Best cities in the United States for a bachelor that wants to make lots of new friends and restart their social life.

[Ghengis]

Originally Posted by notgonnagetmarried

Isn't LA and So cal a place suffering with lots of single dudes but not enough single women?

Originally Posted by notgonnagetmarried

...My interests in life include working on weekdays and spending the weekends getting drunk, partying, hooking up with random women, and making male friends that love doing all of that on weekends as well. I love pool parties and other parties that have a lot of attractive women in them and cool guys as well.

well if nothing else, LA will stisfy your desire to be in a city with lots of like-minded, cool guys.

[TitanRam]

Originally Posted by RJ312

Ok, OP, let's assume you are a guy starting from scratch right now. You have no friends, no steady girlfriend, and you have not had sex in a while. You have already graduated college. I'll assume for this exercise that you are about 25 years old. What do you do?

For the questions you asked, pretty much any large city in the United States with a metropolitan population area over 500,000 will meet the criteria.

No matter where you live, even in large cities, you are going to encounter social issues if you are unable to form a meaningful long term relationship with a woman over an extended period of time. At any given time, most people are either married or unmarried and seeing someone exclusively. In major metropolitan areas, even in more liberal areas, once your social circle hits their mid-to-late 20s, pretty much everyone in partnered off to some degree at any given time. This gets amplified once the majority of your social circle hits 30. Sure, some people might have some small gaps here and there between relationships, but given enough time (say 6 months or so), these people have found someone new. Partnered off people generally do not enjoy hanging out with single, unattached people and single, unattached people are not really keen to hang with partnered off people. Even with the best of intentions from all parties, there's friction evident in these arrangements. You'll have hard time forming good relationships with other males if you are single and they have a girlfriend/wife because they'll be more focused on maintaining that relationship. If you meet a guy and you are both single, and he becomes attached before you do, once he becomes attached, you'll see less of him.

I read this post yesterday, and have been thinking a lot about it since. A lot of what you say has truth, but I think that as millennials age people will find that many of these societal norms are not as hard and fast as they used to be. This is primarily because:

1. The average age of marriage for men is 29, and for women is 26.5. This number is expected to climb, especially since the economy has not recovered for younger workers, and also because casual dating is seen as a norm. Millennials Want to Marry Later - The Atlantic
2. More Americans than at any other point in history live alone. In fact, over 25% of Americans live by themselves. https://www.washingtonpost.com/polit...c10_story.html

While I don't expect to see marriage or long-term relationships erode within this generation, it will not be common to marry in your early twenties. In fact, it has often been cited that millenials are living in a period of extended adolensence which now stretches till their 30's - http://www.theguardian.com/commentis...p-to-adulthood. Once again, this largely has to do with economic factors; since over half of millennials between the ages of 18-26 live at home and just under half of that same group are either unemployed or underemployed, they don't have the means for marriage or wish to experience the next phase of life before diving into that one.

[notgonnagetmarried]

I think a lot of this also had to do with media and decaying moral fabric which is why the advice of so many of the older guys telling people to "grow up" is just bad advice in general. People used to go to college to get married in terms of relationships but these days, things like hook up culture have infiltrated college and women use those years to mainly experiment with guys they see as high value in that scene (usually football players and fraternity brothers in high value fraternities).

Millennials in general are just slower to mature and I think a lot of it has to do with us becoming less religious as a country and the media becoming more hedonistic to where sleeping around and getting wasted are seen as the norm.

I just want to live that kind of life after college.

[po-boy]

Originally Posted by notgonnagetmarried

Millennials in general are just slower to mature and I think a lot of it has to do with us becoming less religious as a country and the media becoming more hedonistic to where sleeping around and getting wasted are seen as the norm.

I just want to live that kind of life after college.

If you want to keep the college lifestyle going maybe you should go to grad school.

But almost any largish city will provide the opportunities you are looking for. If you can go to a decent size city and get an okay job so you have some money to spend you are going to find some other young people to hang out and drink and party with.

New Orleans has a ton of people who like to drink and hang out.

[02blackgt]

I would argue there is no best city to make new friends. People are people everywhere, plain and simple. Any major city-suburban area is going to have a huge mix. By and large, living in the city itself will surround you with more transient people, and thus more likely people who are looking to meet new people as well. I would argue its no easier to make new friends in NY as its is in LA, Dallas, or any other city. Thinking other wise really does not make much sense honestly.