Baltimore Millenials, I need to ask you a few questions?

[designer_genes]

Originally Posted by bus man

As a general rule, conservative men prefer to take the initiative in a relationship. Women who take the lead are often seen by such men as not particularly suitable for a long-term relationship.

But then again, I highly doubt that you are interested in conservative men. So if you get rebuffed by someone after taking the initiative, it would be reasonable for you to assume that they weren't your type anyway.

Yep, that's basically sums it up. Traditional gender roles are antiquated and silly. If you feel threatened by me saying I'm attracted to you or asking for your number, then I don't really know what to say about that.

[ktaadin]

Yep, that's basically sums it up. Traditional gender roles are antiquated and silly. If you feel threatened by me saying I'm attracted to you or asking for your number, then I don't really know what to say about that.

Maybe this is a generational thing, but I simply don't see much if any of this in my peer group. Men are generally happy to be approached by women, not threatened. Obviously, how the woman approaches matters (just like it would if a man approaches a women: he could be smooth and friendly, or weird and creepy), but most guys in their 20s at least are perfectly fine with women who take the initiative.

[Infinite_heights77]

Some of these older Baltimoreans need to make a transition into the afterlife, because they are making things difficult down here for young people who want change.

[Infinite_heights77]

I don't think traditional gender roles are silly at all! They most definitely need to be challenged, deconstructed and reconstructed for a new age and process. There is nothing wrong with "tradition" and "traditional" values per se. For some people, that familial structure is scared and needed as long as it's upgraded and expansive in its applications. I still believe that men, are the main physical protectors of a community and family. But, this doesn't go without stating that women can't be protectors as well! History can bare witness to such claims.

Originally Posted by designer_genes

Yep, that's basically sums it up. Traditional gender roles are antiquated and silly. If you feel threatened by me saying I'm attracted to you or asking for your number, then I don't really know what to say about that.

[Infinite_heights77]

I had a ex-girlfriend to ask ME for MY hand in marriage one year. She was crazy, so I said, "Hell NO!"

Originally Posted by ktaadin

Maybe this is a generational thing, but I simply don't see much if any of this in my peer group. Men are generally happy to be approached by women, not threatened. Obviously, how the woman approaches matters (just like it would if a man approaches a women: he could be smooth and friendly, or weird and creepy), but most guys in their 20s at least are perfectly fine with women who take the initiative.

[ktaadin]

I had a ex-girlfriend to ask ME for MY hand in marriage one year. She was crazy, so I said, "Hell NO!"

If she was not crazy though (somebody who you actually would have wanted to marry anyway), I'm guessing you would have said yes though? That's my point-I don't see guys rejecting girls because the girls approached, it's because of other factors (factors that would have just as much impact if the guy approached the girl first).

[designer_genes]

Originally Posted by ktaadin

Maybe this is a generational thing, but I simply don't see much if any of this in my peer group. Men are generally happy to be approached by women, not threatened. Obviously, how the woman approaches matters (just like it would if a man approaches a women: he could be smooth and friendly, or weird and creepy), but most guys in their 20s at least are perfectly fine with women who take the initiative.

I definitely think it's a generational thing. I don't know many guys my age that would be averse to women approaching them. It was just one theory about why I was generally less successful in online dating when contacting the guy first, but it could have just as easily been that they simply didn't want to talk to me for other reasons or random chance. The sample size was not significantly large to draw a conclusion, lol.

[designer_genes]

Originally Posted by ktaadin

If she was not crazy though (somebody who you actually would have wanted to marry anyway), I'm guessing you would have said yes though? That's my point-I don't see guys rejecting girls because the girls approached, it's because of other factors (factors that would have just as much impact if the guy approached the girl first).

Exactly.

[Infinite_heights77]

Maybe?! She asked me out of desperation and not out of love per se. For African American women, dating and marriage can be a quite difficult endeavor (that is a whole other topic).

Originally Posted by ktaadin

If she was not crazy though (somebody who you actually would have wanted to marry anyway), I'm guessing you would have said yes though? That's my point-I don't see guys rejecting girls because the girls approached, it's because of other factors (factors that would have just as much impact if the guy approached the girl first).

[Infinite_heights77]

Genes,

Don't be so quick to jump on the bandwagon, there are many variables involved!

Originally Posted by designer_genes

Exactly.