Bad manners in Fort Mill (how much, home, wedding) - Rock Hill - Fort Mill - York - Tega Cay - Lancaster - City-Data Forum

MaggieC · 12-13-2009, 04:04 PM

My daughter-in-law recently invited all 25 of my grandson's preschool class to his birthday party. (He had been invited to many of their parties and went to them - with a gift of course.) Eighteen of the 25 never reponded to his invitation. Not very nice if you ask me. Is this the norm?

Robert_1962 · 12-13-2009, 04:45 PM

We've had the same problem and my wife dealt with it the following way. When sending out invitations do not post the party start time. The recipient must call and confirm to get the party start time.

marndt · 12-13-2009, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by MaggieC

My daughter-in-law recently invited all 25 of my grandson's preschool class to his birthday party. (He had been invited to many of their parties and went to them - with a gift of course.) Eighteen of the 25 never reponded to his invitation. Not very nice if you ask me. Is this the norm?

It has nothing to do with Fort Mill... Everyone today seems to be self centered...This is common everywhere....

FortMillBound · 12-13-2009, 07:43 PM

Well, I think that in preschool you get bombarded with invitations from every single kid in the glass, whether your child is friends with them or not.

When my daughter got an invitation I questioned her. Who is so-and-so? If she didn't know, or did know and was not friends with that child, we put aside the invitation. Obviously no real thought went into it - just everyone was invited. That's the real problem in my opinion.

Such invitations are asking you to call a total stranger to turn down a blanket invitation. Just assume no one is coming unless they call you - put a deadline and an email on the invite. I'd rather email a stranger than call them.

I prefer preschools that prohibit parents from distributing invitations thru the school. That solves the problem! If you don't know my family well enough to know how to reach us outside the school, we're probably not coming to the party! And in preschool, let's be honest, the parents always attend too. And I hated going to those parties where I didn't know anyone. I bet a lot of other parents do too.

Oh, and I've only lived in FM two years, so don't blame FM for this! And most people who live here relocated from elsewhere also.

MaggieC · 12-14-2009, 04:10 AM

I'm sorry, but bad manners are bad manners. R.S.V.P. requires a response. How much time does it take to leave a message on an answering machine?

FortMillBound · 12-14-2009, 10:48 AM

Well, apparently most people don't agree with your assessment. Thus, your lack of "proper" manners and RSVPs viewpoint. It seems blanket birthday toddler invitations don't equate to wedding invitations in most folks minds.

MaggieC · 12-14-2009, 05:07 PM

We're not going to agree on the manners issue, but I do appreciate your taking the time to read and respond to my post.

CVP · 12-14-2009, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by MaggieC

My daughter-in-law recently invited all 25 of my grandson's preschool class to his birthday party. (He had been invited to many of their parties and went to them - with a gift of course.) Eighteen of the 25 never reponded to his invitation. Not very nice if you ask me. Is this the norm?

If the invites went home in book bags, some parents may have not received them. I know from my own personal experience, however, that people are bad about RSVP'ing and I agree with you, it's rude. It's nothing new though. My daughters are now 19 & 21 and I recall this happening for some of their parties, but not to this extreme. I understand your disappointment. I also understand mothers being overwhelmed with constant invites and the cost associated with buying gifts for all these parties the kids want to attend. So pick and choose your parties, but always RSVP if it's requested on the invite!

Don't get me started on thank you notes...or lack of...these days.

CVP · 12-14-2009, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by FortMillBound

Well, apparently most people don't agree with your assessment. Thus, your lack of "proper" manners and RSVPs viewpoint. It seems blanket birthday toddler invitations don't equate to wedding invitations in most folks minds.

It doesn't matter what kind of invitation it is. Be courteous to the person planning the party and respond.

SilverSagess · 12-15-2009, 05:10 AM

I think people are under the impression that you don't RSVP unless you plan to attend. I don't think this is a Fort Mill problem, as we had the same problem in other states we've lived in. I've come to accept the fact that not everyone is going to RSVP, and I assume anyone who did not call to confirm is not planning on attending. But what really burns me is when people don't RSVP and then they show up at the party!