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I have two unrelated male cats who are 16 & 17. The 16 year old is doing really well for his age, and while the 17 year old does have some kidney issues and is definitely older, overall he's doing pretty well (decent appetite, etc.). I have had them both for about 14 years.
A feel guilty admitting this, but I haven't really wanted them for about the past 5 years or so. I have taken good care of them because I feel obligated to, and because they're great cats for the most part, but that's really the only reason. I'm sure I'll miss them after they're gone, but at the same time I'll be glad because I'll be able to make some changes I've wanted to make for awhile.
Is or has anyone else been in a similar situation? I think the reason I feel this way now is because in many respects I was a very different person 14 years ago (age 30) than I am now. At that time cats served as a substitute for people, but after spending 14 years with them I realize they aren't people - not by a long shot.
They're old and it would be a great cruelty to take their home from them. You make a commitment to your pet and you should hold to it. When they go if you don't want another cat then don't get one, but I think you owe these two a comfortable end.
Maybe they aren't people but neither are they disposable.
I have two unrelated male cats who are 16 & 17. The 16 year old is doing really well for his age, and while the 17 year old does have some kidney issues and is definitely older, overall he's doing pretty well (decent appetite, etc.). I have had them both for about 14 years.
A feel guilty admitting this, but I haven't really wanted them for about the past 5 years or so. I have taken good care of them because I feel obligated to, and because they're great cats for the most part, but that's really the only reason. I'm sure I'll miss them after they're gone, but at the same time I'll be glad because I'll be able to make some changes I've wanted to make for awhile.
Is or has anyone else been in a similar situation? I think the reason I feel this way now is because in many respects I was a very different person 14 years ago (age 30) than I am now. At that time cats served as a substitute for people, but after spending 14 years with them I realize they aren't people - not by a long shot.
I'm understand, I think, some of what you're experiencing, though I have a different circumstance. I rescued Fiona 2 years ago; she's a senior cat whom the vet says is at least 13 years old, possibly older. I love her, yet in these last years I've become ill and it's harder and harder for me to care for her. I've begun to look for someone who can take over her care, though it will break my heart when it comes to that point.
That's what I'd do if I were you...start looking for a new Forever Home for them.
Cannot imagine having so little attachment to a beloved pet that's been in my home as long as your two cats have been in yours. We have 7 cats, the oldest two are turning 12 this year, and we love them all so much!!
I'm not really sure your cats deserve to be in home they're no longer wanted. They deserve to be loved and cherished, and even more so now that they're senior citizens who need an owner that is willing to care for their special needs.
There isn't any reason you can't have people in your life and take responsibility for your cats too. Cats have emotions just like people. They are attached to you and each other and their home. As another poster said, when they die, don't have pets. But you owe these two a comfortable senior life.
I pray this is a wind up.
Last edited by catsmom21; 02-05-2015 at 06:16 AM..
I have two unrelated male cats who are 16 & 17. The 16 year old is doing really well for his age, and while the 17 year old does have some kidney issues and is definitely older, overall he's doing pretty well (decent appetite, etc.). I have had them both for about 14 years.
A feel guilty admitting this, but I haven't really wanted them for about the past 5 years or so. I have taken good care of them because I feel obligated to, and because they're great cats for the most part, but that's really the only reason. I'm sure I'll miss them after they're gone, but at the same time I'll be glad because I'll be able to make some changes I've wanted to make for awhile.
Is or has anyone else been in a similar situation? I think the reason I feel this way now is because in many respects I was a very different person 14 years ago (age 30) than I am now. At that time cats served as a substitute for people, but after spending 14 years with them I realize they aren't people - not by a long shot.
Hang in there, you will be glad you did. Time flies. I have lots of animals, but will not take in any more. It will probably be at least ten years before the last one crosses the bridge, but before then they have a home here.
Is there someone in your life that is forcing this decision? Maybe not in words?
Do you want to be able to just leave on vacation without thinking of boarding or the expense? In what ways have you changed.
I was always a cat lover and still have indoor cats, but have grown to love dogs.
If you do decide to find them new homes, look for a reputable rescue that can help. Good luck.
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