Chicago for single gay men in their forties: what to do/where to go/who to meet?

[quigboto]

Originally Posted by MSWTEBO

My question had nothing to do with me not being able to make friends and everything to do with wanting suggestions about how to do it. I don't claim to know it all, so I don't mind a little help. By the way...being gay doesn't automatically make you an expert at social skills and at making friends. That's just a notion based on stereotypes.

Again, not all gay men have those wonderful social graces that you seem to assign to this monolithic gay culture that you have most likely convinced yourself exists. It's just like straights...some are socially awkward, some are social magicians.

No, thanks. That might work if you want to have inconsequential sex, but I was quite clear about my desire to make friends, not to look for casual encounters.

Thanks for the suggestions anyway!

I'm telling you man, Chicago is a friendly city. You've gotten some good advice here (Which you seem very open to) but you're going to do fine here. Making friends in this town is easy.

[NealIRC]

Originally Posted by quigboto

For example. I am very lucky to have a very social existence, being a working musician. I socialize with other musicians, with audience members, with bartenders, and with miscellaneous bar patrons. This is only one part of my social life, and most of those people won't end up being friends per se, but I am meeting new people on a daily basis, and that's where it starts.

Then again, I wonder why I am still dispensing advice to you, since you have completely twisted my previous offerings into some racist BS like "hang out with more white people"
Jeez, I feel dumber for having written this.

Well you probably know my Dad then, he's a regular at Piano Forte, and back when they were in the Fine Arts Building. And various other places like Orchestra Hall.

[MSWTEBO]

Originally Posted by quigboto

I'm telling you man, Chicago is a friendly city. You've gotten some good advice here (Which you seem very open to) but you're going to do fine here. Making friends in this town is easy.

Thanks a lot! I am really looking forward to being there!