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Old 09-13-2010, 10:58 AM
 
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So, I have traced an old friend to this forum. I’m doubtful that he will reply being that he hasn’t responded to any of my other attempts to reach him. He knows who he is. But just in case he needs a memory jolt…

Our friendship started in late 2001. We met in a Yahoo chat room and after a few weeks of exchanging laughs back and forth, we decided to take the next step to a phone call. It wasn’t long until we were talking on the phone every day.

He had just finished some sort of trucking school and as I recall..HATED trucking. I can imagine HIM being a trucker. That’s just not his style of work.

We became good friends quickly and after talking on the phone several times and talking online, we decided to meet. One time we met here and went out to eat where he ordered blackened tuna and another time we met at the beach and danced our butts off at Studebaker’s!! We had a special place in each other’s heart, but I knew a long distance love relationship would never work. If circumstances would have been different for me, I would have moved closer, but I couldn’t.

He knew all about my life. I never lied to him, I never kept secrets, and he never judged me. We promised each other that even if each of us married, we would always be friends. I’ve been married for almost 6 years now. I know that I stopped calling and I guess I was scared my husband would be jealous and it would cause an argument, but he has actually been supportive of me finding my old friend. As a matter of fact, he would probably like to meet my old friend and have dinner or something.

I would like to talk to you. I would like to know you are well. I would like to know if you’re married yet. I have pictures I want to show you. I have things I want to tell you. I’d like to stay in touch again.

You sent me a diamond necklace and I was blown away. I thought it was too much and I didn’t deserve it. I was going to send it back and you told me if I sent it back you would never speak to me again. So, I kept it and I still have it. Don’t make me send it back!! I have your address!!! (how creepy does that sound?..sorry, had to throw in some humor somewhere)

I sent you an email to your yahoo address. I called your phone but it’s always off. I sent you a text message and got no reply. I sent you a Facebook friend request and you deleted your profile. I just keep thinking “this is not the person I know” and wondering if maybe someone else is diverting my attempts??? I know that sounds stalkerish, and should probably just come to terms that I’m just a faint memory now, but I honestly thought our friendship was stronger than that.

If I have made you mad, I am sorry. I would never intentionally make you mad. I don’t know what I’ve done to deserve to the cold shoulder. I hope to hear back from you. If not, I guess I never will and I hope life is good to you because you deserve it. You’re a great guy and you’ll always be in my heart.

Your friend always,

Smuckers xoxo
(with a name like Smuckers…it HAS to be good
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Old 09-13-2010, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Summerville
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Hmm, can someone say Glenn Close?
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Old 09-13-2010, 12:46 PM
 
Location: Cane-Bay Plantation
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Hmm, can someone say Glenn Close?
Watch your rabbit Mister..........
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Old 09-13-2010, 02:41 PM
 
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LOL..I know that's how it sounds.
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Old 09-14-2010, 03:14 PM
 
Location: Charleston, SC
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Wow....Caligirl was looking for something "nonboring" on here....I think she just found it.

(I wish this guy would fess up as I want to watch this unfold.)
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Old 09-14-2010, 04:53 PM
 
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I wouldn't want him to "fess up" on a public forum. I'd rather he contact me privately.

Yes, it sounds crazy and a bit "fatal attraction" but is actually nothing at all like that. Just an old friend looking for another old friend with only intentions of catching up. I added the extra "drama" so he would know exactly who he was.
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Old 09-15-2010, 03:42 AM
 
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If he sent you a diamond necklace, sounds like he wanted more than you could give at the time. If he came to terms with that, even if it took totally erasing you from his life, give the guy a break and just let it rest. If I were your husband, I would sure be wondering about these lingering feelings, maybe you should be "looking for your real self" instead of this "friend".
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Old 09-15-2010, 08:24 AM
 
Location: Charleston, SC
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You chose a husband, so just move on. If you can't then maybe you shouldn't have chosen that husband.
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Old 09-15-2010, 08:33 AM
 
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I never said anything about "lingering feelings" and I'm quite sure I know my "real self". It's ok, my life is not stopping because he doesn't want to correspond with me. My reason for this thread was not to "rekindle" any old flame. It's nothing even close to that. There's alot that I can't post here that I learned on my vacation that leads me to believe that he could really use a friend to talk to. I guess I was wrong. (BTW, the lighthouses of NC are beautiful )
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Old 09-15-2010, 09:06 AM
 
Location: In a George Strait Song
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There's alot that I can't post here that I learned on my vacation that leads me to believe that he could really use a friend to talk to. I guess I was wrong.
But you are just now following up on all that? After how many years?

I am sure your intentions are good, but you know what they say about the road to....
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