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If you expect people to adhere to Biblical teaching regarding the topic of sex, then you need to teach about it. Just my thoughts...take 'em or leave 'em.
Regarding the actual act of sex or teaching about sex?
Teaching should be discussed first b/c then it can serve as a go-by for natural actions that would follow. Do you think it's also a good idea to keep as much as possible in a Christian context, and leave innuendo and suggestion for other forums?
When I say "teaching about sex", I didn't have sex-ed in mind. I wasn't talking about a how-to class. That should be the parent's job.
I was talking about teaching God's plan for sex. The Bible does not hide it's position on the issue. I think that when people make it a taboo topic, it raises misconceptions in the congregation. It should be openly addressed so that they know the act itself is not evil or only meant for procreation.
When I say "teaching about sex", I didn't have sex-ed in mind. I wasn't talking about a how-to class. That should be the parent's job.
I was talking about teaching God's plan for sex. The Bible does not hide it's position on the issue. I think that when people make it a taboo topic, it raises misconceptions of the congregation. It should be openly addressed so that they know the act itself is not evil or only meant for procreation.
Well said. On a short list, what are some do's and don'ts that would contrast society's list.
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Well said. On a short list, what are some do's and don'ts that would contrast society's list.
I don't mean to interrupt, but I think it's more of a "love" vs "lust" issue. Am I expressing my love and becoming one flesh with my spouse? Or simply gratifying my selfish "needs"?
I don't mean to interrupt, but I think it's more of a "love" vs "lust" issue. Am I expressing my love and becoming one flesh with my spouse? Or simply gratifying my selfish "needs"?
I agree. There is more to the topic than just waiting until marriage. Maybe it would best be discussed during a pre-marraige counseling session.
I have heard about people who have been taught that the act itself is evil and that it should only be used to reproduce. That is false teaching and causes division in the home. I think there are a multitude of other teachings being issued from a "Christian" perspective that result in discord rather than a strengthening of the marriage relationship.
I don't mean to interrupt, but I think it's more of a "love" vs "lust" issue. Am I expressing my love and becoming one flesh with my spouse? Or simply gratifying my selfish "needs"?
Please go on. Elaborate. †
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IMHO, the "sin" we all have in common is LUST. I believe lust is the opposite of love. Lust is self centered and selfish. It is a by-product of pride.
As a married man, I have struggled with lust in the marriage bed. And frankly believe lusting after my wife is hurtful to her and to our marriage.
It is a comfort to me to know that GOD has blessed our union, and it is HIS will that we be "fruitful" as a couple. When I focus on the gift of my wife, and the purpose of our union, lust is less of an issue.
Oakback, I hope you won't mind me posting this here, but I thought that you explained it very well. We men probably all have struggled with this...
well i wish i was the young shepherd and woooed my good lady like that! lol
she still complains that my down on one knee was on a two foot wall out side her house..
serious: im sure that these expresions of endearment are beautiful and any young shulamite maiden would have melted....
i think i would have had serious looks and a quick withdrawel of the popped question!
i think we could learn a little from these words....
solomon was very greedy though dont you think?
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