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Old 03-23-2010, 03:43 AM
 
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I'm in my 40s and after reading the threads here it seems like it's a city for mainly people in their 20s - 30s. What about people in their 40s and 50s who are single?

I was in Chicago for a couple of years in my 20s and absolutely loved it. It did seem like everywhere I went there were tons of young people just like me. I have been contemplating (not planning yet) on the possibility of moving back to Chicago but am wondering if I'm basing it too much on my memory of the place as a 20-something year old.

I've lived in and visited a lot of major cities around the world and have to say Chicago is the #1 American city in my book in terms of overall enjoyability, with only London and Munich as global contenders. But as a young person I did go out a lot and enjoyed the nightlife back then; fastforward 20 yrs, now I'm quiet, do not party, and keep to myself mostly.

I haven't been back for these 20 yrs and so need to know from you Chicagoans....is it really mostly geared for young folks? How do older singles feel about their life there?

Btw, I live in Hawaii and I get a lot of flack for thinking about leaving paradise and moving to a cold place. I'm not thrilled with being frozen but just miss city life in Chicago -- the jazz, the bldgs, the dining, museums....stuff that isn't found here and isn't missed by those who have never experienced it.

Look forward to your answers.

(p.s. A former co-worker did move back to Chicago after spending a decade here...and is soooo much happier for it.)
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Old 03-23-2010, 05:51 AM
 
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It's Chicago. There's a 'scene' for everyone. A lot of what you see emphasized on an internet BBS is going to be slanted heavily towards the younger crowd, simply because, well, that's the group most likely to be using internet BBS (as you know- big generational split with the internet, where 10 years are in either direction can make a huge difference with how it relates to your life).

But yeah. 40, no problem. Haven't you heard? 40 is the new 60. There are all sorts of senior activities you can do here; shuffleboard, early-bird special dining- I know for a fact that the remnants of the original Lawrence Welk orchestra never misses Chicagoland when making it's rounds. Plus, there plenty of leafy parks where you can sit down on a nice bench and fondly reminisce about the past.

In all seriousness- 40 is a-ok in Chicago. Plenty to see and do. Good singles scene. Just keep one thing in mind- you can return to the places you knew when you were young, but you can never return to being young again. Keep your expectations reasonable. The things that you dug about Chicago two decades ago at 23 may look very different when viewed through a 43 year old prism.
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Old 03-23-2010, 07:08 AM
 
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I think PokerPlayer is mostly correct, there are lots of singles of all ages in Chicago. More important is that you find an area that will suit your current desires. Lakeview trends pretty young, sections of the Gold Coast, very old. Most of the rest of the popular near-to-the -lake and lakefront neighborhoods have a nice mix of ages.
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Old 03-23-2010, 02:00 PM
 
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Hi Aqua0. I too currently live in a warm "paradise" locale but I miss the energy and fast pace of Chicago. I do hate being cold but we are working hard to get back to Chicago soon. I am almost 40 and like you we did worry that Chicago is a 20-somethings' city. But we realized that clearly that can't be true. I do remember there being people in their 40's in the city. Looking through Chicago magazines, I've seen photos of people in their 40's (and older) at Chicago social fundraisers and other events.
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Old 03-23-2010, 03:29 PM
 
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I'm in my 40s and after reading the threads here it seems like it's a city for mainly people in their 20s - 30s. What about people in their 40s and 50s who are single?

I was in Chicago for a couple of years in my 20s and absolutely loved it. It did seem like everywhere I went there were tons of young people just like me. I have been contemplating (not planning yet) on the possibility of moving back to Chicago but am wondering if I'm basing it too much on my memory of the place as a 20-something year old.

I've lived in and visited a lot of major cities around the world and have to say Chicago is the #1 American city in my book in terms of overall enjoyability, with only London and Munich as global contenders. But as a young person I did go out a lot and enjoyed the nightlife back then; fastforward 20 yrs, now I'm quiet, do not party, and keep to myself mostly.

I haven't been back for these 20 yrs and so need to know from you Chicagoans....is it really mostly geared for young folks? How do older singles feel about their life there?

Btw, I live in Hawaii and I get a lot of flack for thinking about leaving paradise and moving to a cold place. I'm not thrilled with being frozen but just miss city life in Chicago -- the jazz, the bldgs, the dining, museums....stuff that isn't found here and isn't missed by those who have never experienced it.

Look forward to your answers.

(p.s. A former co-worker did move back to Chicago after spending a decade here...and is soooo much happier for it.)
If you define "Chicago" as "Lincoln Park, Lakeview, Wicker Park and Bucktown," as many actually do, then your fears are probably correct. Sorry man
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Old 03-24-2010, 05:39 PM
 
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Hi Aqua0. I too currently live in a warm "paradise" locale but I miss the energy and fast pace of Chicago. I do hate being cold but we are working hard to get back to Chicago soon. I am almost 40 and like you we did worry that Chicago is a 20-somethings' city. But we realized that clearly that can't be true. I do remember there being people in their 40's in the city. Looking through Chicago magazines, I've seen photos of people in their 40's (and older) at Chicago social fundraisers and other events.


Yes, the energy just isn't the same, is it? I miss the city energy, but Chicago has a laid backness that NYC lacks, yet doesn't have the extreme left-wing politics of San Fran. And cleaner than either one.

I can deal with the cold (I used to live in the cold elevation here on Maui and due to lack of heating, slept in 45 degree F nightly!).

The dryness in Chicago is what gets me (waking up to bleeding capillaries in my nose) and hayfever in the spring. Good luck on your move! Hope you find the right area.

Thanks everyone for responding. I didn't know one had to target certain neighborhoods and areas. And I do realize I can't put on the same rose-colored 20-something glasses and expect to feel the same way about the place. I 'll be sure not to compare reality to a 20-year-old memory. But from what I read, Chicago has improved. Millenium park wasn't there when I was there, etc. I suspect my form of entertainment and recreation would be the Chicago symphony, museums, plays, and other cultural activities.
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Old 03-25-2010, 12:23 AM
 
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Chicago is fine. If you have a strong will and strong mind, everything will be ok.
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Old 03-25-2010, 10:12 AM
 
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...And I do realize I can't put on the same rose-colored 20-something glasses and expect to feel the same way about the place. I 'll be sure not to compare reality to a 20-year-old memory. But from what I read, Chicago has improved. Millenium park wasn't there when I was there, etc. ...
Chicago improved in the last 20 years? Inner city Chicago, that is?

Oh. My gosh. Yes. If you haven't been back since 1990 you'll be very impressed.
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Old 03-25-2010, 10:34 AM
 
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The Viagra Triangle is proof that it's not only for the young.
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Old 06-30-2010, 08:38 PM
 
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There is definitely an abundance of young people in Chicago. I've been living here for over a year now. I'm an attractive female in my early 30's, yet dating is SO hard here! Men don't believe in Chilvary anymore, and they love being "chased". Most of the guys I've met are too young to date. Great city? Absolutely. Good dating scene? Sure, if you're not looking for anything serious.

Although if you are in your 40's. You'll find a girl no problem... just go to 33 club, or any place in the viagra triangle. You'll have more luck then me finding a good guy out there!
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