Considering Univ. of Georgia, Auburn Uni, UNC Chapel Hill (fit in, dorm)

[AnsleyPark]

Originally Posted by 10 feet tall

Somehow this thread deteriorated into greek vs GDI.

There are apparently a lot of sensitive souls on this subject.

There are many of us who greatly benefited from our affiliation with a Greek house. I made wonderful fraternity friends my college years. I know that you don't have to be in the Greek system to make wonderful friends. But, yes, I will defend it as I know many young men and women have flourished in the Greek system. Yes, of course, there are some bad seeds. But there are bad seeds on college campuses who have nothing to do with the Greek system (Lord, look at the whole crazy Florida A&M and thing not so long ago). I just think the whole Animal House public perception unduly denigrates the Greek system as a whole.

[roxyrn]

If the OP feels that being in a sorority will increase her daughter's chances of being exposed to bad guys and potential date rape, I would suggest looking at smaller schools where the Greek system is insignificant or non-existent. One of my daughters went to a smaller private university in Maryland without frats/sororities and had a great time. I still worried about parties, alcohol, drug abuse and date rape. You have to have trust that you've raised your children to be able to have good judgement and be responsible no matter where they land.

The three schools she wanted input on (UGA,UNC and Auburn) happen to have strong Greek traditions that are a big part of the social scene at those schools.

[AnsleyPark]

Okay - I believe in fair and even handed reporting, even if I don't like what it has to say. So (drum roll), here's a bit of research (cannot vouch for the organization) which gives validity to the idea that the Greek system breeds bad behavior more often than the non-Greek system. 15 Frightening Facts about Sororities and Fraternities - Zen College Life

[OrangeCrush6317]

Originally Posted by AnsleyPark

Okay - I believe in fair and even handed reporting, even if I don't like what it has to say. So (drum roll), here's a bit of research (cannot vouch for the organization) which gives validity to the idea that the Greek system breeds bad behavior more often than the non-Greek system. 15 Frightening Facts about Sororities and Fraternities - Zen College Life

LOL, don't ever doubt me again.

I covered pretty much each one of these 15 facts outside of the fact they still paddle new recruits.

I never knew this went on in the first place. I never heard anything bad about hazing at Clemson, although those alcohol poisoning deaths might have been during hazing.

Frat boys are basically sex addicts, and lot of the sorority girls are too.

Your average frat boy is like that dude in the Wedding Crashers, the one who seems to be on steroids and has some anger issues and thinks he is the man.

[lorilove]

Originally Posted by roxyrn

If the OP feels that being in a sorority will increase her daughter's chances of being exposed to bad guys and potential date rape, I would suggest looking at smaller schools where the Greek system is insignificant or non-existent. One of my daughters went to a smaller private university in Maryland without frats/sororities and had a great time. I still worried about parties, alcohol, drug abuse and date rape. You have to have trust that you've raised your children to be able to have good judgement and be responsible no matter where they land.

The three schools she wanted input on (UGA,UNC and Auburn) happen to have strong Greek traditions that are a big part of the social scene at those schools.

Just a point of clarification - the OP (loveoranecounty) is not anti-greek and from my take is supportive of her daughter joining a sorority. OrangeCrush6317 is just another poster in this thread

[roxyrn]

Thanks for clarifying, Lorilove. I was confused by all of the orange....

[Iconographer]

Originally Posted by lorilove

Just a point of clarification - the OP (loveoranecounty) is not anti-greek and from my take is supportive of her daughter joining a sorority. OrangeCrush6317 is just another poster in this thread

Too right. Me and my girls from Delta Delta Delta (can I hep u hep u hep u?) I made lifelong friends there. Five of us still get together at my place on SSI to talk **** and exchange pictures of our grandchildren.

[loveorangecounty]

Wow, again about the sorority's. I am concerned about the alcohol, date rapes and general bad behavior of fraternities and sorority's but I think the thing that floors me the most is the air of snobbery. I guess I expected this generation to be beyond this archaic attitude. My hope and hers is that she'll find a more down to earth sorority that she is comfortable with. I know if they really judge her on the brand of shoes, purse, dress whatever, she will run down to the nearest Target and buy a new outfit to shock them....and then get kicked out. It's not that she couldn't afford to dress like that, it's just not a priority. She'll find her "group" whether it's in a sorority or some other way. She is a pole vaulter and also considered vaulting in college. While touring Auburn our waitress had just graduated from Auburn and was in a sorority. We asked quite a few questions about the college and the sorority's, she gushed about both, and commented how flexible her sorority was compared to some. I am just having a really hard time wrapping my mind around that ALL sorority's have this superior attitude. How is that fun?

[CMMom]

My sister was in one of the "top" sororities at UGA in the early '90's. She was gung ho freshman and sophomore year, a little disaffected junior year, and totally disconnected senior year. The superficiality just started to grate, I think. By the end of it, she said she still liked her "sisters," but just couldn't relate to the whole rush process anymore. Those meetings were pretty awful, and she got disgusted with the whole thing.

I know I've mentioned it, but I loved the process at Davidson. At the time, there were three women's eating houses with three very distinct personalities. We did "self-selection," and as long as there were enough spots, you were in to your first choice. We did all the same stuff as sororities (semi-formals, "date functions," and eating with the girls). The difference was that there was virtually no stress and no need to "dress up" or pretend to be anything you aren't. Definitely more my speed.

[Saintmarks]

Originally Posted by loveorangecounty

Wow, again about the sorority's. I am concerned about the alcohol, date rapes and general bad behavior of fraternities and sorority's but I think the thing that floors me the most is the air of snobbery. I guess I expected this generation to be beyond this archaic attitude. My hope and hers is that she'll find a more down to earth sorority that she is comfortable with. I know if they really judge her on the brand of shoes, purse, dress whatever, she will run down to the nearest Target and buy a new outfit to shock them....and then get kicked out. It's not that she couldn't afford to dress like that, it's just not a priority. She'll find her "group" whether it's in a sorority or some other way. She is a pole vaulter and also considered vaulting in college. While touring Auburn our waitress had just graduated from Auburn and was in a sorority. We asked quite a few questions about the college and the sorority's, she gushed about both, and commented how flexible her sorority was compared to some. I am just having a really hard time wrapping my mind around that ALL sorority's have this superior attitude. How is that fun?

My daughter's experience with KKG (as well as general greek life) at Arkansas has been nothing like what is being described here. The very few that would even get close to this stereotype are known and avoided by most students that are there to get the benefits that the Greek system offers but who first and foremost are there to get a solid education.

My daughter is very outdoorsy... wears sandals in warm weather and boots in cold. She does dress up for home football games... a tradition with her sorority, but she dresses down more now at college than she did in high school. If that is a no-no within KKG, she is certainly shunning it.