gay-friendly bangor?

[bangorme]

Maine, in general, is a live and let live type of place. No one cares about your love life, or wants to know about it. I know several gay couples in Bangor and they are very happy.

But the live and let live part applies to you too. If you come to Maine and require people to endorse your lifestyle, you are in for a hard time. As I said, we aren't interested and don't want to know. This way of looking at things isn't a gay thing, but a lifestyle thing. We get people coming here from other parts of the country all the time that seem to think it is their purpose in life to "enlighten" Mainers about all kinds of things. Those people tend to do poorly here and leave disillusioned (I know some of those people too). Whatever their cause is becomes the bane of their existence.

If you come to Maine, enjoy life and mind your own business. You'll find Maine a wonderful place.

[dixieswife]

Originally Posted by ShadowWarriorMystic

Looking w partner to relocate to Bangor Maine and live in country in peace and quiet how friendly is it and how is best way to start meeting others before my actual move to Bangor this summer Bruce In Baltimore?

I'm not an ideal candidate to address the gay-friendliness of Bangor, but I feel qualified enough to let you know that Bangor isn't really "the country". Perhaps a lot more country than say, Baltimore, but we're not talking a pastoral setting here.

Just sayin'. It's a small but real city, with malls and traffic lights and neighborhoods, etc.

Now, drive outside of Bangor a bit and you'll get pastoral fairly quickly.

[dougwatson67]

My family, which consists of myself, my partner and our son, are looking to move to Bangor. My partner and myself moved from Columbus Ohio to Savannah Georgia...........Huge mistake! The only good thing that came out of this, is the adoption of our son. We moved down here to escape the winters of Ohio, and to live near the ocean. We foolishly believed that the quaint southern charm and hospitality truly existed! The crime here is high, cost of living is through the roof, education system is horrible, and the people are rude and ignorant! We knew it would be much warmer here, but failed to realize how miserable the heat/humidity really is. Needless-to-say, we failed to do the apropriate research. After re-evaluating our priorities, we've discovered that not only do we not dislike the snow as much as we thought, we actually miss it! We've always been attracted to the New England area, and work with fellow transplants from that area, and they all speak highly of it( with the occasional "winter hater") saying it's the only negative aspect. We are looking for somewhere SAFE and healthy to raise our family, yet still affordable. I was wondering if anyone could give me an HONEST opinion about what it's like for gay/lesbian people to live in Bangor, especially with children. In addition, if there are any other servers/bartenders living in Bangor, can you give us an idea of what the tips/wages are like? We've always made a good living off of this occupation, but again, here in the south, it's wretched! We work for Darden Restaurants, which own Olive Gardens and Longhorns, and will be transfering to one of those stores. I know we're all busy, and we're strangers, but if anyone can give me the "low-down" on this, I would really be appreciative!

[Bigfish57]

Originally Posted by bangorme

Maine, in general, is a live and let live type of place. No one cares about your love life, or wants to know about it. I know several gay couples in Bangor and they are very happy.

But the live and let live part applies to you too. If you come to Maine and require people to endorse your lifestyle, you are in for a hard time. As I said, we aren't interested and don't want to know. This way of looking at things isn't a gay thing, but a lifestyle thing. We get people coming here from other parts of the country all the time that seem to think it is their purpose in life to "enlighten" Mainers about all kinds of things. Those people tend to do poorly here and leave disillusioned (I know some of those people too). Whatever their cause is becomes the bane of their existence.

If you come to Maine, enjoy life and mind your own business. You'll find Maine a wonderful place.

It might sound a bit backward but I agree. Do your thing what ever it is but, don't knock on my door on a saturday and try to sell it to me is all.

[Evan_Lanctot]

Originally Posted by Bigfish57

It might sound a bit backward but I agree. Do your thing what ever it is but, don't knock on my door on a saturday and try to sell it to me is all.

Unless it involves fishin' or something else of the redneck variety.

[poletop1]

Originally Posted by Bigfish57

It might sound a bit backward but I agree. Do your thing what ever it is but, don't knock on my door on a saturday and try to sell it to me is all.

I've never had someone knock on my door attempting to persuade me to change sexual orientation, sexuality or anything like that. Are you really just saying that you hate seeing PDA and couples that aren't straight or that people have tried to recruit you at home?

[Radical347]

Originally Posted by Maineah

Despite the recent repeal of the legislature's implementation of a Gay Marriage law, Maine is not a hostile toward gays.
Don't read too much into the repeal of that particular law. Maine people repealed it mostly because it was implemented without voter involvement. People just did not like the legislature and Governor passing the law without the input of the people and they let them know it. Had it been brought up as a referrendum issue on a ballot I'd be willing to bet it would have passed. Mainers are VERY live and let live. We tend to mind our own business and just ask others to do the same.

Ehh...if this was the reason it was repealed, that doesn't make things any better. The law that was "implemented without voter involement" was implemented to give minorities rights, and affected the rest of the population in NO way whatsoever. Going out of your way to repeal something like this doesn't seem "live and let live" to me.

That being said, it's not like too many other states are better in this regard.