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Old 06-30-2011, 09:39 AM
 
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Romance is about calculated symbolic gestures, it definitely isn't some sort of cliche thing, nor is it a loser vying for an unrequited love (which is, at its center, a violent act.) For ex.: take gift giving. If you buy something practical as a gift, you are simply fulfilling a need. That is not a gift, it is an exchange. A real gift is necessarily something that is properly useless, diamonds/gold etc. I'm not defending the rabid consumerism that turns gold into a means of domination, I'm just schooling yall because apparently in our age of "objectivity" and "practicality" we have neglected really basic social acts, the types of things that were known well in the literature of previous centuries.
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Old 06-30-2011, 11:01 AM
 
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Romance is about calculated symbolic gestures, it definitely isn't some sort of cliche thing, nor is it a loser vying for an unrequited love (which is, at its center, a violent act.) For ex.: take gift giving. If you buy something practical as a gift, you are simply fulfilling a need. That is not a gift, it is an exchange. A real gift is necessarily something that is properly useless, diamonds/gold etc. I'm not defending the rabid consumerism that turns gold into a means of domination, I'm just schooling yall because apparently in our age of "objectivity" and "practicality" we have neglected really basic social acts, the types of things that were known well in the literature of previous centuries.


I absolutely understand that a "loser vying for an unrequited love" can TURN violent, if he can't take no for an answer. But what if he/she is simply trying one more time, thinking that maybe there is a chance. I certainly don't see that as violent. Unless of course, you mean as I said, can turn violent, but "at the center: a violent act" that sounds a bit strong.
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