Single Black women of Chicago- What's the dating scene like? (move, land)

[SoxCub Fan]

Originally Posted by reppin_the_847

I agree. I think Kelly Rowland is possibly sexier than Beyonce. Go figure.

OK now you have went wayyy too far! kelly sexier than Beyonce? Really??

Im not a fan of either but....come on. Last man on Earth, 2 women left, one has to go and you're gonna keep Kelly???


STOP IT!!

[SoxCub Fan]

Originally Posted by nyanna

This is really sad that you will say this about black women. Just sad.

At least African men uplift their women. I was on a Nigerian forum and many of the black men on there found tons of positive things to say about the women in their country. Too bad the same can't be said for African American men.

Sometimes, I wonder how do you view the women in your family? If you have a sister or an aunt who has trouble dating, do you tell her its because she's too fat, too old, and promiscous ?

Maybe Nigerians say uplifting things about the women in their country, because the culture is completely different than ours and the Nigerian women are actually respectable...and nothing like what us African American men have to deal with. I actually had an experience that is perfect for this. I used to work with a Nigerian named Anthony, we worked around at least 200 African American women and he had zero respect for them! He thought they were beneath him, at the time I thought he was crazy, I was only 22....but after I dated a Nigerian girl years later I realized they are not the same type of women, and I understood his perspective.

Why do African American women feel they should be uplifted, respected, and praised....when the majority of them dont behave in ways that are deserving of this treatment. Its sad that the small percentage of respectable ones have to suffer for the actions of the majority but....hey this is the sad reality. And there are some very very very great African American women out there but finding them is such an arduous process that one can grow tired and simply give up! Especially African American men who can attract women outside of the Afr American dating pool, they are definitely not dealing with the grunt work to find these diamonds in the rough.

[RiverRise]

Originally Posted by SoxCub Fan

Why do African American women feel they should be uplifted, respected, and praised....when the majority of them dont behave in ways that are deserving of this treatment.

I hope you don't have any daughters.

[SoxCub Fan]

Originally Posted by nyanna

Sometimes, I wonder how do you view the women in your family? If you have a sister or an aunt who has trouble dating, do you tell her its because she's too fat, too old, and promiscous ?

I have a bunch of overweight loud mouth cousins and aunts who need to find a treadmill. Some of them like being overweight because they equate it to being a "grown up"! Yea a bunch fat cows who sit around the kitchen table gossiping, judging, and down talking African American men any chance they can. Matriarch mentality women who are passing there disgusting behaviors off to the next generation of women....so yeah this is what I think about some of the women in my family...my mother doesnt fit in here, but I have a younger sister who wasnt raised in the community I was raised in, who is well on her way to this....but plenty of cousins and aunts who fit the bill.

I tell the truth!! these women are nothing to praise or uphold!!

[SoxCub Fan]

Originally Posted by RiverRise

I hope you don't have any daughters.

If I did I would not raise her in a community where the values are out of whack, in a place where she would learn to be insecure, low self-value, low self-esteem, how to be self-centered and arrogant. Its all about upbringing.

[Tinawina]

Originally Posted by SoxCub Fan

OK now you have went wayyy too far! kelly sexier than Beyonce? Really??

Im not a fan of either but....come on. Last man on Earth, 2 women left, one has to go and you're gonna keep Kelly???


STOP IT!!

My husband and my god brother have both said the same thing. Both prefer Kelly to Beyonce.

My god brother would also kick both out of bed for Jill Scott.

Different strokes I guess. LOL

[Mr.Bourgeois]

Originally Posted by Tinawina

My husband and my god brother have both said the same thing. Both prefer Kelly to Beyonce.

My god brother would also kick both out of bed for Jill Scott.

Different strokes I guess. LOL

[RiverRise]

Originally Posted by SoxCub Fan

If I did I would not raise her in a community where the values are out of whack, in a place where she would learn to be insecure, low self-value, low self-esteem, how to be self-centered and arrogant. Its all about upbringing.

So you'd basically raise her in a vacuum? Cool.

[SoxCub Fan]

Originally Posted by Tinawina

My god brother would also kick both out of bed for Jill Scott.

Somebody is lying....I dont know if its you or its your brother! But someone is lying for the sake of proving a point!

[SoxCub Fan]

Originally Posted by RiverRise

So you'd basically raise her in a vacuum? Cool.

Oh I get it, you've never lived in a decent neighborhood where crime and ignorant hoodlums dont exist. It sounds like a fairytale to you! LMAO! Well honey it does exist, and they are everywhere..just open your eyes....and you can join the rest of us, just take the first step and make a decision to move out of the hood. Its ok! We wont judge you.