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Old 02-18-2013, 04:13 AM
 
Location: London, UK
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I have a question for users from Anglo and northern European culture: You seem to find odd, unusual or even 'gay' if a man do a kiss cheek to a male friend; but is it also true with members of your family?
Do you never do a cheek kiss to your brother, father, grandpa or cousins
too? Is this 'taboo' so strong that you handshake even your close relatives?
Ding handshaking to my members of my family is just unthinkable.
Well I'm not 'white European' so it may differ. I do a cheek kiss with my family members sometimes but its mainly a hug. If I do do a cheek kiss it would be with a female and a baby not other male members in my family. But we don't do a cheek kiss because its 'gay' just tha its not in our culture, i'm from the west indies and men kissing men is really uncommon.
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Old 02-18-2013, 04:24 AM
 
Location: North West Northern Ireland.
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I have a question for users from Anglo and northern European culture: You seem to find odd, unusual or even 'gay' if a man do a kiss cheek to a male friend; but is it also true with members of your family?
Do you never do a cheek kiss to your brother, father, grandpa or cousins
too? Is this 'taboo' so strong that you handshake even your close relatives?
Ding handshaking to my members of my family is just unthinkable.
Only woman do those kind of things and when they do its kind of rare.
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Old 02-18-2013, 04:30 AM
 
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I do it regulary with my family and close friends.
In Spain is also like this.
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Old 02-18-2013, 04:50 AM
 
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I don't if anyone else here is like this? but i do get paranoid sometimes with people's hygiene and especially with catching colds and especially during flu season.

I've never even been a huge fan of shaking hands let alone kissing others on the cheek. God i could only imagine what that would be like in february when everybody's got the sniffles yikes... I actually think the japanese may have it right with the simply head bow, or maybe make first bumping more socially acceptable in more formal situations?
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Old 02-18-2013, 05:19 AM
 
Location: SE UK
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I used to live with a Croatian woman and the first time I met her father I had to kiss his cheek (I did it to be polite as he moved in to kiss mine!) I have to say to this day it gives me nightmares (shuddah)! He is about 6feet 5inch and 24 stones, with a full beard! He did notice my discomfort and he did then remark that he knew the English 'didnt do that sort of thing' when greeting each other so he told me from there on in he would just shake my hand! lol
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Old 02-18-2013, 08:49 AM
 
Location: The Netherlands
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I have a question for users from Anglo and northern European culture: You seem to find odd, unusual or even 'gay' if a man do a kiss cheek to a male friend; but is it also true with members of your family?
Do you never do a cheek kiss to your brother, father, grandpa or cousins
too? Is this 'taboo' so strong that you handshake even your close relatives?
Ding handshaking to my members of my family is just unthinkable.
In the Netherlands women kissing each other on the cheek is very common, men and women kissing each other on the cheek is also quite common but men kissing each other on the cheek is extremely rare. Men usually just shake hands. We give three kisses instead of two, which always causes confusion with foreigners, lol.
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Old 02-18-2013, 09:24 AM
 
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In the Netherlands women kissing each other on the cheek is very common, men and women kissing each other on the cheek is also quite common but men kissing each other on the cheek is extremely rare. Men usually just shake hands. We give three kisses instead of two, which always causes confusion with foreigners, lol.
But is rare even between family members?
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Old 02-18-2013, 09:30 AM
 
Location: North West Northern Ireland.
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But is rare even between family members?
Idk why people are going on as if family members are some sort of exception. I have never ever kissed a family member except my mother and my grandparents - infact I have only ever hugged my grandfathers, and that is rare.

I personally would feel disgusting if I kissed my sister.
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Old 02-18-2013, 09:35 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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In the Netherlands women kissing each other on the cheek is very common, men and women kissing each other on the cheek is also quite common but men kissing each other on the cheek is extremely rare. Men usually just shake hands. We give three kisses instead of two, which always causes confusion with foreigners, lol.
Also here, but rare among men. I'm more interested in this double-standard and how it arose. I honestly DO think it's connected to homophobia. I wonder when it arose as well.
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Old 02-18-2013, 09:36 AM
 
Location: London, UK
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Idk why people are going on as if family members are some sort of exception. I have never ever kissed a family member except my mother and my grandparents - infact I have only ever hugged my grandfathers, and that is rare.

I personally would feel disgusting if I kissed my sister.
Really?
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