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You know, they've found a way to kill a woman's sex drive? Wedding cake.
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If you make a mark on the wall every time you have sex in your first year, then take one mark off the wall every time after that, it will take about 3 decades to erase all the marks.
I said "I could" not that I would. I was just expressing an essential trait of the male psyche.....and how the sexes differ in some important behavioral ways. I always make an effort to be "there" in whatever interaction I am involved in, even when I really don't want to be there
What you're talking about has a lot more to do with personality than with inherent gender differences. There are men who'll talk your ear off about nothing and hate to be alone, and there are women who aren't touchy-feely and who need their space. What's important in a relationship is that both people feel like they're getting their needs met while at the same compromising to meet their partner's needs when they differ from their own. Sitcom marriage tropes don't tell the whole story.
All my life I have lived in areas where it seems most people got married in their very late 20s and 30s. Now I am living in a place (temporarily) where it seems most get married (and often have one or two kids) before they are legally able to drink alcohol). I wonder what the difference in divorce rates are.
The dating pool here seems to be dominated by exhausted 30 and 40-something women with 3 or 4 kids.
Fewer marriages would fail if more men used something other than looks to pick out wives and girlfriends. Not really a valuable criteria for a life partner.
Fewer marriages would fail if those women who wanted to be married, didn't care whom to because they would mold him into what they wanted after marriage, would realize that is not a strategy that works. Not ever.
Fewer marriages would fail if more men used something other than looks to pick out wives and girlfriends. Not really a valuable criteria for a life partner.
Fewer marriages would fail if those women who wanted to be married, didn't care whom to because they would mold him into what they wanted after marriage, would realize that is not a strategy that works. Not ever.
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I'd say that both ideologies apply to both sexes equally, and then I'd agree with you.
It would help if women understood that men are less social, less communicative, more solitary & less in need of constant chattering & interaction in general than they are. That does not mean they are ignoring their partners....they just don't require the same emotional stimuli that women crave. Heck....I could go days without saying a word, or interacting with another person & it would not phase me in the least.
Men are your lovers & your friends ladies, but they are not your girlfriends.....they are not built for close, constant, never ending attention & talking. Understand this, and things become easier IMO.
That's not always the case. While my husband never wanted to discuss marital issues, he wasn't happy unless he was going somewhere, doing something, talking to people in person or on the phone. If not, texting. It drove me crazy.
I disagree that men don't need to talk etc. Men are as varied as women are. For example, my father never shut up! And neither did my younger brother, God bless him. (He died earlier this year.)
Perhaps that's why I tend to be quiet. My husband is a quiet soul too, but we seem to manage to have enough deep and lengthy conversations. I guess neither of us is interested in small talk....
If you make a mark on the wall every time you have sex in your first year, then take one mark off the wall every time after that, it will take about 3 decades to erase all the marks.
Gee, hunterseat, that's not a very christian thing to say.
You want to watch a great film about a man having to re-examine everything about his marriage and life in general see "About Schmidt".
Warren Schmidt's realization that his marriage was "over" if not at least what he taught it was is heartbreaking. Since he only learns about this after his wife's demise makes it all the worse.
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