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Old 08-28-2009, 11:43 AM
 
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He may not have meant it in his OP, but it obviously came across that way to a lot of women who read it. And his post about 22 year olds - "****" is derogatory no matter how you slice it - didn't help him any. If anything, it would reinforce the perception of disrespect, since he obviously holds 22 year-old women in contempt.

Not all women are "on the prowl", and neither are all men sitting passively waiting for the women to "prowl" on by. Sweeping categorizations are sure to offend someone, since we're not all the same.

And as a further aside, what's the term for a 45 year old man looking for a 30 year old woman? Just because it's now "ok" for women to date younger men, why do we have to put a label on them at all? Because whether or not it's meant that way, it is derogatory to call a woman a cougar - just let her be a woman who found a man that made her happy, in whatever way, at whatever age.

*stepping down off soap box* (for now )

Because most of these "cougars" aren't looking for a man to make her happy "long" term, just for the night.... So people aren't calling all women 45 cougars, just the ones looking for one night stands with younger guys.

And 40 year old men looking for 21 year old women is what we call "creepy" guys

 
Old 08-28-2009, 11:44 AM
 
Location: CLT native
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...at least he didn't say MILF
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Old 08-28-2009, 11:53 AM
 
Location: Matthews, NC
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...at least he didn't say MILF
I was wondering when someone would break out that one. Much more derogatory than Cougar, IYAM.
 
Old 08-28-2009, 12:03 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Much more derogatory than Cougar, IYAM.
I agree. I hate to say it...but I think the term Cougar is really funny, doesn't bother me. And there is a 18 year old on my street that called me a Cougar. Looks like I will be correcting him that I am, in fact, a Puma. Kids


RAWR!

Thanks mullman! LOL.
 
Old 08-28-2009, 12:08 PM
 
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No need to say more......
 
Old 08-28-2009, 12:14 PM
 
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Don't worry anifan you will not get any of my attention.

The term was not meant to be demeaning, just in a short txt society its a quick way to distinguish a demographic.

We are getting away from my original question...all i am lookin for is a good hang out area without the 22yr old sluts....
22 and 22= 44
 
Old 08-28-2009, 12:21 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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And as a further aside, what's the term for a 45 year old man looking for a 30 year old woman?
I think I can help you out there....

Urban Dictionary: manther
 
Old 08-28-2009, 12:24 PM
 
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Because most of these "cougars" aren't looking for a man to make her happy "long" term, just for the night.... So people aren't calling all women 45 cougars, just the ones looking for one night stands with younger guys.

And 40 year old men looking for 21 year old women is what we call "creepy" guys
As a former male ****, I am highly insulted at any insinuation that a man at any age is creepy for seeking women over 18. My good friend in Moldova is 61 and has a lovely 22 year old bride. She loves him very much. She tell him every time he gives her money. Haven't you ever heard the following saying that are believable:

1. One good session with an older guy is better than three with a younger one.

2. Size doesn't matter.

3. I'm not usually this easy.

If a decision is being made whether this posting is a violation of some sort, I just want you to know that I am talking about tennis lessons.
 
Old 08-28-2009, 12:38 PM
 
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And his post about 22 year olds - "****" is derogatory no matter how you slice it...

But wait, some 22-year-olds really are ****'s by choice, so is it still derogatory? And if so, what word do you think we should use to describe them so people know exactly what we're looking for?
 
Old 08-28-2009, 12:59 PM
 
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Wow didn't realize this was such a hot button subject.

Basically the point of the original post, was not meant to ruffle feathers...just a question.

Take this as an open invite for all cougars reading this next wednesday...ballantyne mix at six...

be there...
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