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This is tough and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
We relocated to several different towns in a few different CT metro areas - Fairfield County then greater New Haven, then back to Fairfield County, but a different community. We did a short stint in Northern Virginia near DC, and we now live in Palm Beach County about 45 minutes north of Miami.
In each place we relocated, it was up to us to get out there and meet people. I did so through CrossFit and hockey. My wife did so through her spinning classes and moms Facebook groups. We also went out of our way, in each place we lived, to knock on our neighbors doors and introduce ourselves instead of waiting for them to come to us. With all of the above, we have made some amazing lifelong friends in each place we lived. Our neighbors in Branford just bought a home less than a mile from us here in South Florida, and we couldn’t be more excited about it. We just booked a Greek cruise with our old neighbors in Ridgefield. We were invited to Hawaii with our newish FL neighbors (but couldn’t go for separate reasons).
My point is you cannot sit in your house and be sour grapes over your experiences. Get out there and take the initiative. People [everywhere] like that - it’s not just a Connecticut thing. You cannot wait for people to come to you. They won’t.
Kudos to you. Personally, I don't want any relations with my neighbors whatsoever. I live in an upper middle class, high income, very highly educated, 85% white neighborhood that is overall conservative. A new young couple just bought and moved into the house next door to mine two months ago and we still never met. Today, we were both outside doing yard work and we repeatedly came within 20 feet of each other and I absolutely refused to make any eye contact or acknowledge his existence. I have nothing to gain from introducing myself to them whatsoever. So they bought a house that happens to be next door. Big freaking deal. They seem like the perfect couple and everything in their life is great. I can't stand people like that and refuse to give them the time of day. Plus, they have southern accents and drive nothing but pickup trucks. They're probably millennial right wingers. Smh. I refuse to talk to right wingers. They were only good for causing my home value to surge even more, now that their house is a comp.
I'm just not a people person. I'm not interested in strangers or going to bars or networking or anything of that nature. I am a misanthrope who despises humans in general. I'm 37 now and that's always how I've been and probably how I will always be. Oh well. I am who I am.
I have found it to be the most unfriendly place around. People constantly gossip/talk about others, compete/overly materialistic and so clique. I found making friend in NYC much easier and making friends in CA a ton easier. I gave it a few years. I give up. Haven't met one nice mom through my kid's school yet . I've been honked at and given the finger because my 4 year old took too long at school dropoff to get out of the car his first weeks. And boy do I have some stories--- them drinking at 11am at playgrounds all summer...The constant complaining about their husbands and friends. The jealousy. It has been unreal.
Can anyone else around here relate??
Greenwich/New Canaan to Fairfield/Weston is going be unfriendly when you hit Milford and Shelton they become more down to earth.
Kudos to you. Personally, I don't want any relations with my neighbors whatsoever. I live in an upper middle class, high income, very highly educated, 85% white neighborhood that is overall conservative. A new young couple just bought and moved into the house next door to mine two months ago and we still never met. Today, we were both outside doing yard work and we repeatedly came within 20 feet of each other and I absolutely refused to make any eye contact or acknowledge his existence. I have nothing to gain from introducing myself to them whatsoever. So they bought a house that happens to be next door. Big freaking deal. They seem like the perfect couple and everything in their life is great. I can't stand people like that and refuse to give them the time of day. Plus, they have southern accents and drive nothing but pickup trucks. They're probably millennial right wingers. Smh. I refuse to talk to right wingers. They were only good for causing my home value to surge even more, now that their house is a comp.
I'm just not a people person. I'm not interested in strangers or going to bars or networking or anything of that nature. I am a misanthrope who despises humans in general. I'm 37 now and that's always how I've been and probably how I will always be. Oh well. I am who I am.
Interesting. To each their own. I couldn’t imagine not being friendly with my neighbors.
"Gossiping over a bottle of Rose" They're not kidding
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