ON: Do some people prefer long distance relationships?
Posted 01-11-2022 at 04:42 PM by Blondebaerde
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There was this one woman I knew through the gym. She does a lot of marathons and later added each other on Facebook. I was wondering if she was available....she said she has a boyfriend, but it's long distance. She has not one single picture of him in her profile whatsoever, which is odd. She said he prefers it that way as he's private.
She said they do see each other somewhat frequently, even though it's long distance, but how can one keep something like that up, esp. if men come in and out of her life locally and if there's no plan on ever relocating to be close to each other?
I had a woman tell me she prefers it that way because she doesn't like a guy living too close, as he'll be popping by all the time or he'd be around a little too frequently for her tastes. How is that even a relationship?
I tend to wonder how can someone not stand the lack of physical intimacy if they'd like to have it more frequently.
Sometimes I wonder if there's a propensity to cheat there if it's long distance. One girlfriend local, one long distance...and both don't know about each other? How can you trust that person isn't cheating? or if not cheating, bump into someone locally and trade-up?
She said they do see each other somewhat frequently, even though it's long distance, but how can one keep something like that up, esp. if men come in and out of her life locally and if there's no plan on ever relocating to be close to each other?
I had a woman tell me she prefers it that way because she doesn't like a guy living too close, as he'll be popping by all the time or he'd be around a little too frequently for her tastes. How is that even a relationship?
I tend to wonder how can someone not stand the lack of physical intimacy if they'd like to have it more frequently.
Sometimes I wonder if there's a propensity to cheat there if it's long distance. One girlfriend local, one long distance...and both don't know about each other? How can you trust that person isn't cheating? or if not cheating, bump into someone locally and trade-up?
LD relationships need to be avoided, as they serve a woman's purposes not a man's. All the gravy for her but little sugar for him. Doesn't go anywhere. That's a weak man with few options pining for that which cannot have.
Nor does the woman in question want you around, probably, hence the story about an alleged boyfriend. Guessing it's all a lie. Then again women with nothing but selfies, glamour shots, and simp followers on (social media) aren't worth going near either...if that's the case here or not. Yeah "it's private" because a) he doesn't exist b) if he does he's married, etc. A woman without genuine burning desire for a man is worthless to his interests, end of story.
OP answered himself with the "tend to wonder ...physical intimacy" remark. A high value man won't stand for that garbage, you're right about that in a sense. There is no genuine burning desire long distance, end of story. This is 2022, not 1902. Always more options are there, it's a global marketplace for those willing to stay in motion.