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Old 10-19-2014, 09:29 PM
 
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I miss my Dad so much. I miss how he used to talk to me about life and how he thought I was worthy of good things. I miss how he used to fix stuff around the house. I miss his humor and observations of the world.

He is in a Nursing Home for Alzheimer Patients now. He's been there almost 2 months. In beginning he was upset, then asked to come home. Now he just babbles a lot and he doesn't ask to come home anymore.

We moved him into the nursing home because he would wake up throughout the night and do stuff like call everyone names, or he would say he has to go to work.

My 83 yr old mother couldn't handle it anymore. She was spent. she is trying to keep herself healthy and happy.

My Dad didn't know what he was saying anymore.

Still, I miss him a lot. I go visit home him and sometimes he seems so happy and other times he just seems confused.

This is all so sad. Such a sad way to spend that last years of your life not knowing anything that you did before.

What an awful disease.
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Old 10-20-2014, 08:51 AM
 
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My heart goes out to you and your family. Its a terrible disease, I sincerely hope they are (in the future) able to find some effective treatments.
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Old 10-20-2014, 08:26 PM
 
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I'm so sorry. It is heartbreaking. It seems like the loved ones of people with dementia have to mourn twice.
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Old 10-21-2014, 09:56 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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My grandmother had Alzheimer's (at least diagnosed as such) for about the last eight years of her life. She was moved to a senior residence on what was supposed to be a temporary basis, after my grandfather went to the hospital and passed away shortly after. At first she hated it there, but then she came to accept it and actually liked being there.

It really is best for someone with that disease. The staff there made she was taken care of, had clean clothes, was eating properly, and taking her medication. Those were not happening consistently while she was at home, and as my grandfather's health was deteriorating.

She passed away last summer at the age of 92, with her two children at her side, in her apartment at the senior residence. While the disease took away a lot of her short term memory, it was at least a peaceful last few years for her. Much better than if we had somehow tried to keep her in her home, which would have been impossible anyway after grandpa passed.
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Old 10-21-2014, 10:25 AM
 
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I miss my Dad so much. I miss how he used to talk to me about life and how he thought I was worthy of good things. I miss how he used to fix stuff around the house. I miss his humor and observations of the world.

He is in a Nursing Home for Alzheimer Patients now. He's been there almost 2 months. In beginning he was upset, then asked to come home. Now he just babbles a lot and he doesn't ask to come home anymore.

We moved him into the nursing home because he would wake up throughout the night and do stuff like call everyone names, or he would say he has to go to work.

My 83 yr old mother couldn't handle it anymore. She was spent. she is trying to keep herself healthy and happy.

My Dad didn't know what he was saying anymore.

Still, I miss him a lot. I go visit home him and sometimes he seems so happy and other times he just seems confused.

This is all so sad. Such a sad way to spend that last years of your life not knowing anything that you did before.

What an awful disease.
Horrible disease. My grandfather also suffered from it. My grandma became sick while caring for him (dr said it seemed to be stress related) and thats when my uncles decided to put him in a nursing home. I still resent that nursing home because they did not care for him and always kept him sedated. He passed away 2 months after we put him in a nursing home. Sending hugs your way. It's a tragic disease to see your loved one slip away more and more each day
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Old 10-21-2014, 10:43 AM
 
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what did Ronald Regan say it is the long good bye my Mom had it also and she had to go to a home also.

There was simply no way I could work and give the care she did need. Of course by sibling thought one person could do it easy.
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Old 10-21-2014, 07:10 PM
 
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Thank you all. Such nice responses.

We found a nursing home close to our homes so we can visit him often. They also told us we could call anytime we wanted which we did at first but now we just visit him. He usually gets visitors 5 out of 7 days. I stop on my way home from work about 3 or 4 times a week because it's so convenient. The funny thing is that he remembers my name most of the time. Same with my siblings. I think the staff does the best they can. Most of them seem to have compassion for all the residents. When I visit him, he is clean, dressed and has eaten.

What worries me is him being alone so much. The staff tries to engage him in stuff - field trips, puzzles, painting - but he just isn't interested. I worry about him being alone and I don't want him to get the idea that we have abandoned him. He used to ask us to take him now but he doesn't do that anymore. it's like he's accepted that place even though all he does is sleep and walk around at night.

I hope they find a cure for this disease. I've heard lately that sugar may somehow be related. My Dad loved his sweets. I don't know.

His Dr said that while they have found a gene common in Alzheimers, a lot of people have that gene and don't get the disease. Not that this means anything to my Dad or others with the disease now.

I just miss my old "Dad". The guy that I could rely on. Now he needs me but I don't mind. Taking care of him and telling him that I love him is really sweet somehow. Giving back I guess for all those times he loved me even though I did stupid stuff.
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Old 10-22-2014, 01:37 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I am so sorry. Horrible disease.
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