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My sig. other is not leaving me and my illness. He is sticking by me.
If anything, I'm the one that wanted to leave so I wouldn't have to put him through this too but neither of us is going anywhere.
I knew of someone whose wife (in her thirties) was dying of bone cancer. Her husband was angry because she wasn't giving him enough sex because she was in pain and told her that it was her fault that he'd have to go get it from someone else. He remarried six months after she died.
I always hope life paid him back in some appropriate way.
I knew of someone whose wife (in her thirties) was dying of bone cancer. Her husband was angry because she wasn't giving him enough sex because she was in pain and told her that it was her fault that he'd have to go get it from someone else. He remarried six months after she died.
I always hope life paid him back in some appropriate way.
That's just too cruel. What goes around, comes around and nobody is immune to cancer.
While we were in chemo/radiation, I was always moved by the devotion of the spouses. All of us (the supportive spouse) had a silent communication as we waited or sat with our companions/spouses. I was truly moved by the love and compassion exhibited by couples.
It was truly moving.
I think the news article should be: Most Scumbag Men leave their spouses. They were scum before their wives were diagnosed with cancer and they showed their true colors after her diagnosis.
Actually it only says that "when couples did split, the patient was six times more likely to be a woman than a man"....without regard to reason (ie the cancer isn't necessarily the reason). They also say "It's important to note that most men do stay."
yep that is what I read.I actaully know several couples that split after the wife had and was treated for cancer. I these cases it was the female that decided to split. In knowing them ;they bascailly did what they ahd want to for years but the experience of cancer made them seek their dream. Most tuirned out not has they expected tho.
I had mentioned leaving to my sig. other because I was having a pity party and I didn't want him to have to deal with this too. He just laughed.
I didn't really want him to leave of course - just my emotions going crazy and saying things I don't really mean. There will be times I'll be helpless and I don't like being in that position where others have to do things for me so that's why I said what I said about me leaving.
These studies are pointless in general. People divorce for many many reasons and usually it's the guy that leaves vs the female. Probably the best thing they can do for us.
I may get blasted, but while it's horrible to leave a spouse for ANY reason, I can understand how the stress of cancer can make you just snap and leave. It's an extremely stressful situation (obviously for EVERYONE not just the spouse).. and if there were already problems I can see why someone may leave.
I wouldn't do that, but I think it's easier to say "Oh what a horrible person" but unless you've experienced the emotion and stress as a spouse it's hard to judge IMO.
My mother had been living with a man for 2 years before she was diagnosed with cervical cancer. I did not like him, and he did not like me. However, I was pleasently surprised when he took such good care of her through the whole ordeal, so I have a lot of respect for him now. Unfortunately, I could not be there for her since they moved to Dallas, and I still lived in Phoenix. She kept getting sicker and sicker, but he did whatever he had to accommodate her. Sadly, despite all efforts of the doctors she passed away a year later at only 52 years old.
I think it takes a special person to do this. It's very stressful not only for the person that is sick but for the person taking care of them.
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However, I was pleasently surprised when he took such good care of her through the whole ordeal, so I have a lot of respect for him now. Unfortunately, I could not be there for her since they moved to Dallas, and I still lived in Phoenix. She kept getting sicker and sicker, but he did whatever he had to accommodate her. Sadly, despite all efforts of the doctors she passed away a year later at only 52 years old.
