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I can only imagine how much you are hurting. Go, take wonderful care of yourself, and remember that there is still lot of good in this world, though it may be hard to see or feel now.
The best thing you can possibly do is go on this vacation. Get away live life a bit and focus on the moment rather than your relationship.
This are my thoughts as well. Why drown yourself with reading material relating to what you just went through and/or some type of self-help book.
OP: you did nothing wrong. Go on your planned vacation, meet new people and experience new adventures. You may not feel as though you have the emotional energy to proceed; but once you're on your way I'm positive you'll be okay . . and just having the change of scenery is good for you.
Check out the local meet-up groups, there are a lot of yoga in the park and on the beach type things going on.
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I just had my (edited: now ex) boyfriend tell me this and yes I'm [extremely] hurt and going through a lot right now. I'm so drained I can't even post about the situation.
However....I have a 10 day trip planned in just 3 days. My first vacation of the year. I was looking forward to this trip and now I want to cancel as I have no energy to plan the rest of my vacation let alone take these flights to get there and back. I'm going alone. I desperately cannot spend the trip like I've spent the last week....in bed holed up in my room the whole time and not eating, drinking or sleeping.
I'm hoping for some suggestions on how best to get through this trip alone. Specifically, I am wondering if people can recommend any reading material for my flight and for while I'm gone. I have Amazon Prime and just enough time to order a few books to take with me.
They can be about breaking up or when someone tells you they aren't actually in love with you...or they can be more general books about bettering yourself or getting through bad times. I'm even open to books that are more spiritual based, about meditation and relaxing (I haven't slept in 5 days), etc. Anything that would be an empowering read would be helpful for me right now.
I see the thread discussion is different from the title, but as to the whole "love, but not in love" business I kinda always had a problem with that statement. I dont really know what that means. I think what someone really saying is that "you're a good person and I respect you but at the same time I dont really want to be with you". And it seems like people often confuse that for "love", intentionally or not.
Not sure why everyone is recommending "inspirational" books, you need escapism. Read thrillers or murder mysteries or something funny not some sappy love story. Better yet you're going to Hawaii, enjoy all it has to offer. For most people it's a once in a lifetime vacation, don't waste it pining away on some loser who didn't realize how good he had it. Have fun!
Do not cancel the vacation. Go. Try to have fun. Don't just sit in the hotel room sad and reading self help books, get out and enjoy it. It may be just what you need.
I have actually travelled alone before, by choice, and it's really not bad, you can do whatever you want and not worry about having to be on anyone else's agenda.
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