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Old 09-28-2010, 08:12 AM
 
Location: Humboldt Park, Chicago
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You clearly did not ride the short bus to school and from your posts are attractive and I can tell articulate.

You need to try speed dating. You get all professionals and they even group it by age and interest.

I ultimately met my girlfriend a different way but it was good practice and much better than the internet. In the first 3 minutes you can tell a lot about a person and whether or not you want to see them again.

I am sure they have events all over the city, though most of them will be on the north side. If a guy is not into you or you are not into them, no big deal. You only spent 3 minutes and there are another 20 people you will meet in the next hour or so.

 
Old 09-28-2010, 08:23 AM
 
Location: alt reality
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Well, OP and other ladies, what else can anyone suggest?
No one wants to try or try again at meeting someone on-line
Nobody wants to do the approaching themselves
Some feel that every non-black man that approaches are fulfilling a fantasy
Some feel that the Chicago black/non-black men are too limited in their thinking and not cultured enough

So, with all of these hang-ups, I really don't know what else can be suggested for my fellow thin, smiling sistas. Best of luck to you all though.
 
Old 09-28-2010, 08:41 AM
 
Location: Humboldt Park, Chicago
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Default Parker

Again, I say try speed dating. You get a room full of people who are looking to date. You can self-select who you want to see again so long as they are interested as well. Much better than trying to meet someone online who uses glamour shot picture from 5 years and 50 lbs ago.
 
Old 09-28-2010, 08:53 AM
 
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The only time it's really socially acceptable for young white guys to socially date a black girl, is when that black girl is friends with alot of the white girls that the white guy hangs out with. That shows him that the other white girls in his social group view her as being ok to socialize with. That he can openly date this blck girl, and not feel isolated or weird when going out and being seen by everyone else, or later being cut off from dating some white girls that know about it who may perceive it as him being desperate. I heard online dating mentioned. What about online dating? That seems like a safe way for a white guy to meet a black girl and not be seen with her by people who know him. Do black women even have a hard time attracting white men through online dating? There are just so many more guys of every race on any online dating site then there are woman. On some of the more popular pay sites its like 5 to 1. The guys are way more likely to be paying members and the girls only sign up if a guy they like emails them. I would recommend online dating for black women looking to date white guys over trying to meet in social scenes. Who has tried it? what kind of guys did you meet if any?

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Old 09-28-2010, 09:24 AM
 
Location: alt reality
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Again, I say try speed dating. You get a room full of people who are looking to date. You can self-select who you want to see again so long as they are interested as well. Much better than trying to meet someone online who uses glamour shot picture from 5 years and 50 lbs ago.
That is a good suggestion. But I'm sure it will be shot down. For some reason, everything that has been mentioned in this thread just isn't doable for these ladies.
 
Old 09-28-2010, 09:28 AM
 
Location: South Chicagoland
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The only time it's really socially acceptable for young white men to socially date a black girl, is when that black girl is friends with alot of the white girls that the white guy hangs out with. That shows him that the other white girls in his social group view her as being ok to socialize with.
I wager the same taboo exists for white girls and black guys. This doesn't stop 'em from dating though.

Anyway, a lot of white girls like black guys BECAUSE it's taboo. She feels noticed and it turns heads when she walks down the street with a black guy. Her father told her to stay away from "his kind" but she knows he's perfectly nice and a great guy.

No, this isn't always what's going on in a white girl-black guy relationship but it's still prevalent.

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Old 09-28-2010, 12:27 PM
 
Location: Not where you ever lived
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Since I no longer live in Chicago, I have a question. Are there any black and white clubs where singles meet? If so, what is worng with them?
 
Old 09-28-2010, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Humboldt Park, Chicago
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Default Black/White lounge in Oak Park

There is a club/lounge in Oak Park on Lake near Oak Park Avenue, next to Red Hen Bread that has lots of mixed yuppie couples. I am not into jazz but my girlfriend wants to go as it is within a couple of blocks of where I live.

It is a pretty small place but looks pretty classy. 720 in the city has people of all races.

Nothing wrong with clubs that cater to people with different interests.

I still think the speed dating thing is the way to go though as you get to meet 20-30 professionals within a couple hours who are looking to date.

I actually met my girlfriend at a bar and we have been together 2 years and even live together but I do not think we are the norm. Many are just looking to 1 night hook-up.
 
Old 09-28-2010, 03:50 PM
 
Location: South Chicagoland
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How about the overweight/unattractive white girls that you often see with black guys in less affluent areas? What is going on there?
A black guy can make an overweight/unattractive white girl feel more sexy than a white guy ever could..
 
Old 09-28-2010, 04:06 PM
 
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A black guy can make an overweight/unattractive white girl feel more sexy than a white guy ever could..
This is true. I don't know why, but (most) white guys seem to be more picky about appearance. Although I'm basing this on white guys in the southeastern US, I don't know about white guys in Chicago.
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