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Maybe I've done too many lovingkindness meditations and I'm living in LalaLand with too much empathy and compassion for someone who does stuff I wouldn't do (eat at GC, wear clothing that is too tight by most people's standards, and possibly reveal more than anyone wants to see, whether it's butt cheeks or cleavage or actual boobs). But I'm pretty sure this woman's intention wasn't to flash her boobs or offend anyone for not having a perfect body. Should she have been more mindful that she could spill out of her top? Yup, ideally, the same way people should be more mindful of possible problems and malfunctions from any of their activities, like driving or even walking while distracted on a cell phone. But we all have our flaws and our short attention spans and our egos/desires that don't always lead to thinking and behaving mindful
Perhaps her husband likes bigger women and encouraged her to dress like this. Maybe she just thinks the outfit was cute and didn't want to wait until she lost x number of pounds to wear it. Don't forget this woman is all of 25 years old. She sees her peers wearing similar stuff and she wants to wear it as well. It's not going to win her any fashion awards. Not going to lead to any modeling contracts. But she wanted to wear what she wanted to wear, just as she has dyed her hair purple and got that tattoo.
I don't think her goal was to reveal her boobs or entice anyone with her sexuality, because except for some men (or women) or have preferences/fetishes for large women, she has been thoroughly indoctrinated to not think of herself as a desirable woman. I don't think she was even trying to make a feminist political statement that women shouldn't be ashamed of their bodies, regardless of type. She isn't that Belgian model who walked naked through the streets of Hasidic Brooklyn for a photo shoot. She just chose that outfit, the same way so many women choose outfits that they think are sexy for Halloween. Okay, so it's not Halloween. And not a costume party. But in June, she opted for wearing something that made her feel good...and of course she never stopped to think that she would ruin anyone's appetite or be the canary in the goldmine to show the decline of Western civilization. She either didn't think anyone would be looking at her or if they did, she hoped they would find her and her outfit cute (or at least not be judgemental about it).
If she and her family were observing proper etiquette at the buffet (using spoons, not coughing or sneezing over the food, not having the kid run around while people were carrying trays of food back to their tables) I could care less what she wore, especially since I'm convinced she wasn't trying to offend. I do think that Janet Jackson's wardrobe malfunction could have been planned for the publicity of the shock value, but we all survived that Nipplegate and can survive this as well.
Last edited by jazzcat22; 06-11-2019 at 01:23 PM..
Maybe I've done too many lovingkindness meditations and I'm living in LalaLand with too much empathy and compassion for someone who does stuff I wouldn't do (eat at GC, wear clothing that is too tight by most people's standards, and possibly reveal more than anyone wants to see, whether it's butt cheeks or cleavage or actual boobs). But I'm pretty sure this woman's intention wasn't to flash her boobs or offend anyone for not having a perfect body. Should she have been more mindful that she could spill out of her top? Yup, ideally, the same way people should be more mindful of possible problems and malfunctions from any of their activities, like driving or even walking while distracted on a cell phone. But we all have our flaws and our short attention spans and our egos/desires that don't always lead to thinking and behaving mindful
Perhaps her husband likes bigger women and encouraged her to dress like this. Maybe she just thinks the outfit was cute and didn't want to wait until she lost x number of pounds to wear it. Don't forget this woman is all of 25 years old. She sees her peers wearing similar stuff and she wants to wear it as well. It's not going to win her any fashion awards. Not going to lead to any modeling contracts. But she wanted to wear what she wanted to wear, just as she has dyed her hair purple and going that tattoo.
I don't think her goal was to reveal her boobs or entice anyone with her sexuality, because except for some men (or women) or have preferences/fetishes for large women, she has been thoroughly indoctrinated to not think of herself as a desirable woman. I don't think she was even trying to make a feminist political statement that women shouldn't be ashamed of their bodies, regardless of type. She isn't that Belgian model who walked naked through the streets of Hasidic Brooklyn for a photo shoot. She just chose that outfit, the same way so many women choose outfits that they think are sexy for Halloween. Okay, so it's not Halloween. And not a costume party. But in June, she opted for wearing something that made her feel good...and of course she never stopped to think that she would ruin anyone's appetite or be the canary in the goldmine to show the decline of Western civilization. She either didn't think anyone would be looking at her or if they did, she hoped they would find her and her outfit cute (or at least not be judgemental about it).
If she and her family were observing proper etiquette at the buffet (using spoons, not coughing or sneezing over the food, not having the kid run around while people were carrying trays of food back to their tables) I could care less what she wore, especially since I'm convinced she wasn't trying to offend. I do think that Janet Jackson's wardrobe malfunction could have been planned for the publicity of the shock value, but we all survived that Nipplegate and can survive this as well.
This is a refreshingly compassionate POV.
By the way, her husband encouraged her to wear the top, and she did, up until the point they asked her to leave, think that the top looked cute on her.
Yeah... Not something I would choose to wear. But, so what? If you don't like her appearance... it's simple... just don't look at her. MYOB.
Where do you get this “MYOB?” thing. It’s a forum, a place to express ideas and opinions.
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