.
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Old 02-15-2013, 03:04 PM
 
Location: Top of the South, NZ
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I certainly wouldn't want to kiss another guy on the cheeks, but it's not homophobia- women are just a lot nicer to kiss.
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Old 02-15-2013, 05:34 PM
 
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For the record, very frequently in places where people do "la bise" on the cheeks, there is actually no lip-to-cheek contact, and often you end up rubbing or lightly tapping cheeks with people as opposed to actually kissing or being kissed.
There needs to be a clarification on what the OP means. In most places where it is a common greeting, the norm for "cheek kissing" is no lip-to-cheek contact as Acajack mentioned. In some places, cheek-to-cheek contact between man to woman is normal, but people do not do lip-to-cheek at all if the relationship is not intimate. In these cultures, men who do the check-to-cheek kiss may or may not be acceptable, but I don't know which countries it is customary for men to have a lip-to-cheek kiss!
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Old 02-15-2013, 05:46 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Thats disgusting. If they ever come here and do that, they'd get beat up and I will personally vomit. Woman don't really kiss each-other here either, don't know where your getting that one out of.

Kissing the opposite sex has always been unacceptable. Always.
If that's the case Northern Ireland sounds almost as bad as Uganda.
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Old 02-16-2013, 04:31 AM
 
Location: London, UK
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If that's the case Northern Ireland sounds almost as bad as Uganda.
I'm sure its the same thing in Australia? Can't imagine any westernized country being alright about men kissng each other.
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Old 02-16-2013, 04:33 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I'm sure its the same thing in Australia? Can't imagine any westernized country being alright about men kissng each other.
By westernised i assume you mean Anglo. But no, being violent about it isn't typical of most here, although some probably.
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Old 02-16-2013, 12:49 PM
 
Location: Finland
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I wouldn't say that kissing between men here is a taboo. 'Weird' would be the word of my choosing. Taboo here is like incest or murder. Like omertà, you'll have to do something that is almost unthinkable.
As the British or Germans, we aren't that touchy-feely either, but on the other hand we don't have such strict social norms, we are quite casual.

Two men kissing each other on the cheek is a 'Russian' thing, and we want to keep a distance with their customs. On the other hand, cheek-kissing between a male and a female is ok, except it's not a part of our traditional customs either. It can be seen as phony or exaggerated.
Hugging and kissing are mostly used on special occations. Between close friends, at a ceremony etc, or as an agreement. A kiss on the mouth is always a sexual thing, but if you want to kiss a very good friend of the opposite sex on the cheek at a party for some reason, very few will raise an eyebrow.
Hugs between males are totally accepted if you have a reason for doing it, like the reasons mentioned above.

Kissing and hugging children is a bit different. Almost strangers can hug children and more persons of the extended family are allowed to kiss them. Naturally, a godfather or a close family friend may kiss the child, but of course kissing the mother/father would be considered quite unacceptable.

I watched the Finnish annual sports gala a few weeks back, and noticed clear differences between the sportsmen and -women who collected their awards. You were 'supposed' to hug the male presenter and kiss the cheeks of the female presenters, and I noticed a huge difference how people acted. Some people were comfortable with the ceremony, some weren't. The biggest difference I saw when a visiting Swiss presenter of the award just tapped the male recipient on the shoulder. He was just too uncomfortable to hug and that just seemed a bit off for me as well.

As in all countries, we have double standards as well. As you can maybe guess regarding Finland, one reason is alcohol. While at a business meeting, hugging or kissing another may be a faux-pas, but after a few beers a few hugs and lots of friendly touching is quite acceptable. Of course, regarding friends. A tap on the ass on the ice-cold businesswoman even while drunk is unacceptable.

About the 'gay' thing, I don't know. Two men kissing passionately at a nightclub is sometimes overlooked, sometimes one gets beaten up because of wearing women's clothes. Using a pink pen or shirt will not get you bullied. In sports, a tap on the ass is overlooked, but team sports are pretty gay.

Greetings can vary anything between a nod of the head and a kiss on the cheek. Do as you are comfortable with.

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Old 02-16-2013, 01:32 PM
 
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It's also a taboo in Brazil. I don't know about other countries in Latin America.
i spent a week in argentina in 2004 , guys out on ranches were kissing each other on the cheek all the time , its an italian thing , tony soprano often plants a smacker on paulie and sivios face
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