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readymade: I HATED being single in Boston. HATED it. Conversely, I loved being single in LA (after my divorce). WAY less drama. It also could have been that I was single in my early 20s in Boston and single in LA in my early 30s. Age can have a lot to do with it too. [quote]
Bingo! Your description of your experience in Boston is typical of the behavior of young guys feeling their oats and blatantly trying (trying too hard) to prove their manhood for the approval of their friends. It's the age you were in Boston, the kinds of places you most likely hung out, and the kinds of guys you met when you hung out in the places with a young crowd that explains your experiences, not the city you were in.
oh yu guys are depressing me . i just moved to boston from NYC with the hopes to meet nicer guys out here. I guess I should have asked first. I still like boston more at least their plenty of fresh air.
As the old song goes, Don't worry; be happy. Are you genuinely friendly, not a shrinking violet but not overbearing either? Allowing for the reality that the dating scene can get frustrating anywhere at times, if you're a genuinely nice friendly person, in general you'll be okay anywhere.
[quote=ogre;10267216]readymade: I HATED being single in Boston. HATED it. Conversely, I loved being single in LA (after my divorce). WAY less drama. It also could have been that I was single in my early 20s in Boston and single in LA in my early 30s. Age can have a lot to do with it too.
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Bingo! Your description of your experience in Boston is typical of the behavior of young guys feeling their oats and blatantly trying (trying too hard) to prove their manhood for the approval of their friends. It's the age you were in Boston, the kinds of places you most likely hung out, and the kinds of guys you met when you hung out in the places with a young crowd that explains your experiences, not the city you were in.
As I guy I would agree with you to some point, but guys in Boston and just the whole scene is different than other places. All I'm saying is as a guy it is better elsewhere with better looking women and just an overall better atmosphere.
honestly if u say your attractive and from socal, i dont think you will have a problem anywhere. u actually might have a better chance than the local girls in boston. and also since u are meeting the same guys in LA, is it possible that its because its ur scene or setting? i mean maybe if u change where u go out to meet these men then maybe u could actually meet the ppl ur interested in.
i think boston or nyc would be a good fit u have lived in europe, as there are a lot of european ppl in both cities and have that european feel within the city. there was this saying i read somewhere, in LA u ask how much money they have, in NYC u ask who they know, and in boston u ask how much they know. or something along those lines, although NYC and LA could be vice versa. and i think that is a true statement and a very typical stereotype as well. although it may not be true or false, its a general statement.
dont expect boston to have more venues than LA but there are plenty of places to go to. but if that is what u crave then i would try NYC 1st and then maybe take a weekend trips to boston. NYC is alot more expensive and not to mention alot bigger which makes it for more things to do but comes at a hefty cost of living. in boston u could find places under 1 bedroom for $1200 amonth rent within a 20 minute drive.
but as a single guy myself i must say in boston u need to have more than money, intelligence and character to be able to meet women. u will also need to be decent looking, funny, have charisma, charming, persistance and know what league u are in to be able to meet women.
Anyone ever seen the "Boston Boyfriend Application"?
Boston Boyfriend Application
Basic Info:
Full Name:
Any previous names:
Age:
Current Address:
Rent/own:
All previous addresses (for background check): (if more than 3, please explain transience below.)
List all previous female cohabitants including relationship and contact information (use a separate sheet if necessary):
College Attended: (Do not include community colleges or state schools).
Major/Minor: (for financial evaluation) (Philosophy and English majors stop here.)
GPA: (>3.0 stop here)
Financial:
Current Annual Income: (if less than 60K, stop here.)
Real estate holdings:
Portfolio:
Stocks, Bonds, Mutual funds:
Projected growth:
Parents’ annual income / net worth:
Family business, holding etc: Info for credit check:
Primary Bank and account #:
Major credit cards and numbers:
Fico score:
Outstanding loan balances:
Have you ever defaulted or filed for bankruptcy? (If yes stop here)
Medical information:
Name and address of Primary Care Physician:
General physical health assessment:
Height:
Weight:
Body Mass Index:
Eye/Hair/Skin Color:
Debilitating Diseases: (communicable or hereditary stop here)
Family health History: any history of:
1.Heart disease
2.Cancer
3.Diabetes
4.Other
History of accidents (broken bones, auto, any incapacitations longer than 30 days)
Date of last Venereal Disease Screening: (attach copies of all paperwork)
Sleep walking, Sleep apnea, or snoring: Nutritional information:
Daily caloric intake:
Percentage of 5 basic food groups consumed daily:
Cholesterol test:
Weekly red meat consumption:
Weekly consumption of fast foods:
Any problems with indigestion or flatulence: Exercise:
Hours per week performing physical exercise: (if less than 5, stop here)
Type of exercise:
Name of gym, aerobics, or yoga classes attended (include instructors’ name/#): Dental:
Dentist:
Date of last visit to dentist:
Number of missing teeth:
Number of cavities:
Periodontal disease, gingivitis, plaque, or halitosis:
Background Check:
Have you ever committed a felony? If so what type?
1.Sexual Assault (if yes, stop here)
2.Murder
3.Aggravated assault
4.Drug, alcohol offenses
If a felon, was this felony perpetrated against a female?
Was this felony perpetrated on behalf of a female? If so, explain.
Misdemenors, traffic violations, graffiti, littering, urinating, other offenses:
Please attach police report from all previous residences.
Career:
Name of current employer:
Current job title:
Are you a CEO/VP/Executive?:
Is this a Fortune 500 Company?:
Years at present company:
List all previous employers / job positions and reasons for leaving. Do not include labor, food service, etc:
Residence:
Where do you reside?
1.Back Bay / Beacon Hill
2.West End / North End
3.Longwood/Brookline
4.Newton/Weston/Wellesley
5.Cambridge/Marblehead/Swampscott
6.Other (Explain)
7.Chelsea/Revere/Lynn (stop here)
Own or rent:
Square footage:
Waterfront/View/Concierge:
Parking/ Closet Space:
Type of Auto(s):
Mercedes/BMW/Other Euro (Specify)
Lexus/Infiniti/
Other Japanese (Specify)
Cadillac/Corvette/Etc
Other American (Explain)
Kia/Subcompact (stop here)
Year and model of this car:
Second car year make and model:
Yacht, sailboat, Private aircraft:
Prior Relationships:
Number of prior romantic relationships:
Number of prior romantic sexual relationships:
Number of non-romantic sexual relationships:
Number of one night stands:
Using a separate sheet, list the names and contact information of all previously described relationships. Include date the relationship began, date concluded, and a complete description of the relationship including specific reason for termination. Please include phone numbers and contact information.
Lifestyle:
Shopping:
1.Saks/Neiman/Copley
2.Lord and Taylor/Macy’s/Filene’s
3.Sears/Pennys/Target (Explain)
4.Marshalls/Walmart/Kmart (stop here)
Travel:
1.Paris/London/Rome
2.NY/Miami/Aruba
3.Cape/Vineyard/Newport
4.Other: (Specify/Explain)
Leisure Activities:
1.Theatre and Arts.
2.Fine Dining
3.Social Events (specify types and frequency – keggers stop here)
4.Sporting events (What type and how often? Wrestling stop here)
5.Reading (list favorite authors/poets – do not include periodicals)
Nightlife:
1.BSO
2.Sculler’s
3.Aria/Avalon/Gypsie/Roxy
4.Centerfolds/Hooter (stop here)
Television:
Amount of hours per week spent viewing:
Amount of hours spent viewing sports:
Amount of hours spent viewing reality television:
Amount of hours spent playing video games: (greater than 15, stop here)
Favorite shows: (do not include sports, reality or police shows)
Movies:
25 favorite romantic comedies:
25 favorite romantic dramas:
Favorite Actress:
1.Streep
2.Zellweiger
3.Streep
4.Other (explain)
Favorite Actor:
1.Depp
2.Gere
3.Redford
Favorite Porn: (stop here)
Music:
Favorite musicians:
Gwen Stefani
Alicia Keys
Justin Timberlake
Metallica (stop here)
Family and Children:
Number of children desired:
Boys or girls:
Preferred year for commencement of child-birthing:
Preferred Private or public school:
Preferred college fund plan:
Nanny/housekeeper/tutors:
Choir/Piano lessons:
Recommended pediatrician:
Best age for Disney:
Best age for first date:
1.17
2.18
3.college
College:
BU
BC
Wellesley
Other all girls
UMASS (stop here)
Church:
1.Unitarian
2.Protestant
3.Catholic
4.convert to: (specify)
Pets:
Types of pets:
Number of pets:
Preferred Veterinarian:
Preferred groomer:
Reputable dog-walker:
Other helpful Skills or Information (check all that apply):
Mowing:
Hedge clipping:
Home maintenance:
Auto maintenance:
Snow shoveling:
Dishwashing:
Cooking:
Mopping:
Construction:
Pool maintenance:
Animal control:
----OMG that is so funny yet true. but i think u could say that to just about anywhere in general and not just boston. although there are a few things i would disagree but thats about 98% correct. and this list must've took an hr+ to write. kudos.
HAHA... I see it a little different...(from the boyfriend application)
One may be a class issue... when a woman drives a bmw (from mom/dad)... do they want to date a guy with no car?
Another is an intelligence thing... so many smart women with master and phds... do they want an average guy? Ok... only if you're good looking w/ killer body..
How about the smart guy with no college degrees? Those people seem to be more abundant in Portland OR or other locations. I myself consider myself intellectual smart, but not bachelors or masters degree worthy and I don't even have an AA. I come from outer Boston area, but don't live in MA now.
My experience has been the opposite actually. The best relationships I was in while I was living in Boston were with native girls. On the other hand, I had nothing but frustrations with all those stuck-up BU/BC girls whose rich Connecticut/New Jersey/Midwestern mommies and daddies are paying for their education, Allston apartment, and their Newbury St. shopping sprees.
The fact is that if you're single, then dating seems difficult no matter where you are. True, Boston can be a tough place to meet people for the over 25 crowd, but having lived in three different cities in the past ten years, I can say that there really isn't all that much difference.
Yea try living in FL if you want passive agressive indecisive women. Its a horror show there trying to get a gf. You dont know whether to be forward or shy.
Also, I believe the out of state people having all their stuff paid for ARE the more snobby people. Most of them make up the high end places in Cambridge too imo and bring their heavy marxist rheotoric and political correctness with them. Some are nice people, but man many are just stick in the mud "oh you cant say this, or that, it offends me" mentality. I seen this even more prevalent with young teachers teaching in certain schools.
The city girls born and raised are down to earth I think, and if they aren't, they had rich parents to pay for them to go to schools like Boston Latin or Roxbury Latin like my cousins did.
readymade: I HATED being single in Boston. HATED it. Conversely, I loved being single in LA (after my divorce). WAY less drama. It also could have been that I was single in my early 20s in Boston and single in LA in my early 30s. Age can have a lot to do with it too.
Bingo! Your description of your experience in Boston is typical of the behavior of young guys feeling their oats and blatantly trying (trying too hard) to prove their manhood for the approval of their friends. It's the age you were in Boston, the kinds of places you most likely hung out, and the kinds of guys you met when you hung out in the places with a young crowd that explains your experiences, not the city you were in.
I can see why maybe you would. Smart transplants that think alike hook up and get married or a few might marry a native. I also get the impression you can't be extremely weird in Boston and get many girls.
I spent one month in Portland OR. I loved it so much even single, I just didn't care about that. I was happy to be alone as well since everyday was an adventure due to seeing different restaurants, bars or shops.
From what I gathered, Portland is a good place to be single.
I had a less-than-positive experience in Boston. I found it to be swamped with college students. I felt old (in my late twenties) even being in a bar. I found the whole city to feel like much more of a small town than its statistics would suggest. I also felt like I would never fit in since I'm not from New England.
I'm not bashing the city - I know a lot of people love it and I understand why. I just didn't.
DC has a large population of very well educated, interesting singles from all over the world. Whether they're looking to settle down, I don't know. It's a very transient city.
Go to Portland OR.. many transplants your age and into their 30s move and there are many alternajunkys and indie people there, and they are not all young either. I liked that part best about it. More depressed job economy though. Boston is an ongoing youth movement and then when they get older, they pack up and head somewhere else like SF, Austin or Seattle or maybe back home where they came from.
Boston positives though.. with natives it does feel small townish, but it might be an issue if you are from out of town so not only will you feel uncomfortable around college kids, but maybe the natives who knew eachother for years too. I dunno, I'd still go with the latter and just look for some of the weirder natives into punk rock, indie or something or the occasional sports guy whos friendly and upfront or brings up funny stuff. I'd end up doing that if I lived in Boston and abandon the uptight polically correct marxists there or frat boys. I think you have a better shot with the natives personally even as an out of towner if you don't blend in with say the transplants. Some cities are good for meeting transplants, Boston not one of them imo.
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