[Dslater]

So I have another question to ask I have heard this alot and wanted to hear it from the horses mouth.

Some people say that most areas in CT are filled with commuters from NY who are stuck up?

1, Is this true?

2. Is there a nice small town where the people accept outsiders with out a medical history background check fingerprint etc?

[HeadedWest]

Originally Posted by Dslater

2. Is there a nice small town where the people accept outsiders with out a medical history background check fingerprint etc?

If you find out, let us know.

[LaMadden]

If Danbury is the nicest thing CT has to offer then it's in big trouble. The people don't even make eye contact. My experience, not opinion.

[JViello]

Originally Posted by Dslater

So I have another question to ask I have heard this alot and wanted to hear it from the horses mouth.

Some people say that most areas in CT are filled with commuters from NY who are stuck up?

1, Is this true?

2. Is there a nice small town where the people accept outsiders with out a medical history background check fingerprint etc?

MOST AREAS? No. Not at all.

The SW area? More so on the commute side but not on the "stuck up" side.

CT doesn't have the "where are you from" microscope. The state has had so much population ebb and flow that mindset is all but gone.

[hoppybunn]

I have found through personal experience that Fairfield county has the most "attitude" in terms of the more money you have the better you are in regards to social standings...aka what car you drive what house you live at etc. Northern CT is a LOT more laid back and more spread out in terms of demographics and such. Honestly though, I think a lot of states have this "attitude" problem, and it's not just isolated to CT alone.

[jjbradleynyc]

Originally Posted by Dslater

So I have another question to ask I have heard this alot and wanted to hear it from the horses mouth.

Some people say that most areas in CT are filled with commuters from NY who are stuck up?

1, Is this true?

2. Is there a nice small town where the people accept outsiders with out a medical history background check fingerprint etc?

I think it's a mindset--no matter where you live--it can be found anywhere. I grew up in Church Hill, TN, and there was a very small-minded mentality and it was very unaccepting towards outsiders. Anyone with "money" in the town was always regarded as "better than" others who didn't have the same...the philosphy of even my grandmother was "if you live in a nice brick house and work for Eastman Chemical Co (LOL)" you are "all set folk." Otherwise, you were "poor" in her book...if you were a doctor or business owner, forget it, you were RICH.
Anyway, it's all an educational level, mindset, and attitude. I've known and still do know wealthy people here in CT who are the kindest, coolest, most generous people. On the flipside, I've met some pretty snobby "less than" people.
CT has an image of "snootiness" and "snobbery" that is not true at all. It's all an attitude or mindset, that's all.

[hsw]

"Stuck up"....such a refreshing junior high term...

Seriously, know at least a couple of Asian Americans who grew up in middle-class suburbs in Midwest; attended mediocre public schools; did OK at various decent colleges like Wharton/Harvard; now are reasonably affluent <40yo hedgies in Greenwich....

Perhaps counterintuitively, they tell me they encountered far more "snobbery"/racism/jealousy/pettiness in the allegedly "down to earth" middle-class Midwest than in rarefied Greenwich, despite working in arguably the world's most elite, most lucrative industry....

[njguy]

Originally Posted by jjbradleynyc

I think it's a mindset--no matter where you live--it can be found anywhere. I grew up in Church Hill, TN, and there was a very small-minded mentality and it was very unaccepting towards outsiders. Anyone with "money" in the town was always regarded as "better than" others who didn't have the same...the philosphy of even my grandmother was "if you live in a nice brick house and work for Eastman Chemical Co (LOL)" you are "all set folk." Otherwise, you were "poor" in her book...if you were a doctor or business owner, forget it, you were RICH.
Anyway, it's all an educational level, mindset, and attitude. I've known and still do know wealthy people here in CT who are the kindest, coolest, most generous people. On the flipside, I've met some pretty snobby "less than" people.
CT has an image of "snootiness" and "snobbery" that is not true at all. It's all an attitude or mindset, that's all.

I used this for another thread in the CT forum response, but it also applies here too.

Here is some lyrics which pretty much holds true:

"We all know that people are the same where ever we go
There is good and bad in everyone,
We learn to live, we learn to give
Each other what we need to survive together alive."

Ebony and Ivory - Paul McCartney / Stevie Wonder

[texan2yankee]

I joined this forum after reading it for many months because this question struck me. As a former Texan, I was a bit intimidated by the northern reputation for a condescending attitude towards southerners and dislike for any outsiders when we moved to Connecticut. I loved living in Shippan which is a penisula in Stamford. The people were amazingly open, friendly, and welcoming to us. No pretense, no attitude, no bs.

We sold our house in Shippan 2 years ago and moved back to NYC due to our jobs. We really miss the folks back in Shippan.

[pmeek2309]

Originally Posted by JViello

MOST AREAS? No. Not at all.

The SW area? More so on the commute side but not on the "stuck up" side.

CT doesn't have the "where are you from" microscope. The state has had so much population ebb and flow that mindset is all but gone.

CT doesn't have that ''Im better than you'' attitude. What I've learned is that people here have a ''whatever'' attitude about things. For a state so wealthy, the people here are pretty modest. I appreciate meeting people around town who hold executive positions but drive a Honda and live in a modest home, instead taking their families on beautiful vacations. I have come across many who would prefer to travel and experience new cultures than have a mansion with six bedrooms and a flat panel in every room. Back in Seattle and in NJ, the BMW drivers are those with the most credit card debt and the ones with mansions are the most closed-minded and sheltered. I feel Connecticut's population is extremely modest and feel it goes right along with being open minded and understanding of other cultures and lifestyles.