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Julie and Will Rom have been foster parents since 2008.
During that time, they have taken care of kids from 7 different families.
The 5 siblings came to them over a period of three years.
The judge said "I am excited and happy for the Rom family and their future together. They changed 5 siblings lives forever by adopting them into a safe, loving, and caring family. My greatest hope is that the Rom's 5 adoptions will encourage more and more good people to adopt children."
IMO parents that can't handle raising a child properly should be quicker to give them up for adoption. Rather than keeping their children until forced to give them up (because of their bad parenting), because at that point, their children are not as desirable to adopt (being beyond the baby and toddler age).
There are many barren couples out there willing and on waiting lists to adopt babies. The problem is that all the kids in foster homes should have be given up for adoption while they were still babies.
IMO parents that can't handle raising a child properly should be quicker to give them up for adoption. Rather than keeping their children until forced to give them up (because of their bad parenting), because at that point, their children are not as desirable to adopt (being beyond the baby and toddler age).
There are many barren couples out there willing and on waiting lists to adopt babies. The problem is that all the kids in foster homes should have be given up for adoption while they were still babies.
We can't just yank babies away from people because they are poor or in a temporary bad situation, though. And taking babies away from their birth mothers, at birth, often results in RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) which is severe psychological trauma that takes years of expensive therapy to deal with. This is very common in adoptees.
As a former adoptions social worker, I say YES! I love you people! I wish there were SO MANY more of you, and many fewer random procreators. I had many clients who did the same, i.e., adopted sibling groups...beautiful people!
And for those unaware, there is a federal program calle Aid to Adoptive parents (AAP), which provides funding to adoptive parents for the myriad of things these children need, like therapy & specialized medical care. If you want to donate money, that is where it should go, and I mean to public adoption agencies, who work their azzes off for these children.
We can't just yank babies away from people because they are poor or in a temporary bad situation, though. And taking babies away from their birth mothers, at birth, often results in RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) which is severe psychological trauma that takes years of expensive therapy to deal with. This is very common in adoptees.
RAD is more likely to be caused by neglectful or abusive parenting then by placing an infant with parents who meet the needs of the infant. Even if there is one or two disruptions. The earlier the better prognosis there is for the child.
As an adopted person, I would rather end adoption and increase family preservation. We are failing miserably if a family cannot stay together. Love you mom...forever
Being adopted hurts. Being adopted is hard. It is not beautiful; it is brutal, it is tragic, it is a cause for great sadness. For in order for a child to even be available for adoption, that child must first go through some sort of tragedy; whether that be abuse, hunger, homelessness, neglect, or even the simple fact that he or she is losing the life and family he or she was born into. This makes adoption a thing to mourn; not a cause for celebration or joy. To be joyful about adopting a child is to be glad that this tragedy happened. Want To Adopt? Adult Adoptee Support
As an adopted person, I would rather end adoption and increase family preservation. We are failing miserably if a family cannot stay together. Love you mom...forever
Being adopted hurts. Being adopted is hard. It is not beautiful; it is brutal, it is tragic, it is a cause for great sadness. For in order for a child to even be available for adoption, that child must first go through some sort of tragedy; whether that be abuse, hunger, homelessness, neglect, or even the simple fact that he or she is losing the life and family he or she was born into. This makes adoption a thing to mourn; not a cause for celebration or joy. To be joyful about adopting a child is to be glad that this tragedy happened. Want To Adopt? Adult Adoptee Support
I am so sorry your adoption turned out the way it has for you. Life makes no promised to any of us.
I know that the children that I worked with had better lives. I saw it when I was invited to their high school & college graduations, weddings, baby showers.
I am also still in touch with birth parents, some who have pulled their lives together & some who have not, and of that latter group, I dread to think of what would have had happened to those children, had they stayed with the birth parents.
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