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My wife and I had three children - twins, and then another born couple years later. It was a lot of effort providing the amount of attention three children need, despite the fact that all three were relatively easy-to-raise, drama-free kids. But... more than 4x as many children?
Sorry, when you have that many kids - or, hell, even half that many - there just isn't enough time in a day to go around, and those children and not going to receive the individual attention all developing children and young adults need.
It's just irresponsible on multiple levels.
Total BS. Having giant families will certainly teach kids how to care for each other and share, which it very valuable in their future. Hardly "irresponsible". What an odd way of looking at things.
My wife and I had three children - twins, and then another born couple years later. It was a lot of effort providing the amount of attention three children need, despite the fact that all three were relatively easy-to-raise, drama-free kids. But... more than 4x as many children?
Sorry, when you have that many kids - or, hell, even half that many - there just isn't enough time in a day to go around, and those children and not going to receive the individual attention all developing children and young adults need.
It's just irresponsible on multiple levels.
Just my opinion, but, how many children people have is not only none of my business, but, the question if it is responsible or irresponsible is certainly not my business. If the day comes that they are asking me to support them, that is a different story.
My wife and I had three children - twins, and then another born couple years later. It was a lot of effort providing the amount of attention three children need, despite the fact that all three were relatively easy-to-raise, drama-free kids. But... more than 4x as many children?
Sorry, when you have that many kids - or, hell, even half that many - there just isn't enough time in a day to go around, and those children and not going to receive the individual attention all developing children and young adults need.
It's just irresponsible on multiple levels.
My mom came from a family of 8 (6 girls, 2 boys). The older ones had to help with the younger ones of course because 2 parents can't possibly give enough attention to all. This was in the 50's when big families of 6 or more children were common. My mom said most of the time my grandmother didn't have a clue how my mother was doing in school, let alone even ask her how her day was and if she needed any help with homework. She said once you turned about 5 you were basically in your own. I have also personally witnessed some of my Aunts and Uncles that went through addictions and depression due to the lack of attention they received growing up. They have spoke about this openly.
Now don't get me wrong, I love kids and I have 2 girls. I would have had another, but it wasn't in the cards for me. However, I'm a firm believer in don't have more than you can handle and afford! There is NO WAY a mother and father can personally give each one of those 13 children their undivided attention! Not possible! Children need the love an guidance of their mother, not an older sibling.
I also agree that it's none of my business what others do and as long as they love their children then God Bless them! The above was just my personal opinion and experience on the matter.
Honestly, do the parents or even brothers forget each others names at times? Has to be a common occurrence at some point, no?
Is it common for you to forget the names of your friends, co-workers, or neighbors?
I am the 2nd of 8 and never forgot any of my brothers and sisters names. I know three families that all had 12 kids and I knew all of them and never forgot their names.
My wife's mom is from a family of 14 kids. We have a large family and I can even remember everyone's name.
Of course then their is George Foreman. All the boys are named George and all the girls are named Georgina.
i shared a house once when I was single with two other single women. One of the roommates was one of 17 children (20 births, 17 lived); and the other roommate was one of 16 children (22 born, 16 lived). This was recent about 10 years ago, the young women were in their late 20s. They said they felt very sorry for me having only 1 brother. They kept saying "Didn't you feel lonely all the time? Who did you talk to? Didn't you get bored with nobody around and nothing to do? That's so sad." It was pretty funny. I always thought large families were a thing of the past.
Growing up I had a close friend that was an only child. In fact it was just him and his dad. They lived at the beach in a beautiful home that was a lot larger than my parents home. I loved going over there.
My parents had 8 kids. Always something going on at my home. It was a never ending event. My friend that was an only child? He loved coming over to our home. He liked having lots of people around. He loved being around a big family.
He married when he was 23 and him and his wife have 7 kids. Guess he was not kidding when he said he liked being around a big family.
I have to wonder what is the thinking (if there is any thinking) behind such huge families?
It seems crazy to me, on so many levels. Not the least of which---overpopulation.
Inaccurate.
The US birth rate hit a historic low last year. 1.84 births per woman.
Nearly half the world lives at below replacement-level countries.
Fertility has declined except in Sub-Sahara Africa.
Global total fertility is projected to decline to 2.4 children per woman by 2030 and 2.2 children per woman by 2050.
In Africa, fertility is projected to decline to 3.9 children per woman by 2030 and 3.1 children per woman by 2050. Fertility declines in all other regions are projected to be much more modest. Africa has the highest adolescent birth rate but it's declining.
Each woman in the world is replacing herself with just over one surviving daughter on average.
So insulting, too, to mock the family as "if there is any thinking" when they're happy, productive and not costing YOU any money.
I don't approve of people having that many kids and if you dare to be on govt assistance then I'm appalled by these people. You do not need that many kids. What the eff is wrong with these people?
I have to wonder what is the thinking (if there is any thinking) behind such huge families?
It seems crazy to me, on so many levels. Not the least of which---overpopulation.
I'm thinking the same way, glad my parents stopped at 3. I remember when the Duggers had their 19th, millions were spent on that child. Who absorbed those millions. The mother was very ill too.
I did my share, replaced myself, one child is fine in my life. I've spent many a day/night in worry for that child and to worry about 13+ omg....
Last edited by jaminhealth; 02-06-2018 at 10:32 AM..
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