Marriage and Civil Unions (Mostly)
Couple quick thoughts on concepts related to marriage vs. civil unions, why not to get married/the nature of love, and lastly comments on an article discussing committed-yet-living-apart:
1. To me "marriage" is more of a social and religious compact. I think the government, in-contrast, should consider such partnerships "civil unions." That will end the gay marriage debate instantly. Two people want to be in a civil union or partnership? Have at it, sign right here at the courthouse, you've all got the same set of advantages and disadvantages, end of story.
2. If you have no strong social, religious, or governmental impetus to "get married" ("get civil-union'ized), why would you want to? Love changes over time, most of us know that. Watched a couple of 11 years married, 13 years otherwise together, break up recently: they'd both sworn up and down, in the early days, that "they were different" and "divorce would never happen to us." Which made it doubly sad when the wife (in this case) decided for various reasons to end the union. I felt like saying, "if you can wake up 15 years from now and still see that next to you (whatever that happens to be), and not want to take the next plane out of town, you're living on another planet than me based what I know of human nature. People change. I change, you change, the world changes!"
Partnerships in business are built on mutual benefit, in contract, and can be dissolved when one partner needs to exit the business. Sounds like a better idea than "marriage" to me personally.
3. It is entirely possible to be "in love," for however long a period of time, and not live with the beloved IF both are on-board with the concept. Please read article below for more on couples married (or in a committed relationship) yet living apart. Definitely worthwhile, if the concept resonates in your life (it does in mine):
Inspired by: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...h-Moggach.html
1. To me "marriage" is more of a social and religious compact. I think the government, in-contrast, should consider such partnerships "civil unions." That will end the gay marriage debate instantly. Two people want to be in a civil union or partnership? Have at it, sign right here at the courthouse, you've all got the same set of advantages and disadvantages, end of story.
2. If you have no strong social, religious, or governmental impetus to "get married" ("get civil-union'ized), why would you want to? Love changes over time, most of us know that. Watched a couple of 11 years married, 13 years otherwise together, break up recently: they'd both sworn up and down, in the early days, that "they were different" and "divorce would never happen to us." Which made it doubly sad when the wife (in this case) decided for various reasons to end the union. I felt like saying, "if you can wake up 15 years from now and still see that next to you (whatever that happens to be), and not want to take the next plane out of town, you're living on another planet than me based what I know of human nature. People change. I change, you change, the world changes!"
Partnerships in business are built on mutual benefit, in contract, and can be dissolved when one partner needs to exit the business. Sounds like a better idea than "marriage" to me personally.
3. It is entirely possible to be "in love," for however long a period of time, and not live with the beloved IF both are on-board with the concept. Please read article below for more on couples married (or in a committed relationship) yet living apart. Definitely worthwhile, if the concept resonates in your life (it does in mine):
Inspired by: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...h-Moggach.html
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Interesting thoughts...Posted 10-17-2014 at 09:32 AM by Love wanted
