Originally Posted by jessxwrites89

#2 says it all. Her boyfriend is a classic Narcissist. This is the start of Narcissistic abuse! Since dad was a Narcissist, she is young and can't recognize the behaviour, so she runs after it. I have a NParent and I didn't realize my patterns until last year, at the age of 30.

Originally Posted by phonelady61

Oh thank you Jesus . Im so happy for you and her both . This is the first step to moving on .

Originally Posted by nicholas_n

I second this. It's clear that he doesn't have any respect whatsoever for authority anyway, but the gang connections make this situation infinitely more dangerous. I'm not sure how to get through to your daughter, OP, but you need to get your family out as soon as possible. Like today if at all feasible.

Originally Posted by phonelady61

Then your best option is to move out of chicago or illnois period . dont hesitate move now . Put the house up for sale whatever you gotta do , do it . This could very well be your daughter's life and sanity . Just move and dont let anyone know where you moved to .

Originally Posted by NY Annie

One of the most important things she needs to do, IMO, is get her phone/passwords changed. Him having that kind of control over her and knowledge of her every movement and thought is extremely dangerous - and not only to her but also to you and her sibling.

He won't like it but if somehow you are the one in control of those - her phone # can be changed, any program on it whereby he monitors her location can be deleted - and that is under your control since, I assume, you pay the bill.