To move or not to Move.... (Laramie, Riverton: rent, insurance, how much)

[Wyoming Bound]

Most of you who have seen me post know how much I have been looking forward to moving to Wyoming from Kentucky. It's been this constant ache.....

I want to move. I love the thrill of a new place, making new friends and living my life MY way instead of for everyone else. But my husband has lived in 3 houses his entire life. 1-4, 4-26 and 26-present. I've never lived in one place longer than 5 yrs and that was only once. anywho.

This week has been a nightmare that I'm not sure we could have handled without the support of our family. It's completely torn us apart on whether to move or stay closer to family here.

I just wanted to reach out and "touch" my newfound friends in Wyo and let you know our line of thinking at the moment....

[imbobbbb]

well if you dont move you will forced to change your screenname....beyond that its really up to you and your husband.goodluck either way

[cabaret1224]

I am in a very similar position as your husband in the fact that I have only lived a few places, most within 20 miles of each other. My husband and I were having difficulties when he first started discussing moving, the reason...communication. I felt he was jumping into things and not communicating. He felt that because I was scared I was being negative. Our solution has been for both of us to do more research and communicate. I don't know if you have kiddos but that is the other thing that has been holding me back, besides absolutely loving it here in northern idaho, my whole family is here and I was hoping to be around them when we started a family. Communicate, communicate, and communicate some more just for fun! I am not jumping for joy, yet, about possibly leaving; however, I am more excited about a new adventure. I feel more that it's a team decision! Good luck!

[septocaine_queen]

Wow...that would be hard with your whole family close to where you live now. The only thing I can say is try out a new place, if it doesn't work out you know that you'll always have your family to go back to. My family is spread out with my dad and brother in the SF bay area, where I grew up, and my mom and step dad in Toronto. No regrets I say.

[Wyoming Bound]

My family used to be really spread out. Now, we are closer together and see one another a few times a year. HIS family, we live with my inlaws at the moment, and the rest of his family is here. It's more his parents than anyone else we worry about.
I have 2 other children... One would have the choice to leave. My son would be happier with his dad... long story.
I heard there was 18" of snow this weekend in Lander/Riverton. Gawd. I've not seen snow like that in 10 yrs!!!!

[Wyoming Bound]

Cabaret.... We do communicate. We're just not sure what to do. We've gotta sell our house first. No real reason to make any rash decisions but the biggest part is that if we don't move now, we won't be able to do so til our children are grown bc I'm not uprooting them once they know what they'll be missing-does that make sense?
He longs for the west as much as I do. The ONLY thing keeping us here is family. Strong tie that it is, tho, huh? :-)

[cabaret1224]

That's the great thing about Home, Septocaine, one can always go home! Wyoming Bound, please forgive me if it sounded as if I was suggesting you and your husband don't communicate. Talking about things more than we were has really helped settle my nerves. Where in Wyoming are you and your husband wanting to move to?

[shaneevans1]

Hi WB,
My wife and I are in the very same situation. I visited, applied for a job in April, fell in love with Wyoming, and took a bunch of photos for my family.

My four sons (5-15) have their bags packed so to speak. Cant even talk about it in front of them anymore because they are ready to go NOW.

My wife recently passed her insurance test and is getting started on a new career, which I am sure can be picked up again in Wy. she has a close knit group of about 8 friends that she is worried about missing, but she is such an approachable friendly person, that I am sure she will make friends quickly there.

I was concerned about LDS folks accepting us, but that basically was a non issue during my visit.

The family issues are hard, because you always are concerned about older family members getting ill or passing without you being there for them. Missing family gatherings, etc. My friends that moved to Lincoln County from the Baton Rouge area budget a week home every year, so that helps with homesickness.

I feel like I am almost rescuing myself, my wife, and my children from where we live now. (Louisiana) The hurricanes, crime, traffic, pollution. I possibly may get a job offer soon, it wont be alot of money, but we are carrying enough equity to outright purchase a house in Wy. so we should be comfortable. I also have a couple of other handy trades that I may put to use there for fun money.

It is a huge step, but I have come to look at it as an adventure, and like other posters said, you can always go back home.

I think the deal closer for us may have to be me flying back up there with my wife to see the area. When I went alone, I was almost in tears having to get on the Jet in Jackson. Did not want to leave, and I visited during the most inhospitable time of the year.

The air, the wildlife, the people, the schools, the mountains, in my view worth the chance.


Just go. If it isnt right, go home.

[mrpontiac80]

I don't really have any advice, but I am in a similar situation right now. I applied with WyoTech schools to be an instructor in Laramie about 2 years ago. Last Feburary, my wife and I got to fly out for an interview and a visit to the Laramie town.

I loved it just like I knew I would, and we too went in Feburary, so I got to feel the cold wind and such but my wife is very hesitant to move away from her parents. Her mom is not in the best of health. At the same time, she has a Masters degree in Non Profit and a background in marketing. With all the economy the way it is lately, she has been unemployed for almost a year now. Her concern is how is she going to find a job that pays what she needs in a place with a population of only a 1/4 of where we currently are. Course I tell her that what does it really matter if she has been unemployed here for that time, she could try WY and maybe find something.


I think we are to the point now that I may end up trying to move to Laramie myself and try it for up to 6 months and if I like it and she has not found a better carreer here yet, she can bring herself and our 2 kids up there. Meanwhile she would live with her parents so we would not have 2 rent payments.


They say its better to try it and experiance things rather than look back on your life and wonder what if.

Good luck with whatever you do.

[FLislandgirl]

shaneevans1- we LDS aren't so scary huh? We are planning to move to sheridan,gillete or possibly casper too. hubby in law enforcement. i say do it!!!!! things will work out. you sound like you are in a much better financial situation than us. we are both fresh graduates with 3 kids and renters. we cannot find housing we can afford. good luck and can we stay with you???
i have had my family fairly close for most of my life and distance makes the heart grow fonder. my mother recently got remarried and moved to the panhandle and i live on the island of anna maria. this was our first time apart. i have grown closer to her. our conversations have more quality to them than before. it is sad not to have her here but new technology and an airplane ride can help soothe the longing.
our main reason for moving is for a better quality of life for our children. yeah we live on an island but florida has too much violence to have my hubby to be working out there. good luck!
michelle

Originally Posted by shaneevans1

Hi WB,
My wife and I are in the very same situation. I visited, applied for a job in April, fell in love with Wyoming, and took a bunch of photos for my family.

My four sons (5-15) have their bags packed so to speak. Cant even talk about it in front of them anymore because they are ready to go NOW.

My wife recently passed her insurance test and is getting started on a new career, which I am sure can be picked up again in Wy. she has a close knit group of about 8 friends that she is worried about missing, but she is such an approachable friendly person, that I am sure she will make friends quickly there.

I was concerned about LDS folks accepting us, but that basically was a non issue during my visit.

The family issues are hard, because you always are concerned about older family members getting ill or passing without you being there for them. Missing family gatherings, etc. My friends that moved to Lincoln County from the Baton Rouge area budget a week home every year, so that helps with homesickness.

I feel like I am almost rescuing myself, my wife, and my children from where we live now. (Louisiana) The hurricanes, crime, traffic, pollution. I possibly may get a job offer soon, it wont be alot of money, but we are carrying enough equity to outright purchase a house in Wy. so we should be comfortable. I also have a couple of other handy trades that I may put to use there for fun money.

It is a huge step, but I have come to look at it as an adventure, and like other posters said, you can always go back home.

I think the deal closer for us may have to be me flying back up there with my wife to see the area. When I went alone, I was almost in tears having to get on the Jet in Jackson. Did not want to leave, and I visited during the most inhospitable time of the year.

The air, the wildlife, the people, the schools, the mountains, in my view worth the chance.


Just go. If it isnt right, go home.