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Makes you wonder what happened to them as children?
It does. I know not all abused kids grow up to be abusers themselves, so you really have to wonder what kind of household those 3 were raised in that the 3 of them would find that acceptable behavior even if they weren't part of the abuse and were just aware of what the others were doing.
You are correct. But you could have educated me instead of being snarky about it. :roll eyes:
I was in a mentally abusive relationship though, but as a young adult so I can guess it's similar but multiplied. Stockholm syndrom?
Yes, similar to Stockholm syndrome...but worse. I don't really have the time to educate you on the after effects of sexual abuse, but a quick google search on your part could enlighten you. Or if you are really interested, Amazon has a ton of books, from professional to first hand accounts. I do hope you would be willing to learn. The more people learn about the challenges survivors face, the less stigma they will face (or hide from) when coming forward and the easier it will be for them to heal. Which is a very good thing.
I remember when I was about 7 years old, I was playing at a neighbor boy's house. His elderly neighbor came over to the fence and was trying to coax me into giving him a kiss. He made me very uncomfortable, but at the time it didn't occur to me how sinister his intentions may have been.
You are correct. But you could have educated me instead of being snarky about it. :roll eyes:
Incest survivor here.
It's fairly simple - some of us let what happened to us color the rest of our lives, and some of us (like myself) don't. It also helps to have a support system that SUPPORTS instead of wringing its hands in anguish and saying such BS like the person is "ruined for life," which they are not.
That is the difference between "victim" and "survivor" - the survivors put that sh*t in the rear-view mirror and don't allow it to affect and control the rest of their life.
I've experienced far more strife from the way a certain adult in my life, who I was first intimate with when I was 30 (aka not a child), treated sexual relations with me (he'll cheat on his gf with other women and doesn't even tell the OW that she is in fact an OW) than I ever did from my childhood experiences.
Unfortunately, 'back in the day' it was quite common for inter-family sexual abuse to be swept under the rug. It was never talked about, let alone reported, because it was more important not to bring 'shame' on the family than it was to fix the problem. Not necessarily blaming the child/family victims in this case, but somebody probably had suspicions and did nothing. Had they done so, these brothers may have had their opportunity to offend severely limited over the years. Don't kid yourself, there may be no smoking gun evidence in this case, but you can bet these 3 guys committed many, many molestations over the years. Those crimes and their victims could have been lessened or avoided had society not kept their heads in the sand back then. So much for the 'good old days'.
Unfortunately, 'back in the day' it was quite common for inter-family sexual abuse to be swept under the rug. It was never talked about, let alone reported, because it was more important not to bring 'shame' on the family than it was to fix the problem. Not necessarily blaming the child/family victims in this case, but somebody probably had suspicions and did nothing. Had they done so, these brothers may have had their opportunity to offend severely limited over the years. Don't kid yourself, there may be no smoking gun evidence in this case, but you can bet these 3 guys committed many, many molestations over the years. Those crimes and their victims could have been lessened or avoided had society not kept their heads in the sand back then. So much for the 'good old days'.
Yup, same reason people didn't step into husband-wife disputes back in the day, because #1 "it's between them," and #2 she was considered to be his property anyway.
There's a lot of weird stuff you hear about that happened 50-60+ years ago that really spooks me out when I read about it, because of all the folks trying to portray it as such a bucolic time where everyone behaved, everyone was a virgin until marriage, and life was Skittles and beer. It may have been for some, but certainly not all.
Beyond awful. Whenever I read stories like this in the media, that's when I wish there were a real Hell for evil people like this to burn in for an eternity.
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