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It's been upwards of 8 years since I had the need. You get, to an extent, what you pay for. At the bottom end (and a place to truly lose all hope in humanity) is PlentyOfFish.com (free) and then there is for instance eHarmony types of sites which attempt to provide useful filters and tools to help you find like-minded dates in exchange for modest $$.
I don't know what you mean by "safe". I don't think even PlentyOfFish would be inherently "unsafe" for anyone with common sense.
If you mean "no chance of meeting a closet Satanist or Atheist", I don't see how even a site designed for Christians can read people's minds and prevent you from meeting a poser who wants to turn you into a lamp shade. Meet new people in a public place, don't give out your home address or phone on the first date, make sure people who care about you know where you are going, stuff like that.
I am skeptical that ChristianMingle, FarmersOnly, BlackPeopleMeet, and similar specialty tribal dating sites really are helpful except in between people's ears, but I'll admit I never tried one.
I've been semi-seriously mulling an old-fashioned Companions ad in the local paper. Not to seek a particular religious persuasion, or non. Just somebody already in the geographic area - which is sort of rural and not everyone's cuppa.
Never tried an online dating site. They kinda weird me out from what I've read - like Mordant's post above. I hardly even dare peek at the Relationship forum here on CD.
I've been semi-seriously mulling an old-fashioned Companions ad in the local paper. Not to seek a particular religious persuasion, or non. Just somebody already in the geographic area - which is sort of rural and not everyone's cuppa.
Never tried an online dating site. They kinda weird me out from what I've read - like Mordant's post above. I hardly even dare peek at the Relationship forum here on CD.
I've been out of the pool a long time.
If you don't mind everyone in Hooterville knowing what you're up to, I guess a Companions ad is a possibility. Wouldn't be something I'd want to do, I'm too private.
You would fair better going to a coffee house.
Try being a little more social.
I go to coffee houses just to change up my telework environment once in awhile and I don't know how that would work. It's not like people just ask to sit with you and strike up conversations.
On the other hand, several years ago when my wife was busy dying she used to shoo me out of my role as sole caregiver every morning, bless her, and insist that I get out of the house. Some retired guys were there every morning at another table and eventually the gregarious one in that crowd invited me to join them and we hit it off and it was a good situation for me for years after. But that's not really the same thing.
I have heard more than one person seeking companionship bemoan how depressing coffee shops and bars are.
Maybe a better thing would be meetup.com and search your area for singles social clubs, those are pretty active in some areas. Just singles going to movies in groups, dinners, hiking, that sort of low pressure group activity, and the hope I guess is that you'll hit it off with someone special eventually. But that is tough for some introverts. Other possibilities include people with similar interests who get together. In our area for instance there was a French speaker's club that would meet for dinner and so everyone could practice speaking and understanding conversational French.
If you don't mind everyone in Hooterville knowing what you're up to, I guess a Companions ad is a possibility. Wouldn't be something I'd want to do, I'm too private.
Oh, I'd be using a nom de plume, like here, and an anonymous email addy for contacts. It wouldn't be until/if virtual contact seemed indicative of an RL follow-up that you'd exchange real names/info.
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