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My younger sister had to endure a lot of abuse from our older sister when she was young, both physical and emotional. I was exempt from most of this by being the only boy. My frustration is from the way my older sister manipulated our parents to her whims, but mostly from her failing to travel a life path toward her own betterment.
I thought you were a brother due to your name but I could have sworn I saw you refer to yourself as a sister.. My mistake in my rep to you. I originally was right...
Well..... I got the call last night. One of our Sister's enabling friends called to ask if I knew what was going on with my older sister. I told her the major points of the info I had been able to squeeze out of others. The friends are now tired of taking care of my older sister and her stuff and want my younger sister and I to take over, particularly her cat.
I specifically asked if my sister was now agreeable to me knowing her situation. The friend stated she had been asked to contact me - so I guess that is a Yes.
Forty-five years of failing to take care of herself. Now I am about to retire, and I get to spend the first few months dealing with all her crap without benefit of "Signed & Witnessed" legal standing.
First call will be to my Sister.
Second call will be to an Elder Attorney. Which I will need to pay for since she has no assets other than a house which potentially could be condemned for the reasons given in earlier posts (and I may have neglected to mention the toilet in the half-bath is falling through the floor), and a 20 year-old Crown Victoria car. Value: maybe $500 to a Scrapper? Less than the anticipated Lawyer fees.
Why do you need to "deal with all her crap"? Sounds as if you've circled and put yourself right back to where you were in the beginning of this thread. Why do YOU need to hire the elder attorney? You could gather some resource information (local senior assistance offices, eldercare legal assistance), turn it over to your sister and leave her to make her own decisions...or not. As you say, you don't have any legal standing now, why should you change that? Remember what you yourself wrote about Red Cross life savers.
Last edited by Parnassia; 03-30-2020 at 11:47 AM..
Yeah, you are not obligated in any way to take over your sister's crap. And if you DO decide to do so, it should be entirely on YOUR terms, which may include selling the house. This sounds cold, but it's really self defense. Do you want to spend the rest of your life fighting with your sister?
Your sister has had others take care of her all of her life.
You get a call from her "enabling friends"-and not your sister- no longer want to care for her and they expect you and you sister to pick up the slack.
Take a step back. I am betting your sister has been high maintenance and high drama all her life. This is just another chapter. She hasn't helped herself her entire life. Why would she change now?
My younger sister had to endure a lot of abuse from our older sister when she was young, both physical and emotional. I was exempt from most of this by being the only boy. My frustration is from the way my older sister manipulated our parents to her whims, but mostly from her failing to travel a life path toward her own betterment.
Why would you want to assist anyone who was abusive to your younger sister?
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