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Old 09-14-2018, 08:59 AM
 
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Hi all! My husband and I are contemplating a move to Mt. P or Daniel Island in the next couple of years. We are drawn to the beauty of downtown, the beaches, history, weather, food.. I could go on. Coming from Boston, I know there will be some adjustment in terms of being used to people around me having similar liberal views, and I'm ok with that.

I know that it's a common opener to ask where you attend church. I'm a secular Jew and my husband is athiest/agnostic. How do people usually respond if you say, "oh, we don't attend church." I'm not looking to get into a debate or have to explain more when people (with good intentions!) invite us to their church. I'm happy to be friends with people that attend church regularly, but will we have trouble making friends because we do not go to church?
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Old 09-14-2018, 09:05 AM
 
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They will probably say, "If you change your mind, or if you would ever like to talk about it, we'd be happy to have you join us."


Your ability to make friends will be based more on you and less on religious activity.


If you're one of those people with the Darwin fish eating the Christian fish, then you're probably starting off on the wrong foot as that's communicating that you're picking a fight.
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Old 09-14-2018, 09:43 AM
 
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I moved here from MA 7 1/2 years ago and I have never been asked where I go to church. I don't go to church and I don't hear a lot of people talking about church.

I have found that there are a lot of liberal people in the Charleston area. There are a lot of northern transplants here, so maybe that is why. The biggest things I had to get used to was friendly people and all the sunny days since I was used to more overcast days.

Also, if you are interested, there is a fairly new Jewish center in Mount Pleasant. https://www.jewishchs.org/
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Old 09-14-2018, 12:31 PM
 
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Been here since 2009 and have never been asked about church.
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Old 09-14-2018, 12:36 PM
 
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Hi all! My husband and I are contemplating a move to Mt. P or Daniel Island in the next couple of years. We are drawn to the beauty of downtown, the beaches, history, weather, food.. I could go on. Coming from Boston, I know there will be some adjustment in terms of being used to people around me having similar liberal views, and I'm ok with that.

I know that it's a common opener to ask where you attend church. I'm a secular Jew and my husband is athiest/agnostic. How do people usually respond if you say, "oh, we don't attend church." I'm not looking to get into a debate or have to explain more when people (with good intentions!) invite us to their church. I'm happy to be friends with people that attend church regularly, but will we have trouble making friends because we do not go to church?

Don't worry about it. It's not old days anymore. In the 40 years I've lived in the South, nobody's EVER asked me about religion or church. There are synagogues BTW, and humanist groups too in the Lowcountry.
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Old 09-14-2018, 02:24 PM
 
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The few people who have ever asked me about church in my 25 years of living here have gotten a reply from me consisting of, I only need one rule and that's the Golden Rule so I don't find the need to spend time in church.

I usually go on to say if people are getting fulfillment and it's helping them be a better person I'm all for it, and if people are being obsessive and it's causing them to be a worse person than they should stop going. If they persist like when Jehovah's Witnesses visit my house I go on to tell them that they need to fix their Bible and remove the parts about slavery and wives being property and the hundred other contradictions in it so they can present a consistent message.

I usually speak with the Jehovah's Witnesses at such lengths that they tell me they have to leave. It cracks me up. Last time they asked who would edit the Bible if we were to do that, and I said I'll do it for you. They didn't take me up on it
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Old 09-14-2018, 02:37 PM
 
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And yet, simply saying "Thank you for the offer, I'll keep it in mind should I choose to attend." would probably have sufficed.
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Old 09-14-2018, 02:38 PM
 
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And yet, simply saying "Thank you for the offer, I'll keep it in mind should I choose to attend." would probably have sufficed.
Yep usually that would be good enough
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Old 09-14-2018, 02:46 PM
 
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If you are wanting religion and no guilt, The Seacoast Church has always been "Religion Lite" and works for many.
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Old 09-15-2018, 10:13 AM
 
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I've been down here over two decades and never been asked. In the most cases , the inquiry is only meant well and not an attempt to coerce religious attendance.
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