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I haven't commented on this as I actually don't care about it. Personally think it's stupid. But what I keep thinking when I scroll past is what is that haircut? It's just such a severe bob, not everyone suits geometric cuts and she is one of them.
To those saying he was complimenting the photograph--please. That's the most ridiculous argument I've ever heard. He was not. It was about her appearance, and he shouldn't have made the comment. Period.
An overboard reaction. She could have put him in his place with a sharp retort such as, "Thank you but don't let this pretty face fool you. I am a deadly opponent in the courtroom" and that would have been the end of it.
Women everywhere should understand that men just can't help but notice a beautiful woman and that is an attribute that stays with them their entire lives. Their brains are wired that way--it's the way Nature made them. There is no virtue in throwing out a nasty response to a man when he comments on a woman's beauty. Truly, the smart woman who is blessed with beauty uses her looks to her advantage. The rest of us have to struggle along with whatever other talents and attributes Nature gave us.
Last edited by Seagrape Grove; 09-11-2015 at 06:00 AM..
An overboard reaction. She could have put him in his place with a sharp retort such as, "Thank you but don't let this pretty face fool you. I am a deadly opponent in the courtroom" and that would have been the end of it.
Women everywhere should understand that men just can't help but notice a beautiful woman and that is an attribute that stays with them their entire lives. Their brains are wired that way--it's the way Nature made them. There is no virtue in throwing out a nasty response to a man when he comments on a woman's beauty. Truly, the smart woman who is blessed with beauty uses her looks to her advantage. The rest of us have to struggle along with whatever other talents and attributes Nature gave us.
Nonsense. I work with men every day that manage to NOT comment on women's looks. And not just mine--they manage to not comment on any women we encounter. I take that back--I did have a colleague recently tell me that I looked like I was the one in charge at a meeting. THAT was not about my "looks" but about the way the balance of power was perceived. And that I do not deem inappropriate. It's not that ANY comment is wrong. It's that some are. It wasn't a gendered comment--it was one about how our attire mattered. Next meeting, he showed up in a suit. And I told him that we looked like the team to beat. That's appropriate.
And, honestly, I don't mind if a long-standing colleague compliments my new haircut, or even comments on a color looking nice on me. But if someone I just met in a business-related setting did that? Ooof, totally off-putting.
And to continue to operate on the assumption that this was only her error is silly. But for the fact that HE made an inappropriate, ill-placed comment, she wouldn't have had a reaction that many register as an overreaction. Two wrongs don't make a right, and hindsight being 20/20, she may have been better served with a different tone, but the fact is she found it offensive. And it is her right to do so, as it was an offensive comment. Just because people outside of the situation think she should be grateful that someone found her image attractive doesn't mean she DOES. To let someone make that sort of comment think that it is okay is not right. It is not okay. If there are those out there who are thinking, "What's the big deal? I do that sort of thing all the time & nobody ever told me it was a problem!" It may be a problem. So stop it. Is it a problem for every woman you encounter? No. But it is for some. So, really, stop it.
Nonsense. I work with men every day that manage to NOT comment on women's looks. And not just mine--they manage to not comment on any women we encounter. I take that back--I did have a colleague recently tell me that I looked like I was the one in charge at a meeting. THAT was not about my "looks" but about the way the balance of power was perceived. And that I do not deem inappropriate. It's not that ANY comment is wrong. It's that some are. It wasn't a gendered comment--it was one about how our attire mattered. Next meeting, he showed up in a suit. And I told him that we looked like the team to beat. That's appropriate.
And, honestly, I don't mind if a long-standing colleague compliments my new haircut, or even comments on a color looking nice on me. But if someone I just met in a business-related setting did that? Ooof, totally off-putting.
And to continue to operate on the assumption that this was only her error is silly. But for the fact that HE made an inappropriate, ill-placed comment, she wouldn't have had a reaction that many register as an overreaction. Two wrongs don't make a right, and hindsight being 20/20, she may have been better served with a different tone, but the fact is she found it offensive. And it is her right to do so, as it was an offensive comment. Just because people outside of the situation think she should be grateful that someone found her image attractive doesn't mean she DOES. To let someone make that sort of comment think that it is okay is not right. It is not okay. If there are those out there who are thinking, "What's the big deal? I do that sort of thing all the time & nobody ever told me it was a problem!" It may be a problem. So stop it. Is it a problem for every woman you encounter? No. But it is for some. So, really, stop it.
With all due respect - I don't think you really understood a word I said as you didn't refute a single statement I made and you seem to think I said something I didn't say. I'm not disagreeing with what you said -I was just saying she could have deflected the comment in a professional but pointed manner that let him know he was out of line. While most men are sufficiently well mannered to make few, if any, comments about a woman's appearance in the business world, that doesn't negate or change their primal brain wiring to notice--and mentally assess--a woman's looks, regardless of what situation they are in--which is all I commented on.
Was the guy perving on her inappropriately? Yeah, totally. Does it need to be made into the second Holocaust? No, not at all.
Some people go looking for things to be offended by and to make controversies out of. The internet generation/millenials are hyper-sensitive and exceedingly tactless.
Stunning? She looks like a dude with a wig. A bad one.
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