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Posted 03-31-2022 at 04:36 PM by Oakland Native

I know your post is old but I must have started again reading at the beginning wondering where to go if if to go. If you happened to read this, or others slammed you for it, I feel the same way and have experienced the same as you. Thank you for posting.
Originally Posted by travelhound View Post
I just spent my entire life in places I didn't belong or find much if any happiness or sense of belonging, including my hometown, an elite college town. Do you really think the factors involved are just the practical ones? Since most people participate in the group think, you participate in what ever the majority thinks is so. It it not so. There are such a thing as sensitive beings, panda bears. Many people grow up in abuse or deal with other serious housing issues.

American society has become vulgarized with everything geared towards the young and the wealthy, and it's depressing because the only way to get away from it is to just stay home isolated or live in very rural areas that are generally very lonely. Starting at 25 after college in a place and 60, the birthday I am about to face, is apples and oranges.

I've lived in many many places and I to have never liked any particular place in America with a caveat, that isn't FREEZING COLD IN WINTER!! All the great beautiful places have hellish 7 month winters, that is the problem. Plenty of places are great from May 1 to Oct 1. THIS winter was awful in the south!!. The city congestion and populations just got to stressful. Life and housing became to competitive. That is compounded if you are single and older like over 50.

So I got the brilliant idea to leave NYC and move to another city, and within 13 years I'm being forced out, not by economics, but by cultural age and social bias. There's nobody here but rich college students and musicians that never had to work. They can afford what I still can't. I am rejected socially. I am very unhappy where I am and very lonely. The prices have skyrocketed, younger people don't follow rules so the neighborhoods deteriorate, garbage and graffiti show up but millennials think of that as street decorations. My life is destroyed, I often sob myself to sleep. This is the results of mass gentrification, and it's been all within 5 years. My garden out front became pointless, they just walk their dogs right into the flowers. Who does that???
The mistake was not buying in LA in 2005 when you could still get a real house in a nice area for 300k. I did this instead, regretfully. Now you have to travel three hours outside a large city in Cali to own a home in that range in a safe area for me anyway. So it won't happen. My dream apartment in Pacific Palisades on the listing right now, something I will never be able to afford.

Housing is a crisis, and those of you who settled early or whatever situation to make you so smug need to find some empathy.

That being said, the Western world is still free. American are very welcome almost anywhere, if you're unhappy, maybe it's American culture getting us down! My next try is Los Angeles and California in general, no renting just extensive travel, then over seas, if I can recover enough from the debilitating depression to get there, get anywhere or even go on.

If you are a happy person, count your blessings. I find it unfathomable someone with feelings would attack someone who says they don't like it anywhere. This is why people don't bother to express true feelings or give facts about anything.

I will not comment on the city I reside, and how it's taken my final years of youth and crushed my life. If you found your place in this world and are smug about it, karma will return to you in kind. Be grateful and show some compassion.
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