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Where were you offered a job? If your salary isn't sufficient it will be very trying to afford a single family apartment. The Norwich area has high rental rates compared to pay. This area doesn't offer much. The only perk is that its an hour away from Providence where there are tons of clubs to enjoy as well as incredible restaurants. Norwich is just shy of 2 hours from Boston which offers not only culture but nightlife! To get to NYC it takes about an hour and a half utilizing the express train out of the Metro hubs in the western side of the state. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if you have job offers elsewhere, I'd take a long hard look at them. Norwich does not offer much but poverty and casinos. The 'single' seen is nonexistent and the younger crowds are exiting in droves. This area is not thriving in any sense of the word. Best of luck and I hope you find a place!
yes, it must be horrible living close to beaches, historical sites, good restaurants, not to mention the clubs at the casinos that offer nightlife.
There are plenty of rentals available in the area and the OP is certainly not limited to Norwich.
Actually, to me it seems the older crowd is leaving in droves. Especially in that area of CT.
They put their houses up for sale and move to Florida or some other warm place.
Im saying this because I did work on countless houses in that area over last Summer and my job was getting the home to look nice and shiny before they had people look at it.
OP, Im sure if you really wanted to, you can find a room in a house with roommates and pay month to month. I guarantee youll find a sweet deal if you look hard enough and it gives you time to settle in and adjust to CT. Or you can just get a place of your own right from the get-go...
You should definitely be able to find a place within a month, instead of just committing before you see it.
OP, I have lived all over CT and my brother lives in Hartford. AmandaBoore is dead on with her assessment. Look elsewhere for a job. CT is great state if you are married and raising a family otherwise its quite boring. There are many well paying jobs in CT for young people because few want to live there!
I actually worked in Norwich for almost 6 months and I lived in Groton. Norwich was formerly dubbed the "Rose of New England" but it is now very runned down, an effect of the casinos I suspect. There is also a heroine problem. In the winter the casinos are the only source of entertainment and that gets old real fast, especially if you don't like the smell of smoke.
I've also lived in Houston and Dallas TX. I found more to do in those cities than the entire state of Connecticut. I met many transplants while living in those cities and they were very open to meeting new people and making friends. Connecticut is actually experiencing a "brain drain" in which young people leave the state. The young people there tend to be born and raised in the area. If you had to live in CT I would choose New Haven.
OP, I have lived all over CT and my brother lives in Hartford. AmandaBoore is dead on with her assessment. Look elsewhere for a job. CT is great state if you are married and raising a family otherwise its quite boring. There are many well paying jobs in CT for young people because few want to live there!
I actually worked in Norwich for almost 6 months and I lived in Groton. Norwich was formerly dubbed the "Rose of New England" but it is now very runned down, an effect of the casinos I suspect. There is also a heroine problem. In the winter the casinos are the only source of entertainment and that gets old real fast, especially if you don't like the smell of smoke.
I've also lived in Houston and Dallas TX. I found more to do in those cities than the entire state of Connecticut. I met many transplants while living in those cities and they were very open to meeting new people and making friends. Connecticut is actually experiencing a "brain drain" in which young people leave the state. The young people there tend to be born and raised in the area. If you had to live in CT I would choose New Haven.
How did you like swimming in the ocean while you were in Dallas & Houston? It's a quick drive from Norwich to Misquamicut, and even less of one to LI Sound beaches like Rocky Neck & Ocean Beach.
Were you able to hop on a train in those cities & see a Broadway show a few hours later? Sure, you can get quality off Broadway shows in those cities, but you can get that at The Bushnell as well.
How about driving a few minutes to world class casinos at Mohegan Sun & Foxwoods? Could you do that in Dallas or Houston?
Sure, Houston & Dallas may have more nightclubs than Norwich and New London, but how many nightclubs does one really need? (And, driving from Norwich to New Haven to go to a club is like driving across Houston, only without the traffic)
Although New London County is a beautiful area of CT, it's lightly populated and lacks any real presence or vibe of young people. I would not recommend it to a young person starting a career, unless they were married or something, or are introverted and don't care about dating. I'm young and single and would love to live in that area, but I would probably get depressed very fast because of the near total lack of social life and single people near my age. It's just the truth. Now, if you were in a relationship with someone or didn't care about social life, I would take it in a HEARTBEAT.
The entire state of CT doesn't have quite as much young singles as most other places in the U.S. It's not terrible, but it's not ideal.
I'm 30 and feel like I wasted the past 7 years of my life here, sadly. The dating scene is extremely difficult. Almost everyone I know that is married at my age, were either high school sweethearts or met through high school friends or moved to CT after meeting their spouse somewhere other than CT. That's just the way it is, unfortunately, because we don't have any "exciting" metropolitan areas at the time being. Hopefully that will change in the future.
I will most likely be leaving CT sometime in the middle of this year, just to have a more vibrant social life as a single person. The singles/dating scene in CT is extremely stagnant. I lived in NYC from ages 23-24, but was too young and naïve to really excel in the dating world. Now, I want to live somewhere that's more singles oriented again.
Although New London County is a beautiful area of CT, it's lightly populated and lacks any real presence or vibe of young people. I would not recommend it to a young person starting a career, unless they were married or something, or are introverted and don't care about dating. I'm young and single and would love to live in that area, but I would probably get depressed very fast because of the near total lack of social life and single people near my age. It's just the truth. Now, if you were in a relationship with someone or didn't care about social life, I would take it in a HEARTBEAT.
The entire state of CT doesn't have quite as much young singles as most other places in the U.S. It's not terrible, but it's not ideal.
I'm 30 and feel like I wasted the past 7 years of my life here, sadly. The dating scene is extremely difficult. Almost everyone I know that is married at my age, were either high school sweethearts or met through high school friends or moved to CT after meeting their spouse somewhere other than CT. That's just the way it is, unfortunately, because we don't have any "exciting" metropolitan areas at the time being. Hopefully that will change in the future.
I will most likely be leaving CT sometime in the middle of this year, just to have a more vibrant social life as a single person. The singles/dating scene in CT is extremely stagnant. I lived in NYC from ages 23-24, but was too young and naïve to really excel in the dating world. Now, I want to live somewhere that's more singles oriented again.
The writing is on the wall at this point.
Sorry, I disagree with almost all of this. I've never had an issue with dating in CT. Neither have any of my friends--I don't have ANY friends who are married to their high school sweethearts. They also have all met in Connecticut (with the exception of one couple) My friend who lived in the Groton area from the ages of 23-26 never had an issue either.
If you are open to meeting people--a smile on your face and friendly--you will do just fine in that area, especially at that age (like I previously said!)
Sorry, I disagree with almost all of this. I've never had an issue with dating in CT. Neither have any of my friends--I don't have ANY friends who are married to their high school sweethearts. They also have all met in Connecticut (with the exception of one couple) My friend who lived in the Groton area from the ages of 23-26 never had an issue either.
If you are open to meeting people--a smile on your face and friendly--you will do just fine in that area, especially at that age (like I previously said!)
I think most of us armchair psychologists would agree that nep's personal issues hold him back from happiness in most areas of his life. Personally, professionally, etc. Most people who socially put themselves out there in a positive light get the same in return...that goes for most places, including Connecticut.
To the OP, that is a more than adequate salary for the area. Just don't commute in from Providence, that sounds like a nightmare. One traffic incident along your route would make for a very, very long drive.
Sorry, I disagree with almost all of this. I've never had an issue with dating in CT. Neither have any of my friends--I don't have ANY friends who are married to their high school sweethearts. They also have all met in Connecticut (with the exception of one couple) My friend who lived in the Groton area from the ages of 23-26 never had an issue either.
If you are open to meeting people--a smile on your face and friendly--you will do just fine in that area, especially at that age (like I previously said!)
I've met many guys in CT, but none of it led to any relationships at all, usually because I'm not interested in them (so many potheads or guys that just have very different interests/personalities that don't mesh). Many of them, I'm also not really attracted to, either. I am always polite, positive and make a good impression when meeting guys and going on dates. But none of them were guys I could really see myself devoting my life to. Many, many guys want to go on more than one date with me, and really like me. But they just don't do it for me. Maybe one guy, but he still bleeps his ex-gf and has a kid. No thanks.
Ask any gay guy in CT and NONE of them will tell you that gay dating in CT is easy. Most gays who grew up in CT have a strong desire to move to Boston, NYC, Florida, Texas or California. It's just a gay dynamic that straight people might not understand. The magnetic effect of a gay mecca.
For example, last week, I met a guy who I REALLY liked, and he liked me, but he was only here visiting for the holidays and then returned to his home in......Boston. Why would any attractive, educated gay guy want to stay in CT? There you have it.
The bars are a colossal waste of time, and are the same faces over and over, and 70% of them smoke, act feminine or are materialistic/superficial, etc. The online thing is a challenge, too. 80% of the guys I contact, won't respond to me. And 80% of the guys that contact me, I don't want to respond to them. But I guess that's normal for everyone.
Also, compared to gay meccas and larger metro areas, most gay men in CT are simply not that attractive, or just downright ugly. It's just a fact of life. Attractive guys gravitate to big cities.
I don't really relate to most gay men. In fact, my best friend is straight, and I enjoy myself more when I chat with my straight friends.
I've met many guys in CT, but none of it led to any relationships at all, usually because I'm not interested in them (so many potheads or guys that just have very different interests/personalities that don't mesh). Many of them, I'm also not really attracted to, either. I am always polite, positive and make a good impression when meeting guys and going on dates. But none of them were guys I could really see myself devoting my life to. Many, many guys want to go on more than one date with me, and really like me. But they just don't do it for me. Maybe one guy, but he still bleeps his ex-gf and has a kid. No thanks.
Ask any gay guy in CT and NONE of them will tell you that gay dating in CT is easy. Most gays who grew up in CT have a strong desire to move to Boston, NYC, Florida, Texas or California. It's just a gay dynamic that straight people might not understand. The magnetic effect of a gay mecca.
For example, last week, I met a guy who I REALLY liked, and he liked me, but he was only here visiting for the holidays and then returned to his home in......Boston. Why would any attractive, educated gay guy want to stay in CT? There you have it.
The bars are a colossal waste of time, and are the same faces over and over, and 70% of them smoke, act feminine or are materialistic/superficial, etc. The online thing is a challenge, too. 80% of the guys I contact, won't respond to me. And 80% of the guys that contact me, I don't want to respond to them. But I guess that's normal for everyone.
Also, compared to gay meccas and larger metro areas, most gay men in CT are simply not that attractive, or just downright ugly. It's just a fact of life. Attractive guys gravitate to big cities.
I don't really relate to most gay men. In fact, my best friend is straight, and I enjoy myself more when I chat with my straight friends.
It's the same with everything, though. You're more likely to find attractive women in the cities as well - it's at least partly due to population density - there are 8 million people in NYC, and the New Haven metro area has what, 1/10 of that? And, the Hartford metro area is 1/7 of NYC? Simple math means that even if the gay population percentage was the same, you'd have 10x more gay men than in New Haven, and 7x more gay men than in Hartford.
That said, the gay men I've worked with over the years that wanted relationships never seemed to have a problem finding local guys to date & get serious with. Maybe things have changed over the last 10-15 years since I paid attention to these things? There were some guys that would head down to NYC just about every weekend to meet men as well... but, those were the guys not really interested in long-term relationships - at least not yet. And, if they wanted a change of pace, they'd go to Provincetown in the summer. So, that would make the ratios from the above paragraph even worse, since some of the gay men from CT would be going to NYC, Boston or P-Town for the weekend.
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